hello

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

hello

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Master >> hello

Page: [1]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

hello - 7/25/2005 7:19:27 PM

smilesforu

Posts: 6
Joined: 4/20/2005
Status: offline

i am a sub and, my husband wants to know how he can get information on becoming a dom/master.

smiles

Profile

Post #: 1

RE: hello - 7/25/2005 7:23:03 PM

dominmd

Posts: 474
Joined: 6/27/2005
Status: offline

Have him come online. There is plenty of information and many different views on things.

Don't be shy come on in and ask questions. I am also sure that many people can offer many links to sites that would give details on becoming a Dom/Master.

(in reply to smilesforu)

Profile

Post #: 2

RE: hello - 7/26/2005 1:45:35 PM

smilesforu

Posts: 6
Joined: 4/20/2005
Status: offline

thank you for you help

smiles

(in reply to dominmd)

Profile

Post #: 3

RE: hello - 7/27/2005 3:51:28 AM

DublinSwitch

Posts: 59
Joined: 1/28/2005
Status: offline

Don't think you need a book / mountains of internet research to become a 'Master' - why not just tell him what you enjoy and then see which bits he would enjoy, then go and do the bits that you both agree on?

I mean - it's supposed to be fun, you don't need to write a bloody thesis before becoming a 'Master'. It should not be that complicated! Sure research on safety aspects of 'extreme' play is required, but if he is just starting out I suggest that a lot of activity he will be comfortable with initially (thinking a spanking here, you kneeling etc etc) just require the teeniest bit of common sense to be applied.

Anyways - my advice, have a chat with him and let him know what you enjoy / would like, kind of how most marriages approach most challenges I imagine

Cheers and hope the pair of you enjoy it all!!

DS

(in reply to smilesforu)

Profile

Post #: 4

RE: hello - 7/27/2005 3:57:56 AM

EvilTwin

Posts: 50
Joined: 4/13/2004
From: NC
Status: offline

Have him come here and read thru "new Dom" threads.
Talk with him, find out expectations, wants, desires... for him and for you.
Only do this with him if it is something HE is interested in also.
Play in this area for your gratification is one thing, but do not try and make him into something he is not. That generally ends bad for both parties.
If this is truly his interest, then help him in any way that you can. Just remember your place as his submissive and do not overstep any set bounderies you have with him.

Jim

(in reply to smilesforu)

Profile

Post #: 5

RE: hello - 7/27/2005 11:00:01 AM

junkyard

Posts: 107
Joined: 3/13/2005
Status: offline

Online information is good. The two most obvious texts normally recommended are:

"SM 101: A Realistic Introduction"
-- by Jay Wiseman

"Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns:
The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism"
-- by Philip Miller, Molly Devon

You can get them at most bookstores online, and almost certainly at a kinky bookshop near you too. I prefer the first text as Wiseman really does give the necessary lip service to issues of first aid and other health concerns which I think are hugely important. The second volume has lots of pictures and many practical ideas for the less creative. Both are good in different ways.

(in reply to smilesforu)

Profile

Post #: 6

RE: hello - 7/28/2005 7:56:23 AM

OsideGirl

Posts: 14441
Joined: 7/1/2005
From: United States
Status: offline

I highly recommend finding a male Dom mentor for him (real time). A lot of the toys and situations we use can be dangerous if used incorrectly (including things as benign as rope). Having someone teach you in a hands on manner is a huge help.

I would also check with your local BDSM group. They will frequently have seminars on everything from negotiation and protocol to cutting and single tail whips.

The books and online resources are a great place to start, but I highly recommend hands on training.

_____________________________

Give a girl the right shoes and she will conquer the world. ~ Marilyn Monroe

The Accelerated Velocity of Terminological Inexactitude

(in reply to junkyard)

Profile

Post #: 7

RE: hello - 7/28/2005 11:54:01 AM

punnishme

Posts: 23
Joined: 7/8/2005
Status: offline

www.castlerealm.com (straight information no porn) is good for you too

http://www.iron-rose.com/ (info)

http://www.leathernroses.com/ (Info)

The top three sites are the sites that I always highly recomend to beginners between the three your hubby should learn a great deal of info without having to look at all the porn!

www.bdsmlibrary.com (fantasies)

www.bdsmcafe.com (fantasies)

(in reply to smilesforu)

Profile

Post #: 8

RE: hello - 7/31/2005 7:38:02 AM

MasterTemujin

Posts: 42
Joined: 5/2/2005
Status: offline

Books and online are a great place to get facts and general information but nothing can replace real hands on training. I would suggest that you find a local group and join it. Start out slowly.

R/S,

Mastrer Temujin

(in reply to smilesforu)

Profile

Post #: 9