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phoenixinchains -> RE: Sub is too Sore...options? (10/12/2007 1:09:27 AM)
carmex and a shot of whiskey : ) phoenix

SubmissiveLion -> RE: Sub is too Sore...options? (10/12/2007 7:02:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch quote: ORIGINAL: SubmissiveLion quote: ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch I looked at your profile and read your journals.. It seems that she has a problem handling your size and that's why she gets so sore? Has she had this problem with other men? Have you had this problem with other women? Yes. She is having deep pains, not from not being wet enough during intercourse. I don't think she has had this problem with other men, as they haven't wanted to have sex as much as I have. I would say we have intercourse almost every other day. I have had this problem with other women. Unfortunatley it has always ended with a not so happy parting of ways, as I am a very sexual person in terms of liking to have sex. And I like her a lot, I just don't know if this will go away or is it something where I have to control myself for the health of my sub. So.. A couple of other people have asked and I don't see the answer, so I'll ask.. Are you very long as well as thick? Are you hitting "bottom" (pardon the pun) ie: her cervix, when you thrust? Or, (and I suspect this is the problem) is it simply your girth that causes too much friction against the walls of her vagina? You said that the pain was "not that she was not wet enough" but you may not know this for sure.. Next time, use a whole bunch of lube and see if that helps at all. Go at a slower pace and keep adding lube.. Edited to add: You mentioned that you were having sex every other day.. How many times on that day? Maybe switch to every day and less frequency.. I had this sort of problem with my ex and it was like exercising.. If there was a lull of too much time in between having sex, I had problems..If it was every day, it was much easier... Once, but for like 45 minutes to an hour. I slow down when needed, but She just keeps coming and I just keep going. I am sure I am not hitting bottom, but I am quite wide. I have used lube, and she's still sore the next day. :(

MrDiscipline44 -> RE: Sub is too Sore...options? (10/12/2007 8:04:16 AM)
Here's something that might help. Fist her or have her insert a dildo larger in girth then you are before hand. This way her body will adjust to the size. Otherwise, smack her in the back of the head and tell her to stop being a lil bitch and take it.

mnottertail -> RE: Sub is too Sore...options? (10/12/2007 8:09:00 AM)
Multiple partners experiencing pain, he don't know why or never been to doctors with 'em? Won't take the advice that it is either medical or motion.... How many letters in the word Wanker? Snore. Ron

SubmissiveLion -> RE: Sub is too Sore...options? (10/15/2007 7:30:47 AM)
I have been reading through all the posts and talked to a doctor already. Half the suggestions here have been jokes so its hard to distinguish people actually giving advice and people just being either funny or in your case mean.

laurell3 -> RE: Sub is too Sore...options? (10/15/2007 7:34:25 AM)
That's not mean, it's just Ron. Honestly, it's incredibly difficult for anyone to answer other than suggest things that have helped them, which I think they have done. Don't take sarcastic humor personally, consider it entertainment value. If she's having multiple orgasms it might just be muscle pain and that improves over time. Good luck, l

Celeste43 -> RE: Sub is too Sore...options? (10/15/2007 7:38:41 AM)
Actually I think Ron was being deliberately sarcastic with a definite edge of meanness. And rightfully. If the op keeps doing the same thing, and keeps getting the same unwanted result, but won't alter anything, and refuses to see a doctor for suggestions and to rule out him transmitting a std, then eventually even the most patient forumite will lose their temper. As, from the sound of it, have all of his past partners.

TwistedLady -> RE: Sub is too Sore...options? (10/15/2007 8:00:42 AM)
I believe he's already said he talked to a doctor. In my opinion, if it's just the width she's having issues with, it just takes time to get used to larger widths. It sort of reminds me of anal. You have to take it slowly and get your body accustomed to it. Think of it like this, if babies can come out of women, your wider member should have little trouble if used correctly. That's just my opinion though.

mnottertail -> RE: Sub is too Sore...options? (10/15/2007 8:05:25 AM)
quote: I believe he's already said he talked to a doctor. Other than a last ditch post. It would be interesting to learn the chanker mechanic's view in this. Which is? Ron

daddysprop247 -> RE: Sub is too Sore...options? (10/15/2007 9:26:11 AM)
if there's no medical issue on either side, and no significant tearing, then i would say what's the problem? submissives generally don't expect everything to always be all peaches and buttercups, most of us understand that suffering will be part of the game at times. it took me a long time to get used to the width of my Master's cock, and even now after 7 years the vast majority of the time we have intercourse there's significant pain during and some soreness after. big whoop, it's not gonna kill me and i'm certainly not going to complain.

chellekitty -> RE: Sub is too Sore...options? (10/15/2007 9:08:20 PM)
ok here's the real problem, ya'll are all concentrated on the wrong end, in my opinion....are you sure she's turned on? cause if she's not turned on mentally, her body's not gonna work for that long... other than that...live human bodies need time to recover, she's not a machine....invest in a pocket pussy if you want that or masturbate or go pick up a drunk chick at a bar or buy a whore if you really can't not think with your cock for that long....there are ways to deal with it other than what you're doing now...

trappedinamuseum -> RE: Sub is too Sore...options? (10/15/2007 10:56:34 PM)
If you have a hand and some lotion, I have a solution for you. Give her a fucking break, and self-service for a night. Or, I know where you can get a "judy". Christ's sake.

adoracat -> RE: Sub is too Sore...options? (10/16/2007 4:12:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TwistedLady I believe he's already said he talked to a doctor. In my opinion, if it's just the width she's having issues with, it just takes time to get used to larger widths. It sort of reminds me of anal. You have to take it slowly and get your body accustomed to it. Think of it like this, if babies can come out of women, your wider member should have little trouble if used correctly. That's just my opinion though. it depends on the woman. seriously. i've been married to my husband 15 years now. he's on the thicker side. i have NEVER gotten used to his size in all that time. even with lube, even with him being careful, nothing. and i've had 2 kids...and am still unable to take two of MY fingers comfortably. some women are built smaller inside than others. just my experience... kitten, tossin two pennies into the ring

Invisibleogre242 -> RE: Sub is too Sore...options? (10/16/2007 8:39:49 PM)
I've had this problem, but more because of the length of time we would spend having sex, as opposed to her not getting wet enough. But as far as a possible yeast infection goes, I think if that were the case, and you're that well-equipped, she would probably not even let you near her with that thing because I've been told that shit is PAINFUL. I would say that you definitely either need to teach her to deep throat when she's feeling too sore, or go jerk off.

nyrisa -> RE: Sub is too Sore...options? (10/17/2007 7:55:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: daddysprop247 if there's no medical issue on either side, and no significant tearing, then i would say what's the problem? submissives generally don't expect everything to always be all peaches and buttercups, most of us understand that suffering will be part of the game at times. it took me a long time to get used to the width of my Master's cock, and even now after 7 years the vast majority of the time we have intercourse there's significant pain during and some soreness after. big whoop, it's not gonna kill me and i'm certainly not going to complain. daddysprop, you have stated in previous posts that you don't receive pleasure from sex, per se, but rather in the pleasure you give your Master; you have said that sex is routinely rough, unlubricated, and often brutal to the point that you are left bleeding for several days. you have said that the pain you bear for his pleasure is part of your service to him (forgive me for not remembering exact wordage, but I think that was the gist of it). And it obviously works for both of you, because you always post that you are content. But for many other women, pain during sex is not something they can routinely experience, and still continue to enjoy either sex or service. If it hurts, she loses her arousal; the less aroused she is, the more it hurts, and it can lead to a vicious circle to the point that she loses the ability to have orgasm, or begins to dread sex and avoid it whenever possible. Gynecologists see plenty of women who have become anorgasmic due to what probably started with something that could have been prevented. This problem of soreness seems to be enough of a problem that it has hampered their sex life and has caused him enough concern to ask advice here. I don't think that in this case, recommending the woman to just tough out the pain would be a workable option for them. I respect your opinions, and always read your posts with interest. I just think maybe you might forget sometimes that many women could not deal with the intensity of service you live with.

RRafe -> RE: Sub is too Sore...options? (10/17/2007 8:03:26 PM)
Lock your cock in a cb for a week.

Myster -> RE: Sub is too Sore...options? (10/20/2007 3:34:06 PM)
I agree with some other posts here: take a break from fucking her for a few days and go at again. A sub should develop many talents to please her Master's cock. Use those!

Sexynmentalinkc -> RE: Sub is too Sore...options? (10/20/2007 3:38:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Myster I agree with some other posts here: take a break from fucking her for a few days and go at again. A sub should develop many talents to please her Master's cock. Use those! Exactly! When one parking lot is full - just find another. Or...heaven forbid...take some downtime to recharge batteries. Snuggle and watch a movie, let her serve you wine, massage, etc. Oh, and if you need them, it can be a good time for mo' betta' picture sessions! thumbs up tips his hat - Mr. S

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