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RE: Losing Hope.... - 7/25/2005 5:53:17 AM

ElektraUkM

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Hello there.

I've chatted to quite a few people on here who seem to be who they say they are. Keep meaning to meet up with some of them to go to shows and so on, but so far haven't got round to it! I think that if you step back from the 'looking' position, and just go for making contacts with different types of people, you get to feel less pressure and then... who knows what might happen?

Having said that, I didn't come to the site to look for a partner, as I already had one. I met him on another raunchy chat site which wasn't bdsm oriented, or dating oriented, and in fact neither of us were actively 'looking' at the time ~ we just got chatting one day, clicked on a lot of levels, and it went from there.

Good luck anyway,

~ Elektra

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RE: Losing Hope.... - 7/25/2005 2:51:50 PM

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I've met people through munches, through vanilla dating sites and through vanilla chat boards. I've never hidden whom I am, so those who knew me on a vanilla board knew of my kinks. I havent met any that I can say would be truely my soul mate, but I've been entertained trying. And also in the meantime I've met a number of very enlightened folk from which I feel honoured to know.

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RE: Losing Hope.... - 7/25/2005 4:41:20 PM

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Losing hope is not just about being on CM..or in a munch..or r/l vs online...it's about whether you feel God (or whatever you believe in) has planned/will answer your prayers for a Dom or Master of your own. (Or the flip side, if You are a Dom or Master, searching.)

This posts reminded me of a submissive I know. She has been looking for a dom for about 3 year's now. Lots of frogs. No decent people as of yet.

She is also severely obese. To the point she will probably be dead within 5 years because of it.
The other day she called me up and said. It is in gods hands. If he wants me thin he will take the fat off of me. This in response to me asking if she wanted to go to the gym.
She truly has put herself in god's hands.
I honestly do not believe god is going to embrace someone who doesn't go out and help themselves. God doesn't want a doormat either.

Anyway, I didn't mean to get off track but to ask god to do something for you is just wrong.
To me losing hope and asking god to do it because you are too lazy to do it yourself are two totally different things.

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RE: Losing Hope.... - 7/26/2005 2:46:29 PM

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I don't hide my ID either, maybe that's why I'm not getting any responses. LOL, But I'd rather be known NOW (I used to hide full time) than to be rejected after a lot of investment. I'll take life as it comes, hiding from it just delays the consequences, plus the consequences tend to gang up on the day of outting. BEEN THERE DONE THAT, never doing it again. If you like me, great, if not, that's fine too.

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RE: Losing Hope.... - 7/26/2005 3:02:06 PM

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Hi sub;
Your friend's problem isn't really her weight, that's just a symptom of something else. I hope she seeks counseling to fix the deeper issue. You are right about the God part. She has to want to get better before she will begin to get better, I mean want it enough to act on it. Until then, any help she gets is somebody else interfering in her life, usually. I don't see her hope lost so much as she's given up trying. The difference is that in the first case, "I don't see any benefit to carry on trying." The second case is, "I'm not going to carry on trying." If you have the opportunity to encourager her, encourage her to take care of the underlying reasons she is giving up. Its there that she gives up on anything worthwhile. God bless.

Bob

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RE: Losing Hope.... - 7/26/2005 3:41:37 PM

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Lots of frogs...well all frogs.

YOU HAD FROGS TOO!!! Although . . . I think mine were more like toads

Wow and all this time I thought I was the only one. hehehe

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RE: Losing Hope.... - 7/26/2005 4:52:37 PM

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Hang in there. And don't just look on this site.

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RE: Losing Hope.... - 8/23/2005 10:10:57 PM

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It's been a while since I read the replies here..and again..I thank all of you for your honesty. I think most of you have the same message and I think I have received it...perhaps I am looking to hard...hoping too much...wanting too deeply. It is hard to "let go" of that constant ache inside of me...becuase I KNOW where and what I should be. I know the time is now for me...I can feel it coming alive in every thread of my being..not to be able to express it is a true test of my character and strength.I cannot dwell on the thought of never having it all realized...I simply have to keep going forward and keep the spirit of hope and possibilty alive.

The best to all of you and I will have to check here more often....

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