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Tribute - 10/3/2007 9:46:39 PM   
tsatske


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Status: offline 		I have been chatting with a Dom who has made it very clear that he expects tributes to him.
the only place I have ever encountered the idea of tributes is with Male subs paying them to Fem Dommes, and then they are usually substantial, and leaving outsiders complaining about financail abuse.
This Dom is asking for miniscule tributes, financailly. Any dinner out we have, that he paid for, would clearly pay for a couple dozen of the types of tributes he mentioned expecting - he gave me a specific list of small gifts.
I see the draw of this, at a mental level. Paying him for beating me. I mean, I would enjoy giving him gifts, anyway. Calling them a tribute does add some excitment.
This is clearly an important issue for him. He even mentioned that he knew his last sub was getting upity when she quit giving him tributes.
Does anyone else have any experience with the idea of Tributes?
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RE: Tribute - 10/3/2007 10:03:34 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Hi, suck my dick, I bought you a chicken marsala so choke mine.........look, whatever blows your dress up.

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RE: Tribute - 10/3/2007 10:48:05 PM   
kc692


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Status: offline 		Tributes, whether given to or by males or females, can be a sign of esteem and respect.  This appears to be exactly what he is going for, and who cares if he is male, it is always nice to have appreciation shown, and I don't think anything is wrong at all;  on the contrary, I am sure you would want to gift him if you did indeed hold him in esteem, and he has given you a list to pick from so that you get him something he will like and wants.  I call that a win-win situation!!!

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RE: Tribute - 10/3/2007 11:35:15 PM   
hisannabelle


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Status: offline 		greetings tsatske,

would not be my cup of tea, personally...i love giving Him small gifts, but not because it's expected of me. the idea of not giving tribute making someone "uppity" also rubs me the wrong way, personally.

your mileage may vary. i think it's important to decide how YOU feel about it, how this will affect your feelings and views of the relationship, and whether or not that is what is best for you and your relationship.

respectfully,
annabelle.


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RE: Tribute - 10/4/2007 12:09:59 AM   
crouchingtigress


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RE: Tribute - 10/4/2007 1:26:30 AM   
MasterLDesade


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Status: offline 		tsatske -Tribute , take no notice of Ron's comment he is unacquainted to the custom , Pro-Domm's & Masters are used to the system , its like the trust you have in your Factory Mechanic in making your journey safe then the same in his/her knowledge and practical application , "recognition" of said Talents in the form of tribute to the Dominant something Ron is not used to receiving for his efforts as maybe they judge his deeds for them unworthy of such recognition , for you as a D/S relationship non-commercial you Honor your Master and such action's usually have a reaction in spurring the Master to higher more inventive measures for you , either in learning and application or Sub treats IE: playtime with other submisives under instruction etc . Do you not Ree at a Dojo ? yes out of respect and Honor the value system is in many places . Present before him his worth in your eyes and feel the measure he fill's your cup with .On my birthday Tulip presented to myself a Kid Skin Nappa mask with lace up rear , he smiles as he watches myself wear her in action just as much as i smile while he takes the single tail he presented to Mistress .
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RE: Tribute - 10/4/2007 1:35:57 AM   
mnottertail


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How, prithee, is it that she should not find herself in the world she lives in and I am easily excused?
You will find that life is very uneven.  And you must be graceful throughout the life you find.

The norwegians have a book called the heimskringla, which is the opening line of the book and our history..............


Roughly, it means--- the world's round has many indentatins...

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RE: Tribute - 10/4/2007 1:51:16 AM   
MasterLDesade


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Status: offline 		Ron truly an apt description of your cranium "The worlds round has many indentations " tsatske asked an honest question and received one unlike the Tripe you spawn Ron , but if you cannot cut it  and are deemed unworthy of Tribute , then wear the cap that fits dear Ron .
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RE: Tribute - 10/4/2007 2:03:11 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		LOL, read my profile please, I don't want suckie boys.

Trade elsewhere.

But thanks alot for the tip.

Ron

(you very funny, and insightful guy though)


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RE: Tribute - 10/4/2007 2:21:49 AM   
MissMagnolia


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Ron, I love you and I want to have your babies.

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RE: Tribute - 10/4/2007 2:35:44 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Oh, my god, baby........I would, but I am cut both ways if I am not being too subtle.


But we need serious folk out here--------
heppin a motherfucker out and like that........

LOL, love you too.  But no babies...serious!!!

Ron



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RE: Tribute - 10/4/2007 6:36:14 AM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterLDesade

Ron truly an apt description of your cranium "The worlds round has many indentations " tsatske asked an honest question and received one unlike the Tripe you spawn Ron , but if you cannot cut it  and are deemed unworthy of Tribute , then wear the cap that fits dear Ron .
                              Regards
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Actually...

quote:


look, whatever blows your dress up


seems like pretty good advice to me. Don't worry about it and just do what you enjoy.

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RE: Tribute - 10/4/2007 7:56:18 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		I don't think I would enjoy paying for his time. I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me, and who keeps a record of what I've paid for his company. And then to have to pay him for having sex/play with me? Major turn off for me. But others think it's hot.

However, the question here is if you share this kink of his? He gets off on the idea of a woman being so desperate to get beat and fucked by him that she'll pay him, as if he were some high class/high cost call girl. I'm assuming his ex didn't share his kink in this manner but went along with it as long as her needs were being met. If you don't share this, how long do you think you could do this before it interfered with you feeling that you were in a relationship where you both wanted to be there.

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RE: Tribute - 10/4/2007 8:11:48 AM   
toservez


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Status: offline 		I personally would have a problem with what you described. It is one thing not to do, buy or make things for your Master on your own initiative to show you care and respect, but to me it is another thing to literally get a shopping list regardless of the economics involved.

I think giving of things voluntarily is important. Making him cookies, buying something small you thought he would like and things of that nature. You know, just like all other relationships. But to demand tribute as proof of devotion to me goes under the umbrella of insecurity and issues. Like he is afraid or clueless about if a person cares for them or not and needs a tangible item to comfort him.



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RE: Tribute - 10/4/2007 10:15:24 AM   
SweetSarijane


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It's not for me. I'm more one who gives on my own what I can afford in ways I can afford and enjoy very much doing so. If it were expected of me in order to have the relationship, I wouldn't do it. I wouldn't feel wanted and valued and fulfilled in such a relationship. That's just me and my wiring and issues. I both want and need to freely give and will give more and with deeper meaning than if I'm expected to and have a list of the choices that must be used in the giving.
It really is about what works best for the ones in the relationship.

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RE: Tribute - 10/4/2007 1:26:32 PM   
RumpusParable


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Status: offline 		If you two share this kink, enjoy!  It seems like you're overthinking it... would you do the same if it was another form of "tribute", say kissing his feet whenever he grants you a spanking or some other such?  If he likes it and the idea appeals to you, take the pleasure you find in it.

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RE: Tribute - 10/4/2007 5:19:34 PM   
tsatske


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Status: offline 		Rumpus, if by, would you do the same, you mean, would I come to a forum and ask others what thier experiences are, yea, I would It is what I enjoy about forums, hearing other's thoughts. I don't necessarily base my decissions on them, but I enjoy the feedback and discussion. That's why 'Whatever floats your boat', by itself, is not a really helpful answer. I already was going to do, whatever floats my boat. I just want to know what other think, what thier experiences are. It is why I frequent these forums.

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RE: Tribute - 10/4/2007 7:50:04 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kc692

Tributes, whether given to or by males or females, can be a sign of esteem and respect. 
  Yeah, but to require someone to show that esteem and respect by giving gifts is just tacky. Especially, right from the beginning

Personally, I dislike being toyed with in this manner and I'd tell him where to get off. But, that's just me.

If it works for you, go have fun.

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RE: Tribute - 10/4/2007 7:51:54 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		haha, Ron's a tripe spawner.



Seriously, to the OP, if you both agree and get off on it, why not?


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RE: Tribute - 10/4/2007 8:29:59 PM   
mistoferin


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quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
Yeah, but to require someone to show that esteem and respect by giving gifts is just tacky. Especially, right from the beginning

Personally, I dislike being toyed with in this manner and I'd tell him where to get off. But, that's just me.

If it works for you, go have fun.


I have to second this. I love to give gifts when the mood strikes me...but to have them expected of me for the relationship to exist? Yeah right...I'll get right on that as soon as the hysterical fits of laughter subside....which should probably be about....well....never.

< Message edited by mistoferin -- 10/4/2007 8:30:56 PM >

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