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kitttty -> RE: mom thinks my Sir can't commit (10/13/2007 5:45:15 PM)
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Well, you can avoid rings and ceremony and then go out of your way to organize wills and property divisions and life insurances and maybe a legal civil union so that you have all the benefits of marriage. That's just more work for you.
But no- marriage has nothing to do with love. It has everything to do with bondage. For thousands of years it has been the sanctioned method for a man to own a woman or women in nearly every culture around the world. Old english law used to say that under the law, a husband and wife are one person and the husband is that person. You can't take your girl around on a collar and leash, but you can give her a wedding ring, which once upon a time was like the same thing (and still is in many countries). Master now has named me kittyslut, which is a fine name, but my vanilla boyfriends gave me pet names too- darling, pandabear etc. But my identity will be officially sublimated under a man's when i change my name, the indication of my own heritage and personal identity. I will become Mrs. 'John Joeseph Smith', a person that isn't always even recognized as an independant individual. When you are married, you file taxes as one and file them through the head of the household (that is a pretty erotic title). This is like the vanilla world begging for sadomasochism. Financially, you can become one with joined credit and assets. Historically the only person who mattered here was the man and the woman was bound to his credit and assets. For thousands of years the religious vows were that the woman promised to obey the husband as Lord and Master for the rest of her days. Slavery never even had that kind of connotation- no one cared about the consent of slaves. It was the wife who had to consciously lose her identity and name, give up all control of assets to the man who owned her and obey him or else go to hell.
You can wear a collar and you can claim love but there just is no substitute for marriage. Only marriage has the thousands of years of history, thousands of years of religious significance and thousands of years of legal binding as the official stamp of slavery of the man as the Master and the woman as the slave. It is a terrible oppressive institution and this is why I fetishize it so zealously. If I were vanilla, I would totally refuse to subject myself to such an insulting and outdated tradition.
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