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RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners - 7/31/2005 8:46:38 AM

zaynab

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Hey caitlyn...

Definition of a housewife: a girl to move in with them and be their submissive or baby girl or whatever ... and that she wouldn't have to work, just clean house, cook and be a trophy girl in the evening.

Sound about right to you?

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RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners - 8/1/2005 9:58:28 AM

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Thank You! I didn't know the terminology to Google my area. Although I have not been active on this site yet (first post!) and still have yet to put more information in my profile (still deciding what and how to put it), I have been curious about any local groups and your suggestion did it! I found a local yahoo group with an active membership that meet on a regular basis. Now just to get up the nerve to participate.......

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RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners - 8/2/2005 5:25:56 AM

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I'd love to get involved. But when you have high profile job that keeps you in the public eye, it's damn tough. Don't know any way around it.

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RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners - 8/2/2005 7:21:08 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: UtopianRanger

I'd love to get involved. But when you have high profile job that keeps you in the public eye, it's damn tough. Don't know any way around it.

- The Ranger

Go on hols to a different country and enjoy the "scene" there!

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RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners - 8/4/2005 4:13:06 PM

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wvsub, we have several folks from various West Virginia groups that visit the Pittsburgh scene, attend our local workshops, etc. You might look into the following groups depending upon where you reside:

West Virginia Humans Into Perversions (WHIP) is a pansexual BDSM educational and social group.
www.w-h-i-p.us/index.php

Humans Exploring Consensual Kink (HECK) is a pansexual BDSM organization based on the tenets of RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) located in the Charleston, WV area.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/heckwv

WELTS is a pansexual group primarily for socializing with like minded people in the D/s lifestyle to share experiences, insights and opinions. Contact Master Eammon at [email protected] and visit their website at www.grimesgrafix.com/welts

HANDS ON ASSn is a D/s lifestyle munch located in Wheeling, WV. They meet every third Tuesday of the month in a local restaurant. Contact Mary Jo at [email protected] and visit their website at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/HANDSONASSn/

Power Exchange and Erotic Roleplay (PEER) is located in Cincinnati, OH (for those in NW West Virginia) and is a support group for adults interested in BDSM, fetishes, tg dressing, etc. Their email address is [email protected] and website at www.bdsm-peergroup.com

Some folks in the Parkersburg, WV area may want to contact Miss Alura at Southeastern Ohio BDSM (SEO). Her email address is [email protected] and their website is http://groups.yahoo.com/group/SeoBDSM/

And of course, anyone in the WV panhandle or Morgantown area is a short drive from the Pittsburgh scene. We have five active munches, a monthly workshop, and several larger annual events. You can view our calendar at www.pittsburghleather.org

Hope that helps.

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RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners - 8/4/2005 9:09:45 PM

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With all of the world at your hand on the net, and the amont of people who sit on here all day long it shocks me that people can't find any groups near them. The key word being near.

Now i living in a little town in the middle of no where. I mean out in the bonnies. There is nothing here, and believe me i'be searched this population of 500 people high and low for some one with some interest, and if there is they sure don't want to come out.

Now there are a lot of groups around. All atleat a 4 or 5 hour drive from here. Now thats a little far when you both work full time and diffrent shifts. So for the most part they are out of the question. Although we are still interested in going just once to see how things work.

My question is...for people in our kind of location, and someone with social anxiety like i have, is there any other options out there. besides online groups.

And yes that is that a little pit of a annoyance for me also. Although i know from experiece that it is just not possible to get out, due to location and or social issues...so i can't shoot down every people who says "...well i can't frind one..."

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RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners - 8/4/2005 9:49:52 PM

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quote:

Though i suppose it's when you're not looking that things tend to happen.

Yes, when you're relaxed and being yourself. :)

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RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners - 8/4/2005 9:59:38 PM

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Pet peeve? Pet peeves are opportunities for positive personal causes.

If it bothers you, why not educate people? Write a few articles (or lots of articles) and submit them to BDSM websites, newspapers and magazines. We already know you can write. Just get somebody to edit the articles before you send them off. We tend to miss our own mistakes. (I know I do.)

Post the same articles to forums or wherever else on the web you can post them. There are plenty of bloggers that would love to post your articles too.

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RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners - 8/4/2005 11:55:15 PM

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I state quite clearly in my profile that I dislike the local scene attittudes, and don't participate in it. And find it amusing when a few who do, gasp "You don't belong to the wetspot club?"

It's like I am a blaspheming heretic who was just spotted by the Spanish Inquistion. I have LOTS of refferences who can validate how "real" I am locally. After all, I was out there in the public thing for no less than 7 years before I totally burned out on it.

It happens,some people just burn out on the poaching games, politics,and silly "Power cliques". Why should anyone have to PAY to go to a noisy,dirty,crowded, place that charges too much,to have a bunch of assinine swingers hitting on your sub as soon as your back is turned?

I can have a GREAT time just going out vanilla with a girl for 40 bucks!

And one HELL of a lot less frustration and bother!

So don't be too harsh on people who HAVE been an attendance in the past. they probably have GOOD reason NOT to.

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RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners - 8/5/2005 12:33:40 AM

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I find it rude when people expect you to find them their bdsm mate. I get asked a few times so do you know any mistresses who want a slave let her know about me ok? And of course I don't because if I did I'd be making my application known lol.

I told one guy go to munches an he's ike I am to shy to ever go meet domme's myself.

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RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners - 8/5/2005 1:56:34 AM

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i just wanted to jump in whit a coment from the beginning of this tread. i live in Bergen, in little Norway and even if i have, after werry mutch sharching found an BDSM group here, they are a closed group and werry picky aboute inviting anyone else, exept for a few yearly evently we (my Dom and i) would have to travel for many houers to get to, there is not that mutch BDSM activity in Norway, i think that for many they have no other play to find pepole of similar intrest, then the internet.

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RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners - 8/8/2005 10:42:16 PM

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Yeah, I am gonna dissent.

Like Chappelle, I was born to it... heh.

There really isn't anything in my area guys. There isn't. I know. There once was, and those people were so myopic, old, tired, obese and closed-minded that I didn't enjoy any of it when I went.

And I went every time they did something.

Talking about sexual matters at a bad chinese buffet with a bunch of morbidly obese middle aged men is not my idea of a good munch (and I am not talking chubby. I understand that some people are just that way... some of them are really hot that way...).

I haven't looked any farther than Mobile AL. Past that, it's just too much expense/trouble to actually sustain on a regular basis. I am looking for community, and honestly, you guys are the closest thing I have found, outside of a few close friends here in town.

So, yeah, I agree with the idea that if there is something out there and you are not actually involving yourself, you are missing out and not really participating in the culture, the exchange, whatever, as fully as you should. As fully as you deserve, I might add... But there are exceptions.

Someone do a google on Pensacola FL, and tell me I am wrong.

Please.

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RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners - 8/9/2005 5:04:31 AM

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I know of the groups in my area and have attended a couple. I have found the groups to be missing the basics (i.e., nearly all males instead of a balanced mix of genders) for me to feel it's worth continuing to attend. Oddly enough, I attended a submissive retreat in Baltimore and was the only male in the group. I don't understand why this area is so skewed from how people describe experiences in other parts of the country. It's very frustrating.

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RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners - 8/9/2005 5:36:14 AM

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I will be attending a local event for the very first time tonight. It's a board meeting, nothing exciting. I've known about this group for quite some time and it has literally taken me years to finally get the courage to attend. Higher up, someone posted about not wanting to attend because they felt they would be judged, but it was them judging the group. Well, that was me in a nutshell. I'm nervous and excited, but I think it should be alright. I emailed one of the members and her reply was very nice. She passed my name onto the head greeter who sent me a nice email as well. I'm really looking forward to this.

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RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners - 8/9/2005 6:28:57 AM

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Sometimes local just isn't "that local". I go to a femdom munch that's a 75 mile drive for me, because I prefer that dynamic (and not getting hit on by male doms), and it's a fun evening with like mindeds. I don't go with the idea of "finding the one" but rather to have a meal and interesting conversation, nothing more. The drive can be a pain, but if that's the kind of event I want to go to, then that's how far I have to drive.

Being involved in the public scene is certainly not the end all be all of the lifestyle. However, I do think it's important to network and have friends who are also in this, if you hope to make a life out of it - you need friends (real time - NOT online) you can talk openly and honestly to, to learn more, to reach further.

And yes....it is a filtering device if someone approaches me online. If that person has gotten out and gone to a local munch or the like, then I know that they are interested enough in all this to have turned off their computer, gotten off their duff, and DONE something about that interest. It tells me no more, no less...but that evidence of being able to take an active role in pursuing the lifestyle makes a difference in how I look at that person.

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RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners - 8/9/2005 2:40:06 PM

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brokenhallelujah, I cannot claim to have any personal knowledge of the Pensacola scene (I live in Pennsylvania), but you might want to join the North Florida BDSM mailing list to learn more about what's going on in your area: http://www.bdsmlife.net/MistressScarlett/NFBDSM.html

And good advice to anyone who isn't fulfilled by the munches in their local area (or cannot find one), is to go out and start your own. You're not the only kinkster out there.

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