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RE: Approaches that mostly do not work.. - 9/30/2007 1:43:13 PM

Missokyst

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LOL wow. I didn't think my email to anyone held much weight. The "gentleman" finally opened my email.. called me a loser.. or looser, and killed his account in case I wanted to respond, I guess.
Kyst

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RE: Approaches that mostly do not work.. - 9/30/2007 1:51:14 PM

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I know its not PC to quote someones email, but I figured there was no other way to demonstrate this. I have been very careful to leave out any trace of a name and cut the email short.

I have two profiles here. This one I use for posting, and the other I opened up for occasional chat. This one has my group leader info, the other is very brief, with no profile, and 3 journal entries. The first entry responds to the many emails I recieved on my first day, as "new meat". The second acknowleges how the email has slowed to a crawl now that I am no longer new. And the third is a small remark about please no married men.

So.. I get this email from a guy who has written to me in both my CM names. When he wrote to me in this name, wanting to meet, I told him I would since as a potential group member, I must meet him before he attends any of our events. He never wrote back.

He has sent me three emails to the chat name. One was just a "hi", that I routinely ignore. The second was a request for a pic, mine for his, which I tend to ignore. Then today he sent me a doozy that just hit all my buttons. I HAD to respond to that one. LOL darn that impulse control problem!

Enclosed below is a small portion:

i have read ur profile and thought over it at length,i wrote u,,guess u felt i was out hitting up a newbie,,not the case,,just seeking new adventurs while in search of the 1 who can deman my full atention. actually to any true dom some of ur remarks are insulting,,u feel as u wish but i am telling u the truth. i am a doms dom sweetie,and since u want to discribe what u think of others allow me to do the same,,,,i would guess ur very unsure of urself because anyone with any self respect would fear nothing once deciding to go down this path,,,

Ok.. why would anyone find that appealing? I am not (always) a spelling junkie, but for petes sake, be somewhat literate! My few journal entries must indicate I am relatively intelligent. Frankly, his emails to this name are what caused me to keep my contact with him only as a list owner.

First contact sets up how people view you in the future. Is that sort of contact ever successful? What are your pet peeves and what gets you feeling the need to respond if you are not apt to answer anyone who emails you?
Kyst

wow...words cannot describe....what a idiot

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RE: Approaches that mostly do not work.. - 9/30/2007 2:34:25 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: xoxi

omg wyndchymes - *please* tell me that was a form letter! It's somehow less creepy if I know he didn't write tha especially for me.

LOL, I ddn't realize it was a form letter until I saw your posts in here. Maybe I've been around here too long, but my initial reaction was just to roll my eyes. Stuff like that just doesn't phaze me anymore. But, I was in "that" kind of mood last night, so I wrote back, "And you sent this to me....why?" He actually wrote back, "Why not?" lol

If you got him alone in a room and said "Boo!" to him, he'd probably wet his pants. I figure he was just indulging in a big wanking fantasy, and sent out a mass mailing, hoping for someone to play along. Nothing to fear!

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RE: Approaches that mostly do not work.. - 9/30/2007 3:34:50 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst
What are your pet peeves and what gets you feeling the need to respond if you are not apt to answer anyone who emails you?
Kyst

My major peeve.....
1. a text message which says I love you from spmeonewho hasn't met me yet, especially as it arrives when i am picking the kids up from school......
2. sub males in bonds who say can you just wait a moment the door bell is ringing whilst chatting to me on msn
3. narcissists who believe the world evolves around the size of their dicks
4. fisting without latex gloves and or lube
5. any reference to no 4 on a first date
6. contracts either with or without spelling mistakes
7. abbreviations like CU ltr or got any goss? or ur gr9t or luv ur rs as i think it is probably my teenagers scamming me

what gets my need to respond?
canadian vampires or English amputees or Jack Rinella or some switch I haven't heard from in nearly a year and trying to figure out what mode (s)he is in

< Message edited by Prinsexx -- 9/30/2007 3:36:05 PM >

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RE: Approaches that mostly do not work.. - 9/30/2007 4:49:30 PM

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Good grief, now the ladies are comparing their letters from us guys. Now we will have to write a separate letter to each one. We will have to put the time and effort into actually reading their profiles. What is this going to lead to?

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RE: Approaches that mostly do not work.. - 9/30/2007 4:59:52 PM

Missokyst

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Thought?

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ORIGINAL: MidMichCowboy

Good grief, now the ladies are comparing their letters from us guys. Now we will have to write a separate letter to each one. We will have to put the time and effort into actually reading their profiles. What is this going to lead to?

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RE: Approaches that mostly do not work.. - 9/30/2007 5:09:32 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Thought?

quote:

ORIGINAL: MidMichCowboy

Good grief, now the ladies are comparing their letters from us guys. Now we will have to write a separate letter to each one. We will have to put the time and effort into actually reading their profiles. What is this going to lead to?

Obviously no good can come of this.

-DR

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RE: Approaches that mostly do not work.. - 9/30/2007 6:27:16 PM

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~~fast reply~~

i honestly dont care for mis-spelling, or shortcuts, or netspeak....but if i hadnt ignored those habits and responded to that first message, i wouldnt be with Sir now. his spelling isnt...and he uses strange shortcuts at times, but i know how smart he really is, and am content although i will occasionally roll my eyes at his messages.

kitten, who adores seeing "Daddy lovs" at the end of each email

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RE: Approaches that mostly do not work.. - 9/30/2007 7:01:32 PM

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I would qualify this email I received today as an approach that would not work...

are you in need of money? i ask because you are so pretty........i would be happy to pay you some money to play with me. i don't mean to insult you, it's just that i'm married and can't offer a relationship. would you be interested in chatting a bit on yahoo or aol and getting to know one another?

After this email, one filled with spelling mistakes might be looking good now!

Elena

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RE: Approaches that mostly do not work.. - 9/30/2007 7:19:54 PM

Missokyst

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OMG.. LOL geez, I guess his town doesn't have for hire girls. You are pretty though.
Kyst

quote:

ORIGINAL: SubtleDifference

I would qualify this email I received today as an approach that would not work...

are you in need of money? i ask because you are so pretty........i would be happy to pay you some money to play with me. i don't mean to insult you, it's just that i'm married and can't offer a relationship. would you be interested in chatting a bit on yahoo or aol and getting to know one another?

After this email, one filled with spelling mistakes might be looking good now!

Elena

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RE: Approaches that mostly do not work.. - 9/30/2007 7:20:36 PM

DiurnalVampire

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Another approach that really raises my hackles is when someone starts their introductory letter with "I read and really enjoyed your profile" and then goes on to prove very clearly that they havent actually read a word of it.
My profile states, on top AND on the bottom, that I am looking for nothing more than conversation. My journal says it several times as well.
Now, those who write to me and tell me how much they loved my profile and then how they believe they are everything I am looking for have already shown themselves. At least they save me the time of responding and having to figure out later than they dont actually know anything about what I want.

DV

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RE: Approaches that mostly do not work.. - 9/30/2007 7:35:51 PM

SubtleDifference

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

OMG.. LOL geez, I guess his town doesn't have for hire girls. You are pretty though.
Kyst

Considering this guy is few states west from me, can you imagine how many women he used this approach to get to this end of the east coast?

Thanks for compliment. But you know you'll have to pay me, right? ~wink~

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RE: Approaches that mostly do not work.. - 9/30/2007 8:25:32 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SubtleDifference

I would qualify this email I received today as an approach that would not work...

are you in need of money? i ask because you are so pretty........i would be happy to pay you some money to play with me. i don't mean to insult you, it's just that i'm married and can't offer a relationship. would you be interested in chatting a bit on yahoo or aol and getting to know one another?

After this email, one filled with spelling mistakes might be looking good now!

Elena

Tell him yeah, send me the money now and then we can chat

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RE: Approaches that mostly do not work.. - 9/30/2007 8:34:08 PM

DiurnalVampire

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Only ever so slightly off-topic
Would a really bad pickup line perhaps be a better one if it were to a fetishist?
For instance... and no names will be used to protect the ignorant, but I recieved an email today that read

Nice boots, wanna fuck? I have a big foot fetish.

*raises eyebrows* So, if a foot lover female gets this, is this then an appealing letter?

DV

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RE: Approaches that mostly do not work.. - 10/1/2007 2:50:59 AM

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I will defend sloppy spellers, puncuators who use commas with lethal force, and setence-fragmentors who just like to hear a good paragraph scream.

If you look at most first drafts of novels, scripts, short stories...something of a hobby of mine to collect, the spelling in the published author community is enough to make most of you write them all off as non communicative morons. Of course then you shell out 14.95 for the finished product..which is proof again the world needs english majors, somebody without talent has to edit.

Second of all, judging spelling of the english language is like trying to figure out a bastard's birth certificate. I won't do teh whole history of the language rant, it runs several pages and while amusing I'm not sure I can spell that many words in a row rightly (just to see who drops dead) 'nuff to be understood.

the we come to Mr. Webster.

Why is that sex-driven folks, are willing, happily willing to follow a fundy preacher who also had rather interesting thigns to say over 'the witch's teat' (that's your clit little girls for those of you playing the home game) and its removal helps the average man to a pios existence....but then ya'll get on the bus about I before E except after...

it'd be like if Jerry Falwell wrote a grammar book and in three generations your grandkids were stickign to it like it like he was an old testament prophet and they were not wearing asbestos underwear.

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RE: Approaches that mostly do not work.. - 10/1/2007 3:13:11 AM

InkedMaster

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eye four won, finde it uhpawlin peeple ka'nt speel, eye meen reely, do bak too skool!!!!!!

ps. how do eye getz speel ckeker, noy thatz eye reelie ned it, butt u nose, juzt in case?

pss. huked on pahonex wurkd fer me, itl'l wurk 4u2!!!

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RE: Approaches that mostly do not work.. - 10/1/2007 8:35:51 AM

LordVelvet

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Inked- That almost killed Me.

I have received emails for different woman on the site whom I have never spoken with who have blasted Me for things, just odd. I have spoken to men and woman when I have had questions, I try to find someone whom I think would have an answer. I have never failed to get what I needed from that person.
LordVelvet

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RE: Approaches that mostly do not work.. - 10/1/2007 8:53:11 AM

Perplex

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quote:

ORIGINAL: InkedMaster

eye four won, finde it uhpawlin peeple ka'nt speel, eye meen reely, do bak too skool!!!!!!

ps. how do eye getz speel ckeker, noy thatz eye reelie ned it, butt u nose, juzt in case?

pss. huked on pahonex wurkd fer me, itl'l wurk 4u2!!!

I loved this!
There is a difference though between an acceptable range of forumlas for spelling to be understood and being incomprehensible.

I would ask all the little Grammar-philes, you look down on misspelling but did you ever think the last time you picked up a caculator to do basic math, that maybe you missed something somewhere along the line too?

and like anything else, in order to 'get' to break the rules, you need to know what the rules are first, how to apply them and know when and when not to press your luck with the karmanic-puncuation gods. A job application is a great example, showing how creative or rebelious you are is not the best place to start

most of us would never consider it a crime to call azure, simply blue, or crimson simply red, ...now there are exceptions to this, but I'm convinced there are exceptions to the 'don't lick electrical outlet's' rule too...now nobody gets bent out of shape by misnaming colors, as long as you're within the ballpark, but god help you if you transpose an I and E, forget a silent N or try to stuff a "SH" in any word ending sounding like attention, direction or corrections.

btw, I never expect to win this debate, it's just my line in the sand of refusing to give into a herd mindset.

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RE: Approaches that mostly do not work.. - 10/1/2007 9:30:08 AM

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This one i can definitely agree with .. I too have received emails of this type and can't help wondering what they think 'read my profile' really means .. just the one liner at the beginning and checking out the profile picture? I do say i'm not seeking anyone at this time and definitely don't want an LTR yet i get emails from guys all over, as well as outside, the country who either expect some type of relationship or want to use me 'when they visit my city'. i don't mind chatting with these men, assuming they show some sign of intelligence on their first email, but i don't 'play' online and have no desire to be an 'on call slut' to the wannabe dom's who 'visit the area often'.

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RE: Approaches that mostly do not work.. - 10/1/2007 9:57:25 AM

wetsub4u

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Inked - you've really nailed it on the head! i couldn't help but laugh when i read this .. it sounds like a few emails i have received. More than making me say 'WTF?!?!?!' .. they're hard to decipher .. how do you respond to somethng you can't even fully figure out what they're trying to say? They might as well be writing in ancient Egyptian! Definitely get trashed without the thought of a reply!

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