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RE: naming - 10/5/2007 4:34:09 AM   
Dnomyar


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RE: naming - 10/5/2007 5:27:32 AM   
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RE: naming - 10/5/2007 6:06:40 AM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		If you need assistance finding her a name to call her, then you shouldn't even be considering being dominant over her or anyone else.
 
If people can't use their commen sense and personal preference in such a simple matter, how can you control yourself correctly?  How do plan on moving your relationship forward - asking others how they move theirs?
 
Use your head, ask your heart and the name will come.  No amount of names of others can either justify or personalise what you call her.  If I knew that the name you gave me had come from others ideas?  That would put up big ole red flags.
 
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RE: naming - 10/5/2007 6:15:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

If you need assistance finding her a name to call her, then you shouldn't even be considering being dominant over her or anyone else.



My thoughts exactly.  You are choosing something intimate between the two of you, a power that has been bestowed upon you...and you want to ask an internet forum what to do with it?

Part of being a good dominant is to be creative.  Stop being lazy and start thinking for yourself.


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RE: naming - 10/5/2007 6:59:16 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark
If you need assistance finding her a name to call her, then you shouldn't even be considering being dominant over her or anyone else.


He was simply asking for advice, I don't know about you, but I come from the school of thought, that the only dumb question is one that is not asked.   This guy is an 18 year old male Switch.   Think it's obvious to the extent of his BDSM experience and life experience is.   I personally assumed that he made this post to see what is considered to be a customary protocal/practice for selecting names the BDSM lifestyle or community.   He even outright admits that he's fairly new in his opening post. 

Oh yes, may we have a warm round of welcome for a newbie making thier first posting to the message board.   Instead of making a Reg Flag call on him.

Personally, I'd like to call a RED FLAG on those that beat up the newbies, shame them away from asking questions.  It discourages them from asking questions, stunts personal growth and BDSM community involvement.   Now, if this guy had been some 30+ year old, claiming to have had 10+ years of experience in the lifestyle.  Sure, I could see a red flag call being made here.

If perhaps he was disrespectful in his post towards other people in the community. 

If somebody posted a question asking ideas how to best stimulate a clit, would it be appropriate to be told they have no business having sex as well?

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RE: naming - 10/5/2007 7:08:31 AM   
DocRudy


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It doesn't even have to be the same name every time. Use "pet" sometimes, "slave" other times. "Toy" sometimes, or her real name other times.

It's all about what mood you're in, how comfortable you are with each name, whatever.

Honestly, I've never considered it a challenege to address my sub. It can't be that hard.

-DR

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RE: naming - 10/5/2007 7:14:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would say try different ones and see what fits - lots of times just hearing it come out of your mouth will let you know how it sounds and fits.  I went through many - slut, whore, bitch, slave, pet, etc - which were used at different times, depending on how I was being treated.  I have been called girl's names too - and eventually settled on one that sounded right and fit.  And that stuck with me.

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RE: naming - 10/5/2007 7:47:08 AM   
TotalState


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ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

He was simply asking for advice, I don't know about you, but I come from the school of thought, that the only dumb question is one that is not asked. 


Nonesense.  It's a harsh reality, but there's plenty of dumb questions - in particular those that are asked out of lazyness in stead of doing some rudimentary obligatory research.  It is far more accurate to say that seeking knowledge is never dumb...and quite often asking random strangers for the answer is simply not the smart thing to do.

Consider my reply to be a 'RTFM' response...doing a little reading of the forum in stead of immediately posting a topic, he could easily have found out that there is no 'standard' way of naming submissives. 


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RE: naming - 10/5/2007 8:23:50 AM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		Who said he asked a stupid question?  Only yourself is indicating that.
I am offering advise that if you can't control the choice of name then maybe you shouldn't be trying to control anything until you can control yourself.
That is the answer to his question - not that his question is stupid.
 
I'm not one to pamper to anyone and lie to a person pretend to be someone I am not.  If you don't like a straight answer, don't ask the question.  And also, get to know the people on a forum / message board before you start making assumptions and put words in their mouths.  Not everyone dresses words up with a big fancy bow to make people feel comfortable.  How he takes the advice given, from me or anyone else is his responsibility - not mine.  I neither birthed him or own him.
 
We are all new at some point.  We were all new once.  I prefere someone talking straight than dancing around words and we aren't here to nanny other peoples feelings.  You don't like how someone responds? - Your choice and your responsibilty to yourself to ignore and pass it by... but what good does it do to bemoan how someone responds to a question - that was genuine, which was responded to with a genuine answer and not one that you agree with?  You got a problem? - Bring your personal difference off board and don't waste other peoples time reading your negativity and posturing because I didn't answer how you liked.
 
Otherwise - Suck it up.  I'm not here to change your diapers.
 
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RE: naming - 10/5/2007 8:27:32 AM   
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RE: naming - 10/5/2007 8:31:55 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I agree with the above.  If the girl wants a new name to express herself while in a dynamic with you, it should come from you.  It should be more something that suits her, rather than suggestions given by those who don't even know her.

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RE: naming - 10/5/2007 8:43:32 AM   
slavegirljoy


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Status: offline 		Master David liked my middle name, joy, more than my first name, linda.  So, that is what He decided to name me.  When He named me, He owned me, sort of like when a lost puppy follows a kid home.  Once a name is given to it, it's staying.  In my view, it's important to choose a name that fits the person and feels comfortable to both of you.
 
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quote:

ORIGINAL: slim1112
I need a little help finding the right name for her.  Our 1st conversation that wasnt vanalla was about me helping her with an essay she was writing.

Any help or experience would be much apreciated.

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RE: naming - 10/5/2007 8:50:28 AM   
Owner4SexSlave


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ORIGINAL: TotalState

quote:

ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

He was simply asking for advice, I don't know about you, but I come from the school of thought, that the only dumb question is one that is not asked. 


Nonesense.  It's a harsh reality, but there's plenty of dumb questions - in particular those that are asked out of lazyness in stead of doing some rudimentary obligatory research.  It is far more accurate to say that seeking knowledge is never dumb...and quite often asking random strangers for the answer is simply not the smart thing to do.

Consider my reply to be a 'RTFM' response...doing a little reading of the forum in stead of immediately posting a topic, he could easily have found out that there is no 'standard' way of naming submissives. 



I would consider his post to this message board part of "rudimentary obligatory research".  The internet is after all a great tool for doing research.  He was asking for ideas on something specific and help.   He did not ask for other to actually Name this girl, but for ideas.   Ideas are just a pool to draw upon and make decision.   Hell, people do the same thing when trying to come up with a name for their new born baby.  Matter of fact there are books and articles written regarding the meaning of Names, just for people to name their baby.   People go to Borders or Barnes and Nobles to buy such books even.   I suppose they should have no business having a Baby, if one is to prescribe this this lines of thinking?

OK, if one googles "slave name" an article such as this comes up.  http://www.afrolumens.org/slavery/names.html  mind you it applies to Real life slavery of american history.  However, it outlines some method to a madness.

Things such as...
  • Names Derived From Antiquity
  • Biblically Inspired Names
  • Names Inspired by Locations
  • Novelty Names
  • Descriptive Names

All of which can be used to provoke deeper thought into a name to give a slave in the BDSM lifestyle itself.

Again back to my comparison of one selecting a name for Baby.  There are books and even whole websites on this matter..
http://www.babynamesworld.com/    I suppose anybody asking for ideas for their Baby should be meant with sharp remarks "that they have no business being a parent" as well?

A message board such as this should is a wonderul and tool for research, and in provoking some positive thought and exchange of ideas. 

Here's an interesting Link on BDSM slave names.. http://www.steel-door.com/tagging.htm 

Here's another link, where somebody posted similar advice I gave regarding doing it at the time of Collaring..
http://en.allexperts.com/q/BDSM-2733/Slave-Naming-1.htm
This was on another message board on the internet, I don't see people belittling the OP there.

Here's a follow up post to it as well...
http://en.allexperts.com/q/BDSM-2733/f_4616650.htm

I wonder how many other people give their slaves a name during a Collaring Cermony?  If there are a number of people that do this, then is this not something that could be considered a Formal Protocal in BDSM that some people practice or follow? Mind you there is not any one set TRUE WAY of doing things in BDSM, however this at least reflects this is something is a common practice within a segment in the community.

Also, what's wrong with asking random strangers for thoughts and ideas regarding something?  Again, this is only asking for input on a matter, and not asking a stranger to make a decision or choice for oneself.   The OP did not say, I want somebody to name name my slave because I can't.   He simply asked for ideas, and not for somebody to make up his mind for him.

Let's see, what else about Slave names for ideas?  I could imagine this thread could spin off into... use of Slave Name tags, Name on Collars,  Registration of slave with a Slave registry...  All kinds of things I make the giving of the Name have more meaning at the time as well.   Help form a deeper significance with giving the name.

Perhaps I'm the one being too harsh, or out of line on this thread.  Perhaps, I've just had a bad day and need to pick on somebody to make me feel better about myself and my crappy life.   Perhaps, I'm just too narrow minded to realize that the OP was asking a dumb ass out of line question.   Perhaps, I'm too set in my way from all the years of my own BDSM experiences.   Perhaps, I just want to slam other people and make myself look better.   Perhaps, I just want to slam body and be a comedian for a moment, get people to laugh at somebody elses expense for day.   Perhaps, I'm just an idiot that does not understand anything at all going on.   Perhaps, I'm just being all emotional and not able to clearly see when other people are being constructive and respectful of others.


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RE: naming - 10/5/2007 8:51:21 AM   
slavegirljoy


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ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave
He was simply asking for advice, I don't know about you, but I come from the school of thought, that the only dumb question is one that is not asked. 


i agree.  i read the question to be more along the lines of "how do others go about choosing a name" rather than "help me choose the name" for his sub/slave/girl/whatever.  At least, that was how i read it.
 
slave joy
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RE: naming - 10/5/2007 9:08:35 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		As usual you can't ask a simple question on here without someone slamming you. If you think it is a dumb question why respond to it. Isn't the purpose this forum to get answers to your questions. If you don't like the posted question the you can always post your own. If in your mind the person is out of line then take it to their mail.

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RE: naming - 10/5/2007 9:18:39 AM   
Owner4SexSlave


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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

Who said he asked a stupid question?  Only yourself is indicating that.
I am offering advise that if you can't control the choice of name then maybe you shouldn't be trying to control anything until you can control yourself.
That is the answer to his question - not that his question is stupid.
 
I'm not one to pamper to anyone and lie to a person pretend to be someone I am not.  If you don't like a straight answer, don't ask the question.  And also, get to know the people on a forum / message board before you start making assumptions and put words in their mouths.  Not everyone dresses words up with a big fancy bow to make people feel comfortable.  How he takes the advice given, from me or anyone else is his responsibility - not mine.  I neither birthed him or own him.
 
We are all new at some point.  We were all new once.  I prefere someone talking straight than dancing around words and we aren't here to nanny other peoples feelings.  You don't like how someone responds? - Your choice and your responsibilty to yourself to ignore and pass it by... but what good does it do to bemoan how someone responds to a question - that was genuine, which was responded to with a genuine answer and not one that you agree with?  You got a problem? - Bring your personal difference off board and don't waste other peoples time reading your negativity and posturing because I didn't answer how you liked.
 
Otherwise - Suck it up.  I'm not here to change your diapers.
 
Peace
the.dark.


Again, I suppose anybody asking for ideas for their Baby should be meant with sharp remarks "that they have no business being a parent" as well?  OH let's Red Flag parents, if there asking for ideas on baby names.   I think I can read the english language well enough.

I disagree, that if somebody is looking for idea for a name, it has nothing to do with them having contol over themselves or anybody else.   You made it clear you felt it does.  I disagree with this, and tell you the truth don't see the logic in it.

Oh crap, my whole world would come crashing down to think my parents named me because of some idea they got.   Then there's the like of Frank Zappa naming his daughter "Moon Unit".  I suppose it would ruin my life, if I discovered they named me because of some drug induced moment at woodstock or something, one big red flag that my parents had been nothing more than a pair of drug loving hippies and got the idea as the result of using Acid.   Some people come up with intense ideas while under the influence of drugs, including people of primative or ancient cultures.   A sort of drug induced spiritual moment.  But this would not be politically correct or legal advice to give the OP.

The world is full of people exchanging ideas about anything and everything.  Just because somebody comes up with an idea, does not make it any less meaningful.  I really don't see people cranking out long list of actual names for the OP to pick from.   Most are expressing ideas of how to come up with a name itself.

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RE: naming - 10/5/2007 9:26:31 AM   
littlebitxxx


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RE: naming - 10/5/2007 3:57:40 PM   
slavegirljoy


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Status: offline 		Well said!  Hopefully, the complainers about this guy's question will get the message that this is supposed to be a place where people can exchange ideas and to ask for ideas from others. 
 
What's the big deal about just asking for some input?  i don't think he said anything about branding her with a name chosen by some random person on this board.
 
slave joy
Owned property of Master David

quote:

ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave
Again, I suppose anybody asking for ideas for their Baby should be meant with sharp remarks "that they have no business being a parent" as well?  OH let's Red Flag parents, if there asking for ideas on baby names.   I think I can read the english language well enough.

The world is full of people exchanging ideas about anything and everything.  Just because somebody comes up with an idea, does not make it any less meaningful.  I really don't see people cranking out long list of actual names for the OP to pick from.   Most are expressing ideas of how to come up with a name itself.

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RE: naming - 10/5/2007 5:31:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Bobkgin


Formality can be quite enjoyable.


Yes I noticed. .......(.trying to cheer myself up.)

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RE: naming - 10/5/2007 5:41:55 PM   
Prinsexx


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ORIGINAL: slim1112

Once could say that I am still fairly new to the scene.  I have began a relationship with a female who appears to, at least for now be submissive.  She has already established calling me "sir."  I need a little help finding the right name for her.  Our 1st conversation that wasnt vanalla was about me helping her with an essay she was writing.


Any help or experience would be much apreciated.



I named myself. Pincess.....because I can be dominant and am haughty and quite arrogant in that role.
Angelchild because when submissive that describes my persona so well.

I have a middle name but only for those who get really close to me; Princess Slut Angelchilcd. She's quite a mouthful.

I am Prinsexx here because i joined after a run-in with Face book, or My Space or some such malarky and they wouldn't accept my title.

I hit the X ket twice an a moment of anger with that....but the irony of it all? I'm pure XX so it fits........

Prinsexx

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