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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/30/2007 9:27:54 AM

Vanatru

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Stong, open, experienced, adventurous are all neutral qualities. It's the application that counts. Is your strength because you know who you are and are confident, or do you feel you are strong because you resist your dom/master? When you say you are open, is it because you can honestly share what you like and are good at communicating, or do you give a laundry list of negatives you are seeing in the guy? With experience, are you able to share what you like, add to the experience, or do you tell the guy how he compares to your ex boyfriends/doms/masters or tell the guy he's doing it wrong because that's not how you learned how to do it?

For myself, as a dominant man, I'm not intimidated by women (even dominat women), and the positive aspects of the qualities you list is what I'm looking for specifically in women (along with other qualities as well).

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ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

How do you feel about a sub who is experienced, strong, very open and sexually adventurous? Would she be a fantasy come true or intimidating?

Just curious.

jen

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/30/2007 12:27:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

How do you feel about a sub who is experienced, strong, very open and sexually adventurous? Would she be a fantasy come true or intimidating?

Why do i get the feeling that wasn't a real question, but a way to advertise your attributes? Or, will the answer actually cause you to change to accomodate? "Oh! They say that's intimidating, so i think i'll be inexperienced, weak, and sexually inhibited instead".

All those attributes you list are great! Keep em if you have em, someone will highly value that about you. Loose the asking questions you already know the answers to, no Dominant i know will tolerate time-wasting questions that are designed to milk attention or fish for compliments.

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/31/2007 8:21:15 PM

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Where?? Where??
Who cares as long as the chemistery is right.
Maybe weaker, easilly intimidated, men would be scared off by an experienced sub, some even run from subs with a IQ over 100. A good Master can still train a sub to his own reqquirements and any of her experience is a bonus. imho.

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/31/2007 9:40:55 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

How do you feel about a sub who is experienced, strong, very open and sexually adventurous? Would she be a fantasy come true or intimidating?

Just curious.

jen

I would like her a whole ot more than someone who was weak, closed and sexually a wallflower.
Experience is something that can either work well or not depending on a variety of factors. I can say that it is often easier to teach someone something than to help them unlearn bad habits, which I would define as those things I don't care for, even if her prior Dom liked them tremendously
As for intimidating, she is after all a submissive, to be intimidated might just get my masters guild card yanked and we can't have that now can we, grins.

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 11/1/2007 4:51:59 PM

EbonyPhoenix68

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

How do you feel about a sub who is experienced, strong, very open and sexually adventurous? Would she be a fantasy come true or intimidating?

Just curious.

jen

Well, it depends upon the Dom/Master, but me personally, I would have no problem with her being sexually adventurous, provided that she understands that sex is only one facet of a D/s relationship. Interestingly, I once protected a submissive whose idea of being sexually adventurous is expressing her desires through writing erotic poetry. However, IMHO, she needs some real time experience because that is an adventure in and of itself.

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 11/1/2007 5:32:16 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

How do you feel about a sub who is experienced, strong, very open and sexually adventurous? Would she be a fantasy come true or intimidating?

Just curious.

jen

Does she come with batteries?

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 11/2/2007 3:32:59 AM

MRandme

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Uhh, yea, sure. Like anyone is going to say "It would scare the piss out of me and make me run like a child." Or be like, "NO WAY JOSE! I need a newb, ya know, weak, closed off and afraid, totally unwilling to take a step outside the lines."

HEY!! i think i'm offended!

i mean, i've only been doing this since August, but i think if i were unwilling to step outside the lines, i'd never have found a Master in the first place.

Strike the word 'experienced' from the OP's description and you've got me. Please don't lump all newbies together.

Oh, and BTW my Master likes the fact that i am a strong person and pretty adventurous.

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 11/2/2007 9:38:48 AM

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ORIGINAL: tulitukka

To that kind of statement (my ex didn't do it like that) I would have a very simple answer: I would tell them there are polite and considerate ways and of communicating (and choosing the timing of communicating) your desires and comparing me to your ex is not one of them, especially when we are in a middle of having sex or a scene. Should you do that again, I will be forced to punish you.

Far more diplomatic than I would be. I have only had this happen once. My response? "I could give a fuck how he did it, this is my game, my time and my way if you don't like it fuck the hell off because you can be replaced as easily as I found you" she was quite agreeable after that.

JSin

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 12/3/2007 5:06:39 PM

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I think it would be great as i would know she or he is not a "wannabe" and a waste of my time

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 12/3/2007 5:44:19 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

How do you feel about a sub who is experienced, strong, very open and sexually adventurous? Would she be a fantasy come true or intimidating?

Just curious.

jen

*tossing in two shiny pennies*

Experience can be both good and bad. Does she know how to wash dishes? Great. Does she know how to play with the family pet? Eww. Those would be my responses. Some forms of experience act as selective criteria for compatibility.

Strong physically? That wouldn't bother me unlees she spent most of her time trying to bench press me. Strong mentally? If she weren't, she couldn't handle me. Strong emotionally? I'm good with that, unless it includes a grocery list of "what You better do for me". Homey don't play dat. Strong spiritually? If that works for her, but she better not try to drag me to her weekly cult meeting.

Open and sexually adventurous is similar to experience. If you mean she wants to open for every guy she sees, then she's not for me, I don't share my toys. Open as in willing to experiment, now that, I would appreciate.

The post had a yin/yang feel to it, OP, so I gave a yin/yang answer.

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 12/3/2007 6:13:53 PM

scottjk

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

How do you feel about a sub who is experienced, strong, very open and sexually adventurous? Would she be a fantasy come true or intimidating?

Just curious.

jen

I would say that sub would have exceptional potential.

Okay, I'll put the enigmatic crap away. :)

You might say that such a sub would be a fantasy come true in all fairness. I can't say I've come across such girls in my life. Probably because the cherry pickers get there first. :) Being painfully socially reserved, I'm more intimidated by my fear of looking like a jack-ass and then opening my mouth to prove it. :) But, no, such a woman wouldn't intimidate me. It would be a relief.

(You guessed it, I'm NOT a cherry picker.)

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 12/4/2007 6:13:39 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

How do you feel about a sub who is experienced, strong, very open and sexually adventurous? Would she be a fantasy come true or intimidating?

Just curious.

jen

For Me she wouldn't be intimidating, there's nothing to worry about from a submissive who knows what she needs and can tell you. Also, if she were to be sexually adventurous even better-it'd be fun trying to come up with ways to push her further than she thought she could go and then use that to My advantage and have lots of fun at the same time.

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 12/4/2007 6:15:58 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: scottjk

quote:

ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

How do you feel about a sub who is experienced, strong, very open and sexually adventurous? Would she be a fantasy come true or intimidating?

Just curious.

jen

I would say that sub would have exceptional potential.

Okay, I'll put the enigmatic crap away. :)

You might say that such a sub would be a fantasy come true in all fairness. I can't say I've come across such girls in my life. Probably because the cherry pickers get there first. :) Being painfully socially reserved, I'm more intimidated by my fear of looking like a jack-ass and then opening my mouth to prove it. :) But, no, such a woman wouldn't intimidate me. It would be a relief.

(You guessed it, I'm NOT a cherry picker.)

Welcome to the club, I'd offer you My seat but I can't get about without it. :)

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 12/4/2007 12:59:50 PM

BrokenSaint

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Depends on the person. Experience though, really isn't particularly intimidating. Lack of really isn't very discouraging. Positives and negatives to both. They tend to balance.
Comes more down to personality and their relative compatibility based on characteristics I'm looking for.

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ORIGINAL: Focus50
Hmmmm, but it did work in that old movie "Weird Science".... lol

Focus.

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ORIGINAL: SixFootMaster
High five!

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 12/4/2007 1:15:43 PM

VegasDom76

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

How do you feel about a sub who is experienced, strong, very open and sexually adventurous? Would she be a fantasy come true or intimidating?

Just curious.

jen

For me personally if i did not have anyone, than this would definitely be welcome. I do enjoy training NEW sub/slaves but sometimes you just want there to be that understanding right away (no not the connection). Sometimes you want someone to know HOW to take certain kinds of pain fromt he get go.

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 12/5/2007 5:29:14 PM

CelticPrince

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jen,

I vote for the dream.

CP

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 12/6/2007 6:08:09 AM

tulitukka

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quote:

ORIGINAL: JSin

quote:

ORIGINAL: tulitukka

To that kind of statement (my ex didn't do it like that) I would have a very simple answer: I would tell them there are polite and considerate ways and of communicating (and choosing the timing of communicating) your desires and comparing me to your ex is not one of them, especially when we are in a middle of having sex or a scene. Should you do that again, I will be forced to punish you.

Far more diplomatic than I would be. I have only had this happen once. My response? "I could give a fuck how he did it, this is my game, my time and my way if you don't like it fuck the hell off because you can be replaced as easily as I found you" she was quite agreeable after that.

JSin

Sometimes being diplomatic and formal stings far more than other ways of expressing oneself. Or perhaps it is just that I prefer a submissive with a mind like that. In my typical communications, I tend to be very informal, so that kind of formality speaks much more than meets the eye.

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 12/6/2007 7:39:12 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

How do you feel about a sub who is experienced, strong, very open and sexually adventurous? Would she be a fantasy come true or intimidating?

Just curious.

jen

I admit, I kinda like the idea of someone who's inexperienced so I can do things to her mind and body she's never experienced before. That said, any woman who wants me will submit completely to my wishes regardless of past experience. Yet I have no problem with a sub who is more experienced than I making suggestions to enhance our paly or relationship, provided she does it in a way I feel proper. (I would instruct her how I wanted her to handle such a situation.) I'll take my chances against any former Dom(s).

But as another poster suggested, this is very, very dependent on how the two of us get along before we even meet to play. If either of us believes it's not going to be a good fit because of past experiences, I won't push to try to capture something that's not going to be there.

Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 12/7/2007 2:43:20 AM

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okay, just 'cause I'm up cruising the boards 'cause I couldn't sleep, and feel chatty, I'm going to write what came up for me, even though, obviously, I'm not a Master (or even a Mistress). The below being rather descriptive of me, I have to say that I DO (apparently) intimidate a lot of the dominant males, and they go away after talking with me a bit. But that's okay. Because if a Master (sic) is not dominant enough that He *can be* intimidated by me, then it's pretty clear that he's not dominant enough for me to feel any desire to submit to him anyway. It also raises a question in my own mind if that person is really a Master in the first place. I mean... a Master might not want to bother with me, or not want me for many various reasons, but He wouldn't be intimidated.

And besides, I'd rather have a Master who both values, and is amused by, my strength and independent spirit, and find ways to use those strengths to His own benefit.

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ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

How do you feel about a sub who is experienced, strong, very open and sexually adventurous? Would she be a fantasy come true or intimidating?

Just curious.

jen

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 12/7/2007 6:33:45 PM

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I have no problem with a sub/slave being seuxally adventurous as long as she is willing and practices safe sex and does it safe, sane and consensually. But it all depends on her attitude about sex, which would be a reward for her after we've taken time to get to know each other as people first before all the kinky stuff takes place.

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