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RE: Drama? - 9/30/2007 10:48:18 AM   
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RE: Drama? - 9/30/2007 11:01:24 AM   
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Sorry FullCircle, that was directed to me but I don't understand what you are trying to say. Aside from the fact that I posted several questions.


It wasn't directed at you. Your name was just the closest to click on. I admit I'm a lazy bugger.

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RE: Drama? - 9/30/2007 11:10:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		Spanklette,
i've had an ovarian cyst rupture. It HURTS! And i think it was totally appropriate for you to go to ER. It could have been a ruptured tubal pregnancy, which is lethal if not treated ASAP. And i know how those meds make you feel. But what else was there to do? If you've go to go to the bathroom, you're gonna go, it's not something you would necessarily mull over for a while, you know?

As far as drama, yes, i know some people that live for drama. Frankly i can't stand it and i distance myself. i used to get sucked into it a lot more easily- wanting to help, and not understanding why they never made any changes. i finally realized they want to live the way they do, for whatever reason- the attention i guess.

i wouldn't label anything about your particular situation dramatic.

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RE: Drama? - 9/30/2007 11:49:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		 Really - hope you feel better soon! 

( and it doesn't appear that you did anything on purpose - just maybe you are reading into too much into your situation )
WAIT --- Although, I did win some pitiful points with Daddy.      ?????


  

note to any other: these boards have posts made into blocks of individual sections - each individual is defined.
So - in essense - "it is all about ---"   Every man is an island.

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RE: Drama? - 9/30/2007 12:03:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		yes- some people thrive on chaos and hanging with them one risks being entangled in a merry-go-round of nonsense and negative energy.

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RE: Drama? - 9/30/2007 12:14:37 PM   
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RE: Drama? - 9/30/2007 2:33:51 PM   
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I guess the point of my original post was I could see how it was arguably my fault and brought extra attention...but it was the sort of attention that I'm not going for. In other words, it's not something that I would repeat given the chance, but I do know others who would...and bask in the glow of all of the attention received...me, I just felt kind of dumb.
 
The situation made me ask the question about the motivation of people who seem to have drama all of the time...the kind of drama that makes them seem to be bad decision makers or have no common sense.
 
If you would like to call my motives into question, that's fine. Really. I'm aware that the past is the past and there's not anything I can do to go back and change it. Calling motives into question was really the point of my post...I just didn't expect them to be mine. But, if it answers my question then, if that's what works!
 
I'm not given to dramatics, generally...but I do feel like I finally understand what the people who are at the eye of the storm feel like. I certainly wouldn't want to be one of them constantly.
 
Of course, there are many situations which garner this type of attention...and what we see here on the boards is relationship issues. I was right to think that the people here on the boards have quite an understanding about motivations.

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RE: Drama? - 9/30/2007 3:12:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am a drama magnet. I would like to leave it at that, but the truth is that I probably bring it upon myself. When it happens, it just happens to me, but in the end it was always my decisions that got me to where I am.

Phoenix and I had a girlfriend for about a month in December and start of January. Two days ago she had a baby, and until I get the nurses to verify her conception date I had to wonder if I was the father. Not so much drama to a lot of people, but add in that she was supposed to have left her boyfriend and didn't, and you get another level. He has no idea that she was with us for that time, and they worked out their problems. Now until I had confirmed she got pregnant a full 14 days after our last encounter, I had to decide if I was going to tell her boyfriend that he may not be the father. 

My intentions were good. First I was trying to give a young lady a loving life, and was the first person to cuddle with her. She was on birth control, and we were all happy. Then after she left my intentions were good, because we stayed friends, and I still love her dearly, our life just was not for her. Then my intentions were good. If it was my baby then another man should not have that responsibility forced on him for the rest of his life. I need to take responsibility for my actions, and making a baby means I need to be a father to the kid. Now my intentions are good, because I am keeping my mouth shut about her indiscretions with us, in order to not ruin their relationship.

Is that attracting drama? Maybe, but in the end it was my actions that led to the chaos that ensued. This is not BY FAR the most drama I have ever attracted in my life. I always have good intentions, but it still happens to me, and in the end it is always my decisions that made it happen, regardless of my intentions at the time.
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RE: Drama? - 9/30/2007 9:57:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		I hate to add to your drama, Ki, but having been an OB nurse for 15 years, I can tell you that trying to play "Who's the Baby's Daddy?" by using date of last period, date of last intercourse, guesstimated date of ovulation/conception, is no more accurate than a coin toss, if there was more than one person shaking the apple tree within a month of conception. All of those dates just vary by too much. The only way to know is by a paternity test.

If you want to know for sure, you and the mom can coordinate a test privately, through a lab. The results will be confidential. If the baby is his, then you can rest with a good conscience, and she will not feel the guilt of possibly deceiving him. If the baby is yours, then you and she can work out what to do about it. What she tells him is on her, though, I'd think.

Anyway, good luck to all of you.

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RE: Drama? - 9/30/2007 10:45:36 PM   
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General reply to the thread.

I hope you heal soon, Spanklette, and I am glad you received / are receiving proper medical attention to take care of it.

Drama is not what happens to you, drama is how you respond to it.

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RE: Drama? - 10/1/2007 5:42:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		Dear Spanklette, I actually thought Came4U was joking with the post. So look at it that way.

And yes, my mother sought out drama for a lifetime. yet she'll never see it that way. Thru her I learned to shun the spotlight. She caused a lot of damage to her family thru her needieness.

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RE: Drama? - 10/1/2007 5:57:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: spanklette

We've all met people or have people in our lives that have catastrophes or "drama" every other second. Do you think this is something that they bring on themselves with poor decision making or are they just natural magnets for various issues? Is it something that makes those folks feel more important, or just victimized?



I read about a psychology experiment on this very issue some time ago. People went through psychological tests, both mental and practical and then they were monitored over a period of time. I think it was over a five year period if my memory serves me well. Optimists faired better than pessimists in every category, including not having as many accidents or illnesses caused by situations that didn't appear to be within the individual's influence. The conclusion seemed to suggest, on the whole, we make our own luck and bad luck for that matter.

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RE: Drama? - 10/1/2007 9:19:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		That sounds like a really interesting study...and just what I was getting at. I guess it does come down to the way you respond to life, or just the way you look at it.

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RE: Drama? - 10/2/2007 1:35:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		Problems are different from drama, and, in general, I have no problem with more dramatic sorts once I recognize them for what they are so I don't misinterpret them.

Strictly speaking, a dramatic kind of person likes to tell a good story and might exaggerate or otherwise distort events in the telling of the story.  Its as much a performance as it is the simple narration of events for the conveying of basic information.  I'm sure there's cultural differences in this, and buttoned down waspy types are the least likely to improve upon events as they are telling about them.  I grew up in an italian family and they were all pretty good with the drama.  Nothing was ever so insignificant or mundane that it wasn't worth a long drawn out story, or even a heated argument.  I was never so good with story telling being very shy and self conscious, but that doesn't mean I don't appreciate it.  Narrative is what holds communities together...its pretty much universal and even in a little community like a family, Aunty's big toe is worth talking about. 

So long as the stories aren't taken to be factual information, and the teller doesn't expect people to take action based on their stories alone, I think there's more good than harm in story telling.  The sorts of people who always have something going on are pretty interesting and tend to live life fully even if it means things can get pretty complicated. 

Of course, some people are more dysfunctional than others, and others are so functional, they're nuts.  It all depends on how things work themselves out but that's independant of how dramatic someone is. 





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