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anal play - 10/7/2007 1:34:39 PM

mistressfran

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i need some advice on anal play and diff thing i can use on my sub we both new to this and i want to learn as much as i can

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RE: anal play - 10/7/2007 1:49:19 PM

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the first thing my ex Mistress did to me was a basic small butt plug then get larger sizes and work our way up. In the end She got a Feeldo..basically a strapless strap on and well...you get the idea hehe oh ya...lots and lots of lube

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RE: anal play - 10/7/2007 3:16:30 PM

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mistressfran

I replied to your email on the other side.

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RE: anal play - 10/7/2007 6:19:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: DianeB269

mistressfran

I replied to your email on the other side.

Diane

m'Lady does have the best advice, and is quite experienced from all i have seen and read here and in Your group. if You can work a sub, one who is not all that big in stature, to take some of the strapons i have seen in Your group, i'm still frankly amazed.

'tis a shame m'Lady is on the other side of the pond these days

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RE: anal play - 10/7/2007 7:14:45 PM

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Thanks

It just takes time and moving up in size a little bit at time also lots of good lube (Slippery Stuff Gel)

If I lived on your side of the pond, you'd probably have one very sore asshole.

Diane

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RE: anal play - 10/7/2007 7:41:19 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DianeB269

Thanks

It just takes time and moving up in size a little bit at time also lots of good lube (Slippery Stuff Gel)

If I lived on your side of the pond, you'd probably have one very sore asshole.

Diane

so the tube on the bed is Slippery Stuff Gel? Never heard of that. i've tried a number of things, and KY looses it slickness faster then most, but is very slick to start. still looking for that perfect lube.

hummm.....yes, it probably would be sore as i worked up to things, but with regular use, perhaps just more of a wanton, empty feeling when m'Lady was not taking me. and i'm honored that You would think of taking me.

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RE: anal play - 10/7/2007 9:50:19 PM

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Lots of lube and a 3 sized butt plug kit. Small, medium and large.

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RE: anal play - 10/7/2007 11:26:00 PM

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My favorites (fairly long lasting) are Maximus for water based, and eros for silicone based... More recently I decided that inserting a bit of lube before inserting well lubricated toy, with a syringe may make things last longer. YMMV. M

P.S. I would avoid large buttplugs (as they are usu just too large), unless you're going to be serving Diane or training to be fisted, lmao.

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RE: anal play - 10/8/2007 5:34:38 AM

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love anal play

and yes i love to be fisted by my mistress

she has trained my ass well ...i can know take up to her elbow ...lots of lube ..go slowly ...and communicate to each other is a must i feel

for those advanced players try a bam ..boy that thing is thick

i also have a rambone 17 in one ..not as thick as bam but 4 in longer

love strapon play and being fisted

have fun and enjoy ..mal ...oh by the way great videos on strapons play and being fisted on rude.com

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RE: anal play - 10/8/2007 5:42:33 AM

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Whatever you do be a nice Mistress and dont just ram anything up and start thrusting. Guaranteed to make a subs eyes water lol

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RE: anal play - 10/8/2007 7:53:34 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FullfigRIMaam

My favorites (fairly long lasting) are Maximus for water based, and eros for silicone based... More recently I decided that inserting a bit of lube before inserting well lubricated toy, with a syringe may make things last longer. YMMV. M

P.S. I would avoid large buttplugs (as they are usu just too large), unless you're going to be serving Diane or training to be fisted, lmao.

well, I'm a bit far away from being ready to try fisting I think. but one day, well, i try to never rule anything out. i just can't imagine being able to take a hand at this point, unless it was a very, very, tiny hand (pretty rare).

on the lube side, water based seems to have always had the easiest cleanup, and no negative health effects like petrolium based products. but silicone based is a new one to me. would eros be just as slick, and possibly not dry out as fast, and thus with less needs to re-apply as often? for those longer sessions of course

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RE: anal play - 10/8/2007 1:28:37 PM

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May I suggest a deep cleaning enema first. 2 days prior make sure to only eat lite foods, no red meats. Drflox sent me a wonder recipe for a deep cleansing enema, and all kinds of tips. It works wonderful for anal play, fisting and strap on play. Diffirent sizes of butt plugs and dildo also come in handy. LOTS of LUBE. oh yes and wear a pair of gloves for fisting, you really dont want to scratch the inside of the rectum or perf anything in there. And of corse my favorite a camera.

Tootles

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RE: anal play - 10/8/2007 2:42:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: FullfigRIMaam
P.S. I would avoid large buttplugs (as they are usu just too large), unless you're going to be serving Diane or training to be fisted, lmao.

Come on, I'm not that bad.

Diane

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RE: anal play - 10/8/2007 3:10:14 PM

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i need some advice on anal play and diff thing i can use on my sub we both new to this and i want to learn as much as i can

For your first few sessions, buy a thin 5" strapon and some good lube.
Give him a enema before you do anything.
Then I would start with one finger for 5 or 10 minutes and move up to two fingers for 5 or 10 minutes.
When you are putting the strapon in him, go in very, very slow until you feel he is relaxed.
After that the rest is up to you and him...

Diane

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RE: anal play - 10/8/2007 3:12:40 PM

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See: www.PuckerUp.com and click: Anal Advisor, there is LOTS of very good info on this site...

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RE: anal play - 10/8/2007 3:54:20 PM

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I'm with goddessblaze on her first point. I always make my subs clean out with the shower attachment I have...using pressured water in this way, I've found, is much quicker than a traditional enema, and since it's only water, doesn't have any side-effects that some may have with commercial enema preps. Next, lube. I use Eros silicone lube and JO Systems water-based. I also use either in conjunctions with KY's "shooters"....individually packaged lube with a tube you can insert to make sure the inside is lubed up. Next, as others have said, graduated butt plugs to different sized dildos, working your way up as you become more experienced. I've found inserting a butt plug in a sub just before flogging helps them forget about the pulg and loosens them up nicely. Works especially well with newbies that need to be "distracted" to relax enough to insert plugs. After that, it's up to you....dildos, vibrators, or my favorite, the strap-on! Helps for the slim folks that don't have hips to hold onto to have a plow belt handy too....sometimes handles help! lol

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RE: anal play - 10/8/2007 3:58:54 PM

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Ooops, Astroglide makes the shooters, not KY, my bad! lol

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RE: anal play - 10/9/2007 6:39:51 AM

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water based seems to have always had the easiest cleanup, and no negative health effects like petrolium based products. but silicone based is a new one to me. would eros be just as slick, and possibly not dry out as fast, and thus with less needs to re-apply as often? for those longer sessions of course

Of the water based, as I said, Maximus has been the longest lasting I've tried, but yes Eros/silicone based lubes are just as slick if not more so than water based, and definitely longer lasting in my opinion/experience.
Here's a link with an inexpensive little bottle you could buy and try out.

M
http://www.dear-lady.com/db.cgi?sid=7100909330504&db=default&Department=Adult+Toys&view_records=GO&ww=on&Popular=Common&sb=7&sort=Price&so=ascend&Category=Oils+and+Lubricants&Features=Condom+Safe&nh=6&mh=1.

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RE: anal play - 10/9/2007 2:59:10 PM

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PhoenixRed wrote: I always make my subs clean out with the shower attachment I have...using pressured water in this way, I've found, is much quicker than a traditional enema

Are you sure that's safe? I'm pretty sure I've read that you should never force water into the colon by anything other than gravity.

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RE: anal play - 10/9/2007 10:03:22 PM

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Yes, I am sure it's safe. I'm not talking about the pressure of a fire hose here! lol You attach a water diverter for the hose between the showerhead and the supply pipe. It has a regulation knob, so that you can adjust the pressure accordingly in fact, you can adjust it so that only as much water flows as would through a gravity enema. It doesn't take much. I've used it myself. It has a small attachment for anal cleansing and a larger one for vaginal cleansing. Usually only takes the subs about 5 min to be squeeky clean.

BTW, I know it's probably common knowledge, but as for using the lubes, no silicone lube on cyberskin (my favorite) or silicone toys, only water-based.

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