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slaveluci -> RE: tested by your Dom (9/30/2007 3:30:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: happypervert quote: He is working with a mentor who decides how i should be tested. This is cute! Your "dom" is being dommed by someone who decides what you should do. Why don't you just cut out the middleman? Happypervert, You beat me to it[:)]. This is only MY opinion, but I could have no respect for a "dom" who couldn't dom without being told just what to do by another "dom." WTF? He wants to "dom" me but doesn't have a clue and must be told how to by someone else? Why wouldn't I, as you suggested, just let the third guy "dom" me instead of the clueless dude in the middle? Well, for me personally, I wouldn't have any thing to do with either one of the geniuses. If the OP wishes to give herself over to someone who is that inept, more power to her. She's gonna need all the luck she can get.............luci

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: tested by your Dom (9/30/2007 3:54:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: serisa hi i am in my first relationship with my Dom. He is working with a mentor who decides how i should be tested. major red flag for me. if an inexperience dom is being mentored then he shouldn't be taking on a submissive/slave quote: does anyone have this similar sort testing? nope - Daddy doesn't need to test me and/or reactions. He took the time and effort to know every intimate detail of me before moving into our current relationship. quote: how bad does it actually get? how many chances do you get? good question - you're the one in this situation ...and the only person to answer it along with the other two men involved. i guess until your "dom" graduates from Dom U quote: this has been going on for months now and i have no idea how long its supposed to go on for. what happens at the end (collar?!) he hasnt explained all this. another major red flag for me - there's definitely no communication between the 3 of you as to what is to be expected while your "dom" learns how to be a dom. laziness all around including you - you need to start asking questions not just sit there wondering what's at the end of your trial by fire training (which is to me is a stupid thing to put yourself through for these men). quote: any tips getting thru it? instead feeling safe and secure i keep dreading whats coming next and what happens if 'i dont make the grade?'. is the relationship over? only you can decide what happens next. if this was me - i would run as fast as i can.

spanklette -> RE: tested by your Dom (9/30/2007 4:03:11 PM)
In my opinion, relationship/commitment tests shouldn't be fabricated. Daddy and I had our own commitment test that wasn't fabricated...1 line you're not pregnant, 2.... We both passed! Yay! A+++ And, a big deep breath when just one line appeared. These are the types of commitment tests that you should expect, not a litany of made up exams. He is just as respinsible to be committed to you as you are to him...I wonder if he's failing his own tests. In my opinion, he's certainly failed in my eyes. I suppose I really don't understand the need for arbitrary tests, especially involving the lack of common courtesy on his part. I expect that a Dominant partner will make mistakes, but not plan them on purpose. Is he worth this to you?

SayaNereida -> RE: tested by your Dom (9/30/2007 4:16:04 PM)
<... my Dom. He is working with a mentor who decides how i should be tested. .... > and then you say <...he said he has undergone this heavy testing with other subs but none have got this far b4 (i think he means they couldnt handle the pressure and ended it) ...> If he has done this with other subs, why does he need a mentor to tell him to do it with you? How many subs? Was the mentor 'helping' with them too? How long has he been under the wings of another? Why? Will he still require a mentor once you have 'passed' all his tests? What has caused him to feel testing is needed? Is this behavior and testing you would accept in any other relationship? Saya

subscapejunkee -> RE: tested by your Dom (9/30/2007 5:27:42 PM)
Early in our relationship, my Dom did this one time (though not with the danger factor of leaving a door unlocked all night). He told he MIGHT come over and to be prepared. I called him late that night and left a voicemail -- something I rarely do -- and he called back to assert his domination by phone, for which I was thankful, and said he'd be here first thing in the morning. He showed up as promised, but I was such a wreck having been in such a prolonged state of arousal that he recognized what he did was not good for my emtional state. He's never done that again. I suspected it was a test at the time. I guess I passed. But so did he, by never doing that to me again.

slaveluci -> RE: tested by your Dom (9/30/2007 5:33:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subscapejunkee he called back to assert his domination by phone May I ask how he did this? Just found this an intriguing phrase............luci

serisa -> RE: tested by your Dom (9/30/2007 5:58:46 PM)
why did you leave a voicemail?, did you wonder if he was coming or not? what did you say to him?

amiciaN -> RE: tested by your Dom (9/30/2007 6:04:28 PM)
To the OP-- In my experience, life throws more than enough tests at our relationship! The last thing we need is Master thinking up more tests! To slaveluci-- When one is seperated from his/her Dominant, the sound of the Dominant's voice can have a rather profound effect. Think of what the sound of your Master's voice does to you and then imagine what the effect would be if you were apart.

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: tested by your Dom (9/30/2007 6:07:42 PM)
I only know one side of the story but it sounds like he is full of it. He sounds like an immature man that doesn't know what he is doing. He knows you are a newby and is manipulating your newness.

TNstepsout -> RE: tested by your Dom (9/30/2007 6:24:20 PM)
Serisa you sound very sweet and earnest and like you would make a good submissive to a deserving Dom. This man is not a Dom, he's just a dumbass in Doms clothing. He is playing stupid, immature mind games with you. I agree with another poster who said you should RUN, not walk away from this man before he puts you in harms way. He is obviously not concerned with your well being if he would require you to keep your door unlocked all night long in case he showed up. In fact, it's not very safe for him to order you to keep your door unlocked at ANY time. You should be his treasured posession that he wants to protect and keep safe and you should feel that way. It sounds to me like he had some GF at one point that flipped out when he was out all night and didn't show up. So he decided he'd get himself a sub who would HAVE to put up with it. Now he's running you through all these "tests" to see how far he can manipulate you into accepting his lousy behavior. So, how much are you willing to accept?

subscapejunkee -> RE: tested by your Dom (9/30/2007 6:26:04 PM)
I left a voicemail to tell him how desperately I wanted to see him that night and that getting my hopes up and disappointing me made me fear he was a cruel master. He called me back a short time later and made me repeat his commands: That I will do anything he wants whenever he wants it; to tell him everything I will do for him; to not question him; etc. I don't remember what else -- he probably commanded me to masturbate. Do not judge my Dom. He never did this again and has even been more considerate that ever about being specific about when he's coming over and he's always shown up as promised.

OrionTheWolf -> RE: tested by your Dom (9/30/2007 7:24:11 PM)
Fast reply: Testing shows insecurity in the person. In my relationships it is my way period. I do not expect disobedience, so I do not get it. If the person was confident of themselves, you would have one choice, and that is to obey. There is alot of good advice here. One of a sub or slaves few choices, is begging the collar or attention of someone. Since it is one of your only choices, make it count. Orion

onmykneesb4Him -> RE: tested by your Dom (9/30/2007 7:31:36 PM)
He's missing an important part of His role in the relationship. He should be taking responsibility for His actions (IMO, he's not, my reaction when i read your post is he's making excuses), and he should be helping you build trust in him. How in the world will his present actions help facilitate that? Sorry, i think you should find someone that's going to treat you much better than that.

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: tested by your Dom (9/30/2007 7:36:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subscapejunkee I left a voicemail to tell him how desperately I wanted to see him that night and that getting my hopes up and disappointing me made me fear he was a cruel master. He called me back a short time later and made me repeat his commands: That I will do anything he wants whenever he wants it; to tell him everything I will do for him; to not question him; etc. I don't remember what else -- he probably commanded me to masturbate. Do not judge my Dom. He never did this again and has even been more considerate that ever about being specific about when he's coming over and he's always shown up as promised. Were you replying to me? I don't know your dom or care to. This is a forum and I will voice my opinion. It is a forum BTW.

KatyLied -> RE: tested by your Dom (9/30/2007 7:39:07 PM)
quote: Do not judge my Dom. He never did this again and has even been more considerate that ever about being specific about when he's coming over and he's always shown up as promised. If you don't want the actions of your Dom judged then don't discuss your relationship in a public forum.

AquaticSub -> RE: tested by your Dom (9/30/2007 7:39:09 PM)
We don't do the whole "testing" thing. It didn't make sense to me in high school and it doesn't make sense to me now.

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: tested by your Dom (9/30/2007 7:41:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied quote: Do not judge my Dom. He never did this again and has even been more considerate that ever about being specific about when he's coming over and he's always shown up as promised. If you don't want the actions of your Dom judged then don't discuss your relationship in a public forum. Thank you!! [sm=applause.gif]

subscapejunkee -> RE: tested by your Dom (9/30/2007 7:42:46 PM)
Thank you OrionTheWolf. I hadn't thought of it that way before, but it's so true: One of the sub's few choices is begging; make it count.

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: tested by your Dom (9/30/2007 7:42:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BitaTruble quote: ORIGINAL: serisa i just wish all this stuff wasnt going on and I understood it all a bit more What's to understand? Everytime he lies to you and get caught, he's going to tell you it was a test. That's the lesson, learn it like all the others who eventually saw through the fascade and dumped his ass or continue on the path. It's up to you. Celeste I have to agree with Celeste on this one..and as a sideline..thus far OP you have mentioned "the collar"...is this what he dangles in front of you to insure your compliance to his manipulative idiocy?...Tempting

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: tested by your Dom (9/30/2007 7:47:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OrionTheWolf One of a sub or slaves few choices, is begging the collar or attention of someone. Since it is one of your only choices, make it count. Orion this daughersubmissive has many choices however begging for Daddy's collar or His attention isn't one of them. it's lovingly granted and bestowed upon me. begging is definitely not my style and Daddy knows that

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