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RE: How far would you travel or allow someone to travel... - 10/8/2007 5:02:52 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		I would travel to meet someone I was genuinely interested in as a person.  I often travelled to reconnect to my first dominant from Southern CA. to Whidbey Island in WA state.  For him, I would have done any distance.  But for someone I don't know intimately?  No.. not unless I wanted to see that place for other reasons.  I would definitely NOT go to meet someone I hoped to serve eventually.  I am tied to my location because of my business.  Anything over a 2 hr drive is just not practical for the long term for me.  And since I don't play casually, I think of long term issues.
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RE: How far would you travel or allow someone to travel... - 10/8/2007 5:10:35 PM   
Tigrita


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Status: offline 		Beat me to it by 4 frickin' minutes! How long will it take to get that out of our heads? We can rest easy knowing it is stuck in everyone else's heads too now though, that is the only thing to do when a song gets in your head, share it!

Yadalatda, Yadalatda!

My partners are currently living 311 miles away, about 3.5hrs plus, and it is difficult, as I have a crazy work schedule with weekend obligations that I can't just swap shifts for or put off or schedule around. Though 311 miles is better than 1500 or so, he just moved here from Texas, spontaneous romantic that he is ;) so I consider it a delight to have him only 300 miles away! Wouldn't have talked to him though if his relocation hadn't been an option (I'm not relocatable if I want to actually finish my Ph.D. and in less than a decade), and if he hadn't been interested in the area for reasons besides potential romance.

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Edited because my Ph.D. will not be in spelling.

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RE: How far would you travel or allow someone to travel... - 10/8/2007 5:11:11 PM   
sapphirepleasure


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A Dom flew from Belgium to meet me in New Mexico.

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RE: How far would you travel or allow someone to travel... - 10/8/2007 5:11:35 PM   
KnightofMists


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Status: offline 		Well... I was 3029 miles from Kyra when she first came to see me....

And damit... I was Worth it!!!!

and now she has to come 3329 miles to see me....

And I am STILL worth it!!!


oh yeah... I made the odd trip to see her too... she's not bad so no regrets on my part.  *w*

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RE: How far would you travel or allow someone to travel... - 10/8/2007 5:11:58 PM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		I personally don't think any distance that requires more than an hour's drive is worth it.

This is because I have a formal training that promises beyond that so I wouldn't want to make anyone drive any further than that for something that might only last 4 months of training.

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RE: How far would you travel or allow someone to travel... - 10/8/2007 5:14:14 PM   
BBWnNC72


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From: NC since Jan of 2007, but born and raised in Cali
Status: offline 		i would relocate out of state if my family (kids) werent involved.  but alas, i love my kids and will not go far from them untill they are of age. 
then at that time, i would if and only if i knew it was the very best thing for me.
would i let some one move closer to me, hell yes i would. i do have someone that wants to move from the UK!!

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RE: How far would you travel or allow someone to travel... - 10/8/2007 5:14:25 PM   
LaMistressa


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Status: offline 		For some, I would travel the ends of the earth.

For others, I wouldn't switch trains on the Metro.



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RE: How far would you travel or allow someone to travel... - 10/8/2007 5:17:36 PM   
gypsygrl


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Status: offline 		I once drove 6 hrs because someone needed a ride to work for a couple days.  I was planning on visiting him anyway, but changed my plans so I could drive him to work.  I made it clear, if that was all he wanted from me, I'd be fine with that.  As things turned out, we probably should have left it at me driving him to work.

Its one of my fondest bd/sm memories.  I was so happy being his driver.


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RE: How far would you travel or allow someone to travel... - 10/8/2007 5:53:16 PM   
MistressHolly71


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Status: offline 		50 miles is about it for me right now. 

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RE: How far would you travel or allow someone to travel... - 10/8/2007 6:08:19 PM   
EbonyPhoenix68


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Status: offline 		I personally prefer not to have a submissive/slave travel any more than 30 miles to my location. If, on the other hand, she lives more than 30 miles from locality, then some arrangements can be made (but I'm not footing the whole bill!). But this is why I like meeitng lifestylers in my own community as there is a little more continuity and familiarity as far as meeting them in a real time public setting goes, to say nothing of personal safety for the both of us.

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RE: How far would you travel or allow someone to travel... - 11/17/2007 8:40:20 AM   
BBBTBW


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Status: offline 		I have travelled 150 miles for some casual play, it was fun but I don't play casually any more.  I have flown to NY, driven to CA, AL, FL, MD, TX, CO and a few other places to meet people.  I am a road tripper so I enjoy the trips.  I plan on meeting someone at the beginning of next month, he lives 6 hours away but we are meeting half way.  The initial reason for my trip was to spend time with family for our holiday celebration but I have added a day or two to my trip to spend some time with him.  This is not a causal person, this is someone I deem as LTR material.  Although we have had some rough patches lately I think they can be smoothed out and we can follow thru with our plans.  I really do think this person has a lot of potential and I don't want him to get away...so the Drive and extra time spent is worth it to me.

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RE: How far would you travel or allow someone to travel... - 11/17/2007 11:57:41 AM   
slaveofKaos


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From: California
Status: offline 		The furthest i've traveled is 200 miles. If I felt safe I would go just about anywhere. The furthest i've had someone travel to me is 6264 miles.

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RE: How far would you travel or allow someone to travel... - 11/17/2007 1:09:57 PM   
Celeste43


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From: NYS
Status: offline 		We were about 150 miles apart which doesn't sound too bad, but as anybody who has ever had to get on or off Long Island on a Friday or Sunday, that 2 1/2 hour drive can frequently become a 5 hour trip each way. It isn't miles, it's travel time.

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RE: How far would you travel or allow someone to travel... - 11/17/2007 1:13:10 PM   
MsPleasure


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Status: offline 		One hour for me. 

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RE: How far would you travel or allow someone to travel... - 11/17/2007 1:22:50 PM   
DreamyLadySnow


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Status: offline 		Travel? Heck I have trouble finding a local boy who is willing to do service, so  might have to look at importing.
The nearest big city to me is 300 km away and people travel that highway frequently for kink-related things. I have no issue with that.
Across the country would be a stretch, especially as you can never really know someone until you've met them. Then again I tend to be a cautious type.

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RE: How far would you travel or allow someone to travel... - 11/17/2007 1:36:02 PM   
canupleaseme


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Status: offline 		When I 1st got together with my boy he was at uni and it was a 5 hour journey for him to see me which he did as reguarly as possible. I visited him there on occasion (being a skint single mum with no transport made it difficult) one occasion was because he was quite poorly and I wanted to look after him unfortunatly I got quite poorly while I was there lol so we ended up looking after each other, and another occasion when I text him during a role playing game where I was the pro domme and he was geting a visit.  It was always safe as I knew him.  Personally I wouldnt travel that far for anyone but have had people pre boy come from around the same distance to see me.

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RE: How far would you travel or allow someone to travel... - 11/17/2007 2:02:52 PM   
Spinadirosa


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Status: offline 		I have driven 6 hours one way to meet and spend time with someone that in less than a year became my husband. He and I were married for 7 years and though due to the way we developed and grew in different directions we divorced, we are still the best of friends and see each other often.  I have had several people travel to me I think the longest was my SWEET hubby AmericanGothic. He moved here flying 2200 miles with us never having met in person before that. I have never been happier in my life, and he and I have been together now over three years. Out of all the people who have moved (not visited but moved sight unseen) there is honestly not a one that I regret. Oddly enough the only two relationships in my lifetime that I have ever regretted, one lived 35 miles from me and the other lived 7.

I have learned some harsh lessons from some of them, and I have learned more about myself and what I want out of my life than I could have ever learned without them. As I read someone say above, If the chemistry is there, go for it.

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RE: How far would you travel or allow someone to travel... - 11/17/2007 2:16:55 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		My girl and I used to live 2100 miles apart. We saw each other about 4-5 times a year, with me traveling to her area or us meeting at an event in some other area.

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RE: How far would you travel or allow someone to travel... - 11/17/2007 4:15:32 PM   
BeingChewsie


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Status: offline 		Quick reply:

I flew back and forth over 2800 miles each way to see R. We fly all the time so it isn't a big thing for us to fly to see people.

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RE: How far would you travel or allow someone to travel... - 11/17/2007 5:53:31 PM   
SmokingGun82


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Status: offline 		Let's see... my most recent ex came 1500 miles to visit a few times before she moved here. We spent almost two years together, she's still one of my best friends... I call that one a risk that paid off.

The most recent visitor I've had came a round-about 2000 miles... and that was a miserable couple days. So much crazy in one person is a strange sight indeed.


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