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xoxi -> RE: My Opinion on Long Distance Relationships (10/15/2007 11:42:35 AM)

I'm in one right now and I hate it hate it hate it.

Might I mention that I am unable to make myself climax through masturbation so it is constant stimulation with NO release when we tell each other the wicked thoughts going through our minds.

We are going to meet ASAP (within the next 2 months or so once I have a passport and visa) and like others have said we use skype to see each other, hear each other, etc, but it still drives me crazy not to sleep in his arms.  I could not do long distance for any length of time...I hear stories of women whose men are in the armed forces and my heart literally breaks for them.  I couldn't imagine being away from my SO for so long...and then to top it off not knowing for sure whether he WILL come home.  That kinda puts the whole 'internet relationship' torture into perspective, y'know?

To be honest I was always the type who was like 'nooooo no long distance, no getting to know each other on the internet, that's sooo ridiculous' and believe me I had NO intention of falling for a man halfway across the globe.  I saw him on the forums here and thought he was intelligent, then saw his profile and thought he was hot and poetic and insightful, and sent him a flirtatious type message....just with the intention of sending a bit of love and happiness.  Of course the fact that he's the type of man who gets what he wants meant that he saw me and decided I was his.....and really after that I had no choice in the matter, it was in my best interest to accept the fact that this amazing hot sexy brilliant man wanted me.  Resistance is futile and all  [;)]

I guess if it happens...it happens.  It's SO hard to find someone you are genuinely compatible with, someone you can see yourself spending forever with...if you do happen to meet someone who fits those criteria who lives faraway, go for it.  But my only recommendation would be to meet as soon as possible.  If I didn't need a passport and visa to see my man I would already be there.



Prinsexx -> RE: My Opinion on Long Distance Relationships (10/15/2007 2:46:59 PM)

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ORIGINAL: camille65

It is almost 8 years for me. I never expected to find any relationship online to be honest, much less finding a dom that I would love madly and who loved me in return.Every night he watches me on cam until I've fallen asleep, every morning I am waiting for him on cam so we can have his before work time. 5 or 6 phone calls a day [thank you viop] and visits every 3 to 4 months.Yes it can be hard sometimes. There have been nights when I cried into a pillow while wearing his tshirt simply because I miss the feel of his skin and his scent.But most of the time, his love and care for me cross the miles pretty easily. I realise that I'm in a type of minority because of my health, a 24/7 in person relationship does not work. I'm just sick too much. This way he gets me when I've been resting for a week so I can play for a week then recover for three weeks lol. It works for me, and I love him utterly.


This is one of THE most inspiring posts I have ever ever read.
Thank you so much for the way you have told your story and the way you have drawn your picture. Prinnie xx



DiannaVesta -> RE: My Opinion on Long Distance Relationships (10/15/2007 6:25:15 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Arach

So, what do we see, a series of intense, painful, exciting relationship that flash to the heights of perfection and overwhelming love/worship/adoration only to crash just as quickly into disillusionment and self doubt.




Unfortunately this is very true. Still I’ve cultivated some incredible relationships online that lead too sensational meetings. When our eyes finally do meet there is a profound connection.


I remember an online romance I had once that was intense and seductive. I had never experienced anything quite like it. We would spend literally hours on the phone and many passionate nights. We finally did get together and it was like oil and vinegar. Months went by and we began chatting again and it was like it was before after all the apologies. So we arrange to give it another go. We met again and the same thing… total turmoil. Like I said, I never experienced anything like it before and I’ve been online since the 80’s back in the BBS days.

I actually wrote a poem about it. This might not be exact but close. The formatting is screwed up here.

Sandcastles built upon a beach of dreams
and laced with knights and ladies.
On a sailboat ride from afar To fill a moat of loneliness.  

Flying machines on laughter studded wings we soar above our sorrows
to climb above the clouds of doubt that we shouldn’t be lovers tomorrow.  

But our dream awakened to the night
of the sun and the moon and neon light
when every word had feeling
and every sigh had meaning……we were one.  

Then our dreams came crashing in the night
as we clung on tightly to our sacred flight
having feared we’d gone much to far
seared hearts and a lovers scar……we fell to our reality.  

Yet I climb upon our sailboat mass and whisper to the world going by…  
We were lovers for a time.




kittensmailbox -> RE: My Opinion on Long Distance Relationships (10/22/2007 9:21:27 PM)

Arach, 20 years in the life style???? i was your first sub ever... and it has not been 20 years... met you in 1998... moved to LA in 2000, moved home in 2005... It is now 2007... That is not 20 years in the life style...  Hate to call you out on this one, but come on, be a lil truthful...  i was marrierd to my first Dom in 1990, but that was just the start of my understanding of the life style...  



adoracat -> RE: My Opinion on Long Distance Relationships (10/23/2007 10:04:35 AM)

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ORIGINAL: cbtok

An expression from Mexico:

"El amor de lejos es el amor de vendejos."

"Long-distance love is the love of fools."

I have known a great many Mexicans in the US "legal" and "not" who have family back in Mexico. Most posters here can freely visit their significant other without any issues at all at any border. Many of my friends from Mexico have been away for over five years with the occasional telephone call and the frequent connection through Western Union for money.

Yet there is something in the character of a people who understand Cervantes "Don Quixote" that makes allowances for this kind of relationship.

It's hard on everyone. Not everyone is successful at it. But, in our modern society where close means in the same hemisphere, we find ways to keep our hearts closer than that.

150 years ago, these relationships would not be possible, save with a blue-water sailor or someone in an army stationed overseas. But everyone we had relationships with would certainly have come from our home town. My, how the world spins.


i had to comment to this....my parents have been married 45 years now.  he was, indeed, a blue-water sailor.  when they celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary...mama counted up through all the sailings, and all the duty nights, and all the TDA's (temporary deployment assignments), and all the no-dependant duties...

they'd actually lived together something like 10 years. 

i'm in a LDR with Daddy.  he gets to come see me at best every couple of weeks.  its been a little over two weeks now....but the last time he'd been able to see me was in august.  we make do with IM's, emails, and phone calls in the meantime.

kitten, who cant wait till the next visit....



angelslave77 -> RE: My Opinion on Long Distance Relationships (10/24/2007 11:33:29 PM)

I am currently in a ldr and it is hard work and the longest we go without seeing one another is about 3.5 weeks. We talk and text several times day and we dont actually even have the net at the moment because I am without a computer (I am on my parents computer at the moment).

But my thoughts on ldr (and this is my own rule) is that it must have a time limit, I refuse to go on indefinately long distance. There has to be the outlook that we will be together permenantly and Sir and I have that so for the moment I can bide my time. Although I miss him like crazy that is for sure.





ownedgirlie -> RE: My Opinion on Long Distance Relationships (10/24/2007 11:49:22 PM)

~ Fast Reply ~

Three years in a long distance relationship (2 hours apart) and it has truly been the most fulfilling relationship of my life.  Now we are talking about moving me close to him.  In a word, I am relieved.  I wouldn't trade these past three years for anything.

As for more work...I couldn't say.  My marriage was a lot of work and I was miserable.  This has been a lot of work, but not because of the distance...because of what I needed to overcome.  I wouldn't change any of it.



Dnomyar -> RE: My Opinion on Long Distance Relationships (10/25/2007 4:54:17 AM)

Go get em slaveluci. I went to 2 weddings this year. Both couples met on CM and had long distant relationships for a few years. I went to another one a couple of years ago where the same thing happened. Granted these are far and few inbetween. It all comes down on how much work you wish to put into a relationship.  To only stay local says that you will compromise and settle for less.  



KnightofMists -> RE: My Opinion on Long Distance Relationships (10/25/2007 5:24:54 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

To only stay local says that you will compromise and settle for less.  


I disagree with this comment.  Just because a person prefers to fish in a small pond doesn't equate that they will settle for less... but I would say they are more likely to have to fish longer to find the catch they want.



slaveluci -> RE: My Opinion on Long Distance Relationships (10/25/2007 8:56:05 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar
Go get em slaveluci. I went to 2 weddings this year. Both couples met on CM and had long distant relationships for a few years. I went to another one a couple of years ago where the same thing happened. Granted these are far and few inbetween. It all comes down on how much work you wish to put into a relationship

Thank you very much, Dnomyar[:)].  It has been wonderful and gets more so everyday.  Some people may find what they need within a short distance but I was not able to.  Places like CM make us able to broaden that search a bit and have more options.  It sure worked for us!..............luci 



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