Faramir
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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2
A) Why is he so concerned over how all the others in your world understand it? When I meet new people and try to explain my poly, they usually don't get it either. I just tell them "It's ok, what matters is that we're all happy. It's easier to understand onc you see us all together," and leave it at that.
B) Why aren't you asking HIM what the heck he meant by it and why didn't he explain it in his explanatory email to everyone?
Well fuck - I guess they care because - they care. And I guess she is asking here vice him because she feels more comfortable/wants to ask here.
Sheesh - if someone here asks a sincere question, wtf does everyone else jump thier motivation/perspective shit?
Hey, uhh, EM2, read what you just wrote. Why are YOU so concerned about what other's think about your poly?
Anyways magi, heres how my friends use the term (it's not one I use): It means to them a type of D/s relationship that is not peer to peer, but not Owner to property - it is an intermediary power relationship with ownership, but that ownership acknowledges some independence of the "s" in the relationship.
The idea is that Master/slave is an owner to property relationship, where the the slave is essentially chattel - maybe not in an enforcable legal sense, but conceptually.
"Pet" implies an owner to beloved pet relationship. There is an owner, but the pet isn't chattel - the pet, for all her dependence on and devotion to the Master, is still in some way independent as an entity, is submitting in response to the relationship, to the care and protection of the Master.
Try and imagine the first wolves who came into a campfire, and noble and independent as they were, willing to serve these gods with fire (and perhaps serve conditionally, in response to right treatment).
I think Jack London describes the realtionship perfectly in Whitefang:
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Having learned to snuggle, White Fang was guilt of it often. It was the final word. He could not go beyond it. The one thing of which he had always been particularly jealous, was his head. He had always disliked to have it touched. It was the Wild in him, the fear of hurt and of the trap, that had given rise to the panicky impulse to avoid contacts. It was the mandate of his instinct that the head must be free. And now, with the love-master, his snuggling was the deliberate act of putting himself into a position of hopeless helplessness. It was an expression of the perfect confidence, of absolute self-surrender, as though he said: “I will put myself into thy hands. Work thou thy will with me.”
Try and imagine a powerful man or woman, a head of household. They have an estate, and perhaps they have slaves who help administer the household. In addition to the slaves the Master owns, the Master also has a beloved dog, a companion who is devoted to the Master, serves the Master, but has a special connection beyond that which the slaves have. The slaves never lie at the Master's feet in their study, or go off with the master into the Woods when they need time to think. All of the household is under the Master, but the Pet has a special bond the servants and slaves don't have.
Does that help at all magi?
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