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hardxdrive -> RE: Daddydoms and babygirls... (7/30/2005 1:52:47 AM)
i love age play. me and my slave geargirl are going to meet an ex slave of mine who is 18. very very hot and i plan on taking geargirl back in time in the adult female infantism roleplay

lovingmaster45 -> RE: Daddydoms and babygirls... (7/30/2005 3:34:46 AM)
I have only had one "little girl". lee ann is now involved in a "normal" relationship with the man she intends to marry. She was mine from 20 - 23. A wonderful 3 years and an incredible dynamic. I took her from virginity to playing with girls, to serving Daddy's poker buddies under the table. Eventhough we no longer "play", she is still in regular contact and seeks my advice and help on everything from her current relationship to her job and family. We will always be close; but just like a biological Daddy, I have to know when to let her go. I see the playpens at Black rose and other large gatherings and I always thought she would like to play like that; but she was too shy. I am sure there are a lot of others like her who needed to keep their kink private and personal. Do I sound like I miss my little girl? I do; and I am currently seeking one. But there is no hurry. It will happen. After all, I found lee ann while having coffee at the Waffle House.

Sabella -> RE: Daddydoms and babygirls... (7/30/2005 6:19:41 AM)
WOW what a great topic and variety of answers, thank you!!!! I personally am uncomfortable with the term "Daddy" we don't use it. But this is entirely based on my own experiences I know. My Dom/Hubby does fulfil many roles that would be considered "daddyish" in the caring/protecting/decision making roles and I love it. If having a Dom that has a "soft" side makes him a "Daddy" then so be it. For ME having someone I can be childish or a girl with is a relief and a joy. When I was growing up and my whole life I've had to be the strong/mature/bullet proof one in ALL my relationships - even with family, friends, lovers. Being a girl was weak and got me hurt. So to be able to explore that side is like regaining something I never had - the freedom to just BE a girl, be protected and loved and cherished. quote: ORIGINAL: Padriag I suppose in a way someone did sort of open the door on it, or rather you might say the internet did. Just my personal opinion but I tend to agree with you, this particular style of D/s had gained in popularity and I think that's been chiefly because of the internet. When it was first introduced to me it was described as being a "kinder, gentler" kind of D/s that focused more on a loving relationship, positive reinforcement, etc. which sounded good and to me more balanced than trends I'd seen at the time that seemed to equate M/s with harsh BDSM and a lack of affection. What I have often seen in practice is that for many online being a babygirl is a quasi-form of submissiveness where they expect to be able to be a brat while being spoiled and pampered by their (sugar) Daddy. If you're picking up that I am at this point suspicous of the whole thing... give yourself a cigar. [;)] If you also guessed I don't buy into the whole "M/s has to be harsh with no affection", give yourself a Cuban cigar [:D] How ironic we were just talking about this the other day :) My Dom/Hubby doesn't agree either with the "you gotta be just mean & bad to do it right" mentality he said he's often seen. The way he explained it to me is that kind of relationship doesn't build a sub up, it only tears them down. It doesn't give value or build worth. I guess it could be directly related to "you'll catch more flies with honey than with vinegar" LOL. If I'm ever a "brat" I pay for it O_O and not in the happy way either! I do see how regressing could be theraputic (sp?) for some tho and if that works for them then more power to them!

Padriag -> RE: Daddydoms and babygirls... (7/30/2005 3:44:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sabella How ironic we were just talking about this the other day :) My Dom/Hubby doesn't agree either with the "you gotta be just mean & bad to do it right" mentality he said he's often seen. The way he explained it to me is that kind of relationship doesn't build a sub up, it only tears them down. It doesn't give value or build worth. Exactly, I feel the same way. To me I see training a slave as a process of creating value, not destroying it. Fear, intimidation, blunt force, these are not my tools. I use discipline to direct and guide a slave to grow in the way I wish. I suppose you could compart it to Bonsai gardening for those familiar with that. I prune those branches I don't want and use wire and weights to guide it into growing into the shape I want. I chose the tag line quote in my signature for that specific reason, discipline is sometimes hard or "cruel", but it does so that later it can be gentle and kind. BTW, was Abraham Lincoln who said, "You'll catch more flies with honey than you will with vinegar."

littlebuttercup -> RE: Daddydoms and babygirls... (7/31/2005 7:31:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angelicalistical i admit to being a bit of a brat at times, but i certainly do not expect Daddy will pamper and spoil me during bratty episodes either... usually such moments will find me in predicaments i would much prefer to be out of, but 9 times out of 10 if i am being a lil brat there is a reason for it and rest assured, Daddy will get to the bottom of it...quite literally... but being as much as i am one of the newer lg's, i thought i would speak out as to why i have finally come out of hiding, and hope it would help in understanding the more recent epidemic type flooding for which the OP speaks of... having an lg deep within is something i kept extremely private for a variety of reasons. one was of course being the social taboo placed against such ideation, a second and more complex issue was the belief that something within me was not right...that perhaps i had a split personality, or maybe there was this deep seated relationship issue within for which my real Dad could not answer to... and then of course there is the frightening fact that allowing others to know such a thing about you is prone to abuses far more unseeming than say letting others know you have a fetish for leather or lace... it's very personal, very psychological, and very frightening to be so open about something that for many lg's is not necessarily something that can be controlled. i know that for me it's not so much about a fetish or a role play, as much as it is a personality characteristic... one that up until very recently was a shunned characteristic. your words mirror my own feelings pretty well. it's not a kink or a fetish, it's an intrinsic part of who i am. i feel most vulnerable being Daddy's little slut, er girl. have you been to ageplay.org? it's a great site focussing on supporting your inner child.

littlebuttercup -> RE: Daddydoms and babygirls... (7/31/2005 7:35:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: EvilTwin Drawing mainly on the relationship between my babygirl and I... She isnt looking for a Sugardaddy, but a nurturer that she missed out on as a child. I am her Daddy... her protector... her teacher... I hold her and let her know everything is OK, but she is NOT allowed to be a brat. Disrespect and acting up are dealt with. I take this seriously. Some people need things they didnt get when they were supposed too. She is my baby girl... she is my pride and joy. I am her Daddy.. the most important person in her life. There is a balance there, flow in both directions... Some people see it as "wrong", or not true D/s or M/s... It works for us, and for many others. There is room for many practices. Jim the world needs more good Daddies :). and it is very true about some of us not getting what we needed growing up. finding a safe place for that growth as an adult is extremely therapeutic.

subcheryl -> RE: Daddydoms and babygirls... (7/31/2005 7:07:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlebuttercup quote: ORIGINAL: angelicalistical i admit to being a bit of a brat at times, but i certainly do not expect Daddy will pamper and spoil me during bratty episodes either... usually such moments will find me in predicaments i would much prefer to be out of, but 9 times out of 10 if i am being a lil brat there is a reason for it and rest assured, Daddy will get to the bottom of it...quite literally... but being as much as i am one of the newer lg's, i thought i would speak out as to why i have finally come out of hiding, and hope it would help in understanding the more recent epidemic type flooding for which the OP speaks of... having an lg deep within is something i kept extremely private for a variety of reasons. one was of course being the social taboo placed against such ideation, a second and more complex issue was the belief that something within me was not right...that perhaps i had a split personality, or maybe there was this deep seated relationship issue within for which my real Dad could not answer to... and then of course there is the frightening fact that allowing others to know such a thing about you is prone to abuses far more unseeming than say letting others know you have a fetish for leather or lace... it's very personal, very psychological, and very frightening to be so open about something that for many lg's is not necessarily something that can be controlled. i know that for me it's not so much about a fetish or a role play, as much as it is a personality characteristic... one that up until very recently was a shunned characteristic. your words mirror my own feelings pretty well. it's not a kink or a fetish, it's an intrinsic part of who i am. i feel most vulnerable being Daddy's little slut, er girl. have you been to ageplay.org? it's a great site focussing on supporting your inner child. quote: quote: quote: ORIGINAL: EvilTwin Drawing mainly on the relationship between my babygirl and I... She isnt looking for a Sugardaddy, but a nurturer that she missed out on as a child. I am her Daddy... her protector... her teacher... I hold her and let her know everything is OK, but she is NOT allowed to be a brat. Disrespect and acting up are dealt with. I take this seriously. Some people need things they didnt get when they were supposed too. She is my baby girl... she is my pride and joy. I am her Daddy.. the most important person in her life. There is a balance there, flow in both directions... Some people see it as "wrong", or not true D/s or M/s... It works for us, and for many others. There is room for many practices. Jim the world needs more good Daddies :). and it is very true about some of us not getting what we needed growing up. finding a safe place for that growth as an adult is extremely therapeutic. < Message edited by littlebuttercup -- 7/31/2005 7:36:03 AM > _____________________________ sticking feathers in your butt does not make you a chicken. I must say that these all exprese what I could not, and I agree to some degree it fill a need I missed as a child from my dad. My mom died when I was two and emotionally so did my dad, He was there present in the house, but not emotionally, he would come home eat supper, watch the news, and read his paper, when it came to asking to do things we asked the step mom till one day she made us ask our dad, talk about scared, I remember it to this day. I was so nervous I cried, I didn't know him really never talked with him it took him dying for me to really realize the fact he was afraid to love again for fear of losing again, so understand him now but still doesn't fill that need. So perhaps it is theraputic to be my Masters little girl but still be the grownup that I need to be with a safety net in place so to speak hope this made sense, the other two posters did a much better job, thank you

MissTy -> RE: Daddydoms and babygirls... (8/1/2005 11:16:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sabella For ME having someone I can be childish or a girl with is a relief and a joy. When I was growing up and my whole life I've had to be the strong/mature/bullet proof one in ALL my relationships - even with family, friends, lovers. Sabella, this is exactly why I am attracted to Daddies... Being raised as a strong and independent woman always in charge of myself and those around me, it is indeed a great relief to be able to be childish and have someone protecting/caring for me/being the strong one in the family! Modern European feminism plays a part as well in my opinion. European men tiptoe around their women, and the women are supposed to be strong, capable of everything - education, children and family, career, high risk sports, military/foreign service - (yes, I have been balancing 5 of those..) Going back to old family roles might be necessary for the woman to actually be able to be the caring one, the submissive one, being protected by a strong Man. I guess its a dream come true when the modern (sub) woman finds the Man who wants to be her Daddy... It has nothing to do with my own father - rather the possibility to sink into an erotic sphere where you can let everything go; the one you love and trust will take care of everything. If that is a stepping stone into "heavier" bdsm..? Maybe, maybe not. I think it should be respected for those who choose to live it nonetheless - no matter if you have seen an explosion of people into this lately. So - perhaps they - like me - actually saw the light and found their internal, very well hidden little girl. Peek-a-boo! :)

anopheles -> RE: Daddydoms and babygirls... (8/2/2005 7:07:09 AM)
Daddy/littlegirl, Mommy/littleboy play is bound to create a very intense emotional response on both sides of the equation. Personally, I would not have a submissive embark on that sort of age play unless they expressed interest in it. And I would try to find out why, because there can be some real raw, unaddressed reasons, where if you aren't careful, you can SERIOUSLY hurt someone emotionally. Just my 2 cents. My luvdragon likes to call me Daddy, and we have talked about reasons why that may be the case, and she is only allowed to do it under strict guidelines, as we have young children. And I had to deal with my feelings on it, because my daughter calls me Daddy too. I had to prepare and make myself comfortable with it as well. In short, I would consider it edgeplay, and not to be taken lightly.

Padriag -> RE: Daddydoms and babygirls... (8/2/2005 7:27:30 AM)
Just as an interesting aside on how times have changed I was watching a re-run of the old Dick Van Dyke show... was kind of odd hearing Mary Tyler Moore calling Dick Van Dyke daddy... they actually do it quite a bit. Lucy sometimes called Desi this as well. File that under semi-useless facts [;)]

subcheryl -> RE: Daddydoms and babygirls... (8/2/2005 4:46:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Padriag Just as an interesting aside on how times have changed I was watching a re-run of the old Dick Van Dyke show... was kind of odd hearing Mary Tyler Moore calling Dick Van Dyke daddy... they actually do it quite a bit. Lucy sometimes called Desi this as well. File that under semi-useless facts [;)] Now that you said this, and I think back on my growing up years I do not remember my stepmom ever calling my dad by his given name it was always dad, and at times hon but for the life of me never heard her refer to him by oren. But in my marriage the boys called their dad,"dad", and I called him Jim, don't know why other than again I was in the role of the dominant one, went out to work he stayed home,I paid the bills did most of the grocery shopping, did scouts with the boys, kept a garden, raised rabbits,chickens and turkeys for meat,I also took care of the house and laundry, and bathing of the boys, school work, and most time discipline. While he cared for the kids during the day and went hunting during season and took the boys fishing. So maybe that is why, but with Master because he carries most of the burden of work and paying of the bills, we share the shopping and I take care of the house it is easier to call him daddy, most likely due to his nurturing nature and the pets just come when called. LOL

Sabella -> RE: Daddydoms and babygirls... (8/2/2005 6:41:33 PM)
My grandmother always called my grandfather "daddy" I always thought it was so very sweet. :)

DaddyCatAtlanta -> RE: Daddydoms and babygirls... (8/27/2005 11:55:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Padriag Last two or three years sounds about right from my experience as well. Before Yahell shut down the users room there were at one point about a half dozen chat rooms there devoted to the Daddydom/babygirl theme. It was also becoming pretty prevalent among them to see Daddydom/babygirl as being almost a separate style from D/s... essentially the view was, as I understand it, that they saw Dd/bg as forming a unique dynamic as the basis of their relationship. Make of that what you will. ... BTW Faramir, your description of rough Dd/bg play would have probably horrified most of the babygirls. What I saw of it online fits closer with what Ron describes. But that could just be a difference between online ideas and offline realities. I spent some time (a few months) in that room, and there were plenty of painslut babygirls there, although perhaps not as high a proportion as in a general D/s room. And I didn't notice them having any more trouble finding Daddies (at least to talk to) than those that weren't. I also didn't see many with a desire to simply be spoiled, without the expectation/desire of being punished for being bratty. There can be a tendency for babygirls to want that their brattiness, though punished, to be accepted as a permanent aspect of their participation in the relationship, rather than being seen as a fault in their training that should be erased, but I don't believe that this is limited to babygirls alone - plenty of subs (not so much slaves) talk about being bratty. Part of what you're seeing may be that some babygirls may be bratty or talk more about looking for someone to spoil them, with the knowledge that a Daddy will see that as the cry for more discipline, like an actual child "acting out" might be. If I met (online or real) a woman claiming to want a Daddy to just spoil her and insisting he had no right to discpline her, I'd write her off as just another kind of player. Blessed Be, DC

ragdoll -> RE: Daddydoms and babygirls... (8/28/2005 12:34:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Faramir No - that's like saying most girls in BDSM woudl be horrified. Some girls in BDSM want it light, some want it hard - there is a wide cross-section. i totally agree with this. As a woman who's submissive and likes ageplay, i agree that there are definitely innerkids (babygirls/babyboys) who are into a rougher and more strict form of ageplay.. just like there are submissives who aren't into ageplay who like things rougher.. or like S&M.. and things... and then there are people who like other aspects of D/s... and ageplay... things that aren't as rough and harsh. i'm glad you brought up both "sides" to ageplay... rather than just the gentler and more nurturing side to things. quote: ORIGINAL: Padriag I suppose in a way someone did sort of open the door on it, or rather you might say the internet did. Just my personal opinion but I tend to agree with you, this particular style of D/s had gained in popularity and I think that's been chiefly because of the internet. ... What I have often seen in practice is that for many online being a babygirl is a quasi-form of submissiveness where they expect to be able to be a brat while being spoiled and pampered by their (sugar) Daddy. i absolutely think the internet "opened the door" to many things, the open expression of ageplay included. ~ But.. there are all sorts of things which fall under the umbrella term of BDSM that were "unleashed" by the internet.... Forums like collarme too.... gave an even "larger" gathering place for people with interest in BDSM... in "the real world" a gathering of hundreds or thousands of BDSM singles and couples discussing things daily would never have happened. ~~ The internet (as i think you said later on) gives us anonimity... and that tends to help people be more "open" about desires and fantasies than they are in face to face settings.... -though- i do take issue with your ideas that "babygirls" want to be bratty. i identify as an innerkid/babygirl and i do not have the urge to be "bratty" at all. i'm an adult, afterall, and i know how to temper a lot of my moods all on my own. i don't need to be bratty, i don't act out. ~ and... i see just as many submissives who aren't interested in ageplay "act out" like brats as i do within the ageplay "sub"community... Some people like to be bratty.. or need to be bratty.. others don't. ~ Ya' know? ^_^ quote: ORIGINAL: imtempting it seems wrong to me to call someone daddy or mummy dom ( if they exsist). Always reminds me of incest. i completely "get" how it might seem wrong to call someone Mommy or Daddy. And that reminding you of incest is totally understandable. ~ i think a lot of times ageplay gets confused with "incest fantasies"... which isn't necessarily "horrible" but... not everyone involved in ageplay has "incest fantasies". But... some people use other terms besides "Mommy" or "Daddy"... like Mama, Papa, Dadda, Nanny, Poppy... and i'm sure there are others, but those are some i've heard. i call my biological parents "Mom" and "Dad"... i would have a hard time using those terms in an ageplay relationship (for the same kind of reason you gave). But... since i don't use some of those other terms (like Mommy and Daddy and Mama etc) those would be okay. There are some people who call their ageplay partner Master or Mistress too... ..and never actually use the usual "parental" terms. quote: ORIGINAL: Sabella For ME having someone I can be childish or a girl with is a relief and a joy. When I was growing up and my whole life I've had to be the strong/mature/bullet proof one in ALL my relationships - even with family, friends, lovers. Being a girl was weak and got me hurt. So to be able to explore that side is like regaining something I never had - the freedom to just BE a girl, be protected and loved and cherished. That's how it is for me, at least partly. When i was an actual biological child i felt like i had to be really mature.. and "tough"... and things. Being at all vulnerable around someone was "weak" to me.. and even to my family... and so for a long time i couldn't be. Ageplay (and accepting and embracing my innerchild) has given me an opportunity to explore things i wasn't able to before........ it is definitely partly theraputic.. it does help me to feel like i'm able to "regain" something. As an aside... i know some people seem to have a problem with "relationships" being theraputic, though i've never understood this! All sorts of healthy things in life are theraputic... even having a child.. raising the child can be... perhaps particularily after a miscarriage... ~ so... i guess not to go too off topic, i just wanted to say... something being theraputic doesn't always mean "bad" or "mental case" situation.. or whatever. ^_^ anyway.. i think this is a good discussion!

thelight -> RE: Daddydoms and babygirls... (8/28/2005 2:15:45 AM)
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CitizenCane -> RE: Daddydoms and babygirls... (8/28/2005 9:23:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Padriag quote: ORIGINAL: Sabella How ironic we were just talking about this the other day :) My Dom/Hubby doesn't agree either with the "you gotta be just mean & bad to do it right" mentality he said he's often seen. The way he explained it to me is that kind of relationship doesn't build a sub up, it only tears them down. It doesn't give value or build worth. Exactly, I feel the same way. To me I see training a slave as a process of creating value, not destroying it. Fear, intimidation, blunt force, these are not my tools. I use discipline to direct and guide a slave to grow in the way I wish. I suppose you could compart it to Bonsai gardening for those familiar with that. I prune those branches I don't want and use wire and weights to guide it into growing into the shape I want. I chose the tag line quote in my signature for that specific reason, discipline is sometimes hard or "cruel", but it does so that later it can be gentle and kind. BTW, was Abraham Lincoln who said, "You'll catch more flies with honey than you will with vinegar." I agree with your post- as usual- but if you really want to catch flies, there's no substitute for bullshit. Cane

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Daddydoms and babygirls... (5/28/2008 5:22:48 PM)
ageplay and having a Daddy dom for me is not about giving up responcibilities or having daddy fix things for me, nor is it about giving up control , I'm quite in control, perhaps to much sometimes, and I still have responcibilites. quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Dear Taggard. I think that it is more acceptable and less squicky as you say. I also postulate that in the main, that it's a warm comfortable place to start out for a lot of women, and somewhere that they can attach to easily. No responsibilities and no control whatsoever given in a very trusting way......and a feeling that they liked growing up, that daddy will take care of and fix everything, abrogating responsibilities is very soothing to many.

Roselaure -> RE: Daddydoms and babygirls... (5/28/2008 5:35:12 PM)
It's not unheard of for the Daddy/ Little Girl dynamic to combine nurturing affection with sadism. Can be a very intense mix. Sort of a "Daddy Dearest" dynamic.

fungasm -> RE: Daddydoms and babygirls... (5/28/2008 5:48:08 PM)
Something else to consider as far as an increase in Daddies and Babygirls: media. Between a popularity of Japanese Anime with it's school girls and websites like SugarDaddie dot com, there are more people exposed to the possibility. Our culture is changing. I can't wait to see what happens next.

Leatherist -> RE: Daddydoms and babygirls... (5/28/2008 6:36:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss ageplay and having a Daddy dom for me is not about giving up responcibilities or having daddy fix things for me, nor is it about giving up control , I'm quite in control, perhaps to much sometimes, and I still have responcibilites. quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Dear Taggard. I think that it is more acceptable and less squicky as you say. I also postulate that in the main, that it's a warm comfortable place to start out for a lot of women, and somewhere that they can attach to easily. No responsibilities and no control whatsoever given in a very trusting way......and a feeling that they liked growing up, that daddy will take care of and fix everything, abrogating responsibilities is very soothing to many. This is a really old topic.

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