|
Blaakmaan -> RE: RE:Interracial D/s relationships:How do we really feel about them? (10/9/2007 10:26:44 AM)
|
I've only been a member of this site for a few months at the most, but in that brief period of time, I think I've already learned that it is pretty difficult to have a real discussion of issues that touch on race (directly or tangentially) here.
I suppose that's not so surprising. After all, the people on this site, including me, are just a microcosm of our society at large. Even though we may feel or believe that we are different somehow than the rest of the society (i.e., more honest, more moral, more open, etc.), I think that the only thing that we really are "more" of than the rest of the society is more accepting of each other's individual kinks. Other than that, we are conservative and liberal, smart and not-so-smart, open-minded and close-minded, in pretty much the same proportions as the rest of the society, even if we see ourselves otherwise.
But, when racial issues arise on the forums, pretty much all you will hear, in my experience, is "Color makes no difference to me," "I dont' care about color--I care about the individual," or "I don't see color," which I personally find to be--how shall I say it?--less than candid.
How does race play itself out here? In my humble (or not so humble) opinion, there are more opportunities here for whites than blacks. That is, in some sense, a result of the fact that there are so many more whites here than blacks. But I think that part of the reason that there are so many more whites here than blacks is the fact that there are more opportunities here for whites than blacks.
Just as an example: Some significant portion (and I don't mean some small portion) of the black female submissives here are specifically looking for white male Doms (I have no idea what the black male submissives are looking for, because I don't read their profiles). On the other hand, I can't say that I've seen a significant portion of the white female submissives on here that are specifically looking for black male Doms. So, it seems to me that white male Doms have more submissives to choose from (white female and black female submissives)--and therefore more opportunities--than black male Doms do.
So, how do I feel about interracial D/s relationships? I'd like to say that "I don't see color," but that would be a lie. I do. I recognize that racial differences play a large part in the sexual fantasies of many people, so it isn't surprising that racial differences are a big turn-on for a lot of people on this site, and it isn't surprising that they want to explore that sexual dynamic in their D/s relationships.
On the other hand, I also think that the ordinary power relationships of the vanilla society play themselves out in the D/s community, and I think that disadvantages black people here. Many, I'm sure, will disagree with that position.
If it were truly a matter of simple individual preference, and nothing else, that didn't systematically disadvantage one group in relation to another, I can't say that I'd care at all. But I don't think it is actually that way. So, I guess I do care.
I would love to include a personal rant about "race-play" ("white man, beat me and call me Nigger"), but I'll save that for my own post.
|
|
|
|
