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Celeste43 -> RE: What were you missing in life? (10/15/2007 6:55:44 AM)

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Shantilucious -> RE: What were you missing in life? (10/15/2007 9:16:45 AM)

Well you won't like the answer, I was born this way. I have no other explaination.

I wasn't abused, or spoiled, growing up. My parents were divorced, but my father was an active parent. I come from a pretty typical, very close/loving, liberal, non-religious, family. So it isn't about having my sexuality supressed either. I am not co-dependent, I have no mental illnesses. I have great relationships with my family and friends.

Yet from my very first sextual encounter, I KNEW that I needed to be dominated to get excieted, and it was before I even knew what BDSM was (and still don't know much about the culture involving it, looking forward to learning though).

BTW I have been lurking for a few days, and seeing this question is what made me join, lol. I just wanted to be clear, that being submissive does not mean I "must" be damaged in some way.



RCdc -> RE: What were you missing in life? (10/15/2007 9:30:30 AM)


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Please delve deep into your psyche 'cause there has to be a better answer than just "I was born this way."
 
Why does there have to be an answer?  Why are you physically male?  It just is.  Try not to get caught up so much in the why because it can lose the when and where.

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What make's you feel you need to be controlled, beaten, humiliated or abused? Did you have a parent that was abusive? Where you molested when you were younger? Where you neglected emotionaly by a family member or some one you deeply loved? What void in your life are you trying to fill by seeking out a Master or Mistress to dominate every aspect of your life?
 
 
My parents are still happily married and fantastic people.  No abuse occured to me by family or anyone I loved or who mattered deeply - or by anyone I loathed either.  There is also, and never was a void.
 
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I am a Dom that's new to BDSM and have a fetish for light bondage and find there are some very sadistic Master's/Dom's out there that you sub's/slave's seem to gravitate to and I don't know why. Fisting, mutilation, beaten unconscious, ritual murder, choking, male sub's forced into unprotected sex with other men for no other reason than their Master/Mistress said so. Why??? When you acquire AID's and your Master/Mistress/Dom/Domme kick's you out the door because he/she has used you all up, then what are you going to do?

Ritual murder?  That's a bit far fetched hey.  Maybe the fantasy for some - but not a reality.  People mutilate without BDSM involved - piercings, hair dyes, nails - these are all forms of body modification and mutilation... must they all have a reason?
Besides, being submissive does not negate personal responsibility.  If you cannot submit or be responsible for yourself first, then don't submit to another.

Dominants do care for their charges.  You are speaking of the whole media led hype of what a dominant is - which is false on the whole.

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What have you missed out of in life that has led you down this path? Do you love pain and suffering? Does it feel THAT good?

Nothing.  This is life.  I simply live life.  Just because one is submissive that does not make me any different from my neighbour apart from the fact that we are unique and different anyway.  Don't try and seperate BDSM form life and then is all makes sense.



AquaticSub -> RE: What were you missing in life? (10/15/2007 12:56:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Woodhunter

Please delve deep into your psyche 'cause there has to be a better answer than just "I was born this way."
 

Sorry. Sometimes you just have to accept that you aren't right. There really isn't.
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What make's you feel you need to be controlled, beaten, humiliated or abused? Did you have a parent that was abusive? Where you molested when you were younger? Where you neglected emotionaly by a family member or some one you deeply loved? What void in your life are you trying to fill by seeking out a Master or Mistress to dominate every aspect of your life?
 

Why? Because it turns me on and fulfills me. My parents were never abusive, they were wonderful and loving. They spent a lot of time with me and took me on vacations. I was never molested or neglected emotionally. There is no void in my life. I am not a broken woman. I am a strong woman who can survive on my own - I am simply happier being owned.
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I am a Dom that's new to BDSM and have a fetish for light bondage and find there are some very sadistic Master's/Dom's out there that you sub's/slave's seem to gravitate to and I don't know why. Fisting, mutilation, beaten unconscious, ritual murder, choking, male sub's forced into unprotected sex with other men for no other reason than their Master/Mistress said so. Why??? When you acquire AID's and your Master/Mistress/Dom/Domme kick's you out the door because he/she has used you all up, then what are you going to do?
 

This is not meant to be offensive but you being new is no surprise. Go out and socialize with others. You need to realize that 1 out of 4 women are sexually molested, but if one fourth of the female population and enjoyed the activites you describe was submissive we would be the majority.

I doubt I will acquire AIDs because we have both been tested, we are faithful and he does not share me sexually. He will not use me up and kick me out because he loves me and has often said that I am the best thing that every happened to him.
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What have you missed out of in life that has led you down this path? Do you love pain and suffering? Does it feel THAT good?

You have a great deal of learning to do. Honestly, I have to slightly doubt that you are dominant but wonder if you are someone who is replused by BDSM and you want answers. Either way, you are clearly very new and you need to get out and talk to people. You will find that we are a population like any other. Some of us will have fucked up childhoods. Others will be like me. There is not a magic "X" factor that made us this way.



AquaticSub -> RE: What were you missing in life? (10/15/2007 1:03:54 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Woodhunter

So in the beginning no one told you you're nothing but a slave and no event transpired in your life that led you to that conclusion. You were just "born that way".
 
When I first started this post I understand I may have gotten a bit emotional. If I have stepped on anyone's toe's I apologize. What had prompted me to start this thread was a young man I had met in a chat room whose Master had him to find men to have unprotected sex with. My concern was that in doing so he could acquire HIV as well as pass it along to every male he has intercourse with. I he and I could have chatted longer for it was obvious he had no value on his life and I wanted to know why? I now understand that this is what he wanted...and receive he shall. I feel that had he been mine then his Health/Medical requirements would be my responsibility.


I was taught, from a very young age, to never put myself in a situation where I would have to rely on a man. That I deserve the best.

However, there is a kink for getting HIV. Google "bug chasers". I believe it is mostly in the homosexual male community but I suspect this person is not doing it simply because they are told to do but because they are also aroused by it. It's a very troubling situation to me. Because of the advances in treating HIV, some people are regarding it as no bigger a deal than gential warts.



sweetcreeangel -> RE: What were you missing in life? (10/15/2007 2:14:21 PM)

i am not abused but loved and respected as i see fit........not a painslut!!!!!!!!!!!1but i am a submissive because it is in my nature to be this way,i enjoy being told what to do,being spanked and taken care of......by the sounds of it You are only describing one aspect of BDSM.it is all not like that,but yes there are some Dom/me's out there that are like that BUT I MUST SAY NOT ALL.....for you can only choice what is right for you,your "One".if there is something i dont like then i say no but if there is something i do like there i say more please and so forth.....etc..........i hope this helps
be well



Celeste43 -> RE: What were you missing in life? (10/15/2007 7:30:24 PM)

Come on Aqua, fess up. I bet you didn't have a pony either!



leakylee -> RE: What were you missing in life? (10/15/2007 11:23:19 PM)

they failed to give me they horse they promised, and i didnt get enough steel in my youth. hence the adventures into extreme sex nowadays. yes that is the ticket. uh huh

lee



littlebitxxx -> RE: What were you missing in life? (10/16/2007 5:46:51 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Woodhunter


What make's you feel you need to be controlled,   I don't NEED anything.  I happen to like the feeling of being controlled (sometimes)
beaten,   I like it, I get to count welts afterward :)
humiliated  I can't be, I've tried
or abused?  It is not abuse, it is love - SM style
Did you have a parent that was abusive?  No
Where you molested when you were younger?  No
Where you neglected emotionaly by a family member or some one you deeply loved?   No
What void in your life are you trying to fill by seeking out a Master or Mistress to dominate every aspect of your life?  There really is no void in my life.  I am not expecting, nor do I wish, a Master to dominate every aspect of my life.  I am not into micro-management.  
 
What have you missed out of in life that has led you down this path?  Until recently, I missed out on bdsm and all that goes with it.
Do you love pain and suffering? Does it feel THAT good?  Yes it does but there is no suffering.  I do it because I love it.  I was not "born" to this life, I acquired it.  I am a submissive maso pain slut because I want to be, I like it, it feels good, it is erotic, it turns me on, I'm bored without it, it leads to great sex, there is an intensity that isn't available in a vanilla relationship,  counting my welts gives me something to do on night shift, I look great in a collar, bdam gives me the opportunity to wear skanky clothes and be accepted, I get to wear heels, it gives my flogger a purpose in life, I get to go shopping at Home Depot or the tack shop and giggle all the way through, did I mention the great sex?    d) all of the above.  But NO, I was NOT born to this.  I CHOSE this life path.



stella41b -> RE: What were you missing in life? (10/16/2007 3:37:38 PM)

I can answer for myself. And it's taken me until only recently to work this out after a considerable number of years experience. It's part of my basic nature, part of my Soul, part of something I feel I have to go through in life. I was born this way.

I understood this recently through an examination of my astrological birth chart.

Now I'm a TG female, and when you're transgendered you go through a tremendous inner conflict through the fact that your body doesn't match your 'inside', your soul and your mind. You go through your childhood as a member of the wrong sex and through your upbringing and socialization you are forced to acquire behaviour patterns and character traits of your physical gender which oppose your 'inner' true gender. Therefore it took me some time to work out what was really my true inner female character traits and what was my former, previous 'acquired' male character traits. Is my submissiveness guilt through previously accepting my 'false' male gender just to fit in with society, or is it actually a part of me?

Now I'm a Sun Cancerian with a Virgo Moon and Virgo Rising. Only being born in 1966 I was born during a powerful Uranus-Pluto conjunction (harmonious aspect) which conjoined also with my natal Ascendant and Moon positions, but also at a time when all these four positions opposed (comflicting aspect) my natal Saturn position. Without going into all the details this has given me a major issue with control and discipline and even though I know now that I have rather powerful abilities to control and discipline myself, I often find it easier and much more satisfying to submit and be controlled and discplined by someone else.

Let us not forget that astrology never gives the complete or true picture, as there are always a lot of other factors which must also be taken into account, such as upbringing, background, life circumstances, experiences, culture, and the psychological effects of you dealing with your own life circumstances, plus of course the effects on your behaviour from the other people in your life and how they behave. Astrology just indicates tendencies, it can indicate what should be considered if there's no answer, but it can't where the answer can be obviously be found elsewhere.

I'm writing about this because for some people it's naturally part of them and for others it may be a tendency or a trait they pick up through going through a particular experience. Mathematicians once worked out in a study that there are at least - based on every possible planetary position and every possible combination with all the others that there are at least 26 billion different types of character based on an astrological chart, and considering all the other 'non-astrological' factors I mentioned above, it suggests to me that there are as many reasons why someone submissive is submissive as there are submissives.

But I guess this doesn't make anything clearer.



RRafe -> RE: What were you missing in life? (10/16/2007 3:50:35 PM)

I don't care if I get ignored either......but do you know how freaking HARD it is to find pervettes as bent as me? Why on EARTH would I want to destroy someone that had that much value to me?

Isn't that sort of like cutting off your fingers for fun?[&:]



TakenPet -> RE: What were you missing in life? (10/16/2007 4:17:59 PM)

I agree with LA, why does there have to be a better answer than that? Would because it feels good suffice? Quite often we do things because it feels good and it feels right.  Pain for pleasure is not any different.  You do not need a traumatic event in your past or some messed up family.  Sometimes is just has to do with idolization and fantasy.  Is there really anything wrong with that? 
Why does anyone have to be missing anything to want to feel good and happy? Is it so hard to belive that someone who wants this kind of lifestyle is happy and could be happy? Sometimes it involves fear, sometimes it involves the actual chemical reaction that occurs with pain.  People are different and who are you to suggest that anyone should have to justify themselves to you with something other than why not or I was born to do it or it just feels good.  If I am happy in my life, how does that make my life bad or wrong?  Why that mean that I am missing something?



WillowRain -> RE: What were you missing in life? (10/16/2007 5:00:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Woodhunter

I ask this question to find out a sub/slave's point of view. If you are a Master/Mistress/Dom/mme reading this post do not answer I will not respond...these questions are being directed to sub's/slave's.
 
Please delve deep into your psyche 'cause there has to be a better answer than just "I was born this way."
 
What make's you feel you need to be controlled, beaten, humiliated or abused? Did you have a parent that was abusive? Where you molested when you were younger? Where you neglected emotionaly by a family member or some one you deeply loved? What void in your life are you trying to fill by seeking out a Master or Mistress to dominate every aspect of your life?
 
I am a Dom that's new to BDSM and have a fetish for light bondage and find there are some very sadistic Master's/Dom's out there that you sub's/slave's seem to gravitate to and I don't know why. Fisting, mutilation, beaten unconscious, ritual murder, choking, male sub's forced into unprotected sex with other men for no other reason than their Master/Mistress said so. Why??? When you acquire AID's and your Master/Mistress/Dom/Domme kick's you out the door because he/she has used you all up, then what are you going to do?
 
What have you missed out of in life that has led you down this path? Do you love pain and suffering? Does it feel THAT good?


I think your questions hint at a very basic misunderstanding of how people respond to sensation. What feels to one person like "bad" pain, can feel to another like strong sensation. Someone can have a VERY high tolerance for one kind of sensation and be a total marshmellow about another.

My pain tollerance shifted when I went through a medical situation where I had daily migrains for seven months. My ability to process pain simply changed due to a need to survive and live and get crap done. It had nothing to do with kink, it had to do with my body learning new things. After that period of time, I just experienced strong sensation in a different way. A lot of my lines where sensation crosses into "bad"  pain are simply in diferant places than they used to be. I find strain exciting. I find having to stretch and work to maintain my position and situation chalanging and exciting. Feeling like someone has physical control over me just rocks my little buttons and them exherting a lot of powerful sensation into my body is in that vein. It simply feels, gut and primal level, like they are in charge.

Now, why am I drawn to power exchange. Harder to say. There are a lot of relationships in my family where there are power dynamics, so some, honestly it just feels comfy and like home for me. I am fascinated by trust, and enjoy being trustworthy and trusting others, D&s is a way of very much actively exploring that. Why do I find it crazy hot to yeild, to submit? Don't know. There is something very primal and good/satisfying about feeling like the male mounting you is strong, strong in self and spirit, strong in body. It may be some native desire to make strong babies that can survive the winter, I don't know. I need honor, an ability to be kind, compassion, integrity, honesty. But too, I need someone who is comfortable playing at the intensity I am comfortable with, in the aspects of physical encounters that I love being intense in. It's a horrible feeling to expose a desire or longing to a lover and utterly horrify them, and I have had that experience with vanilla folks. I much prefer that glinting flash of a smile in the eyes, and the feel of a firm grip in my hair (male or female grip, either way)

Don't know if that will help.



AquaticSub -> RE: What were you missing in life? (10/17/2007 8:15:43 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Celeste43

Come on Aqua, fess up. I bet you didn't have a pony either!


Actually...

My parents offered to buy me one if I kept up with my riding lessons. I did but when it came time for the horse, I decided I wasn't ready for the responsibility of grooming it, riding it every day and so forth. One of the wisest decisions I ever made...



mydomsabstrd -> RE: What were you missing in life? (10/17/2007 9:03:19 AM)

ok here goes was i beaten as a child?    yes my mother(an unwed teenager) felt she had to do that, that is how she was raised(my grandmother had her hands full with 8 kids).  i was unrulely at best.    was i molested?  yes  by family members.  was i raped?  yes have been 3 times. does any of this have anything to do with me in this lifestyle?  no.  i did not get pleasure from those experiences.   infact i was numbed by all of them.  until He came into my life(and even after) i was a barely functioning mother of 3.  because of Him and what we share i have made efforts to come to terms with why i always screwed up.  im a product of my environment, but am learning that does not have to shape the rest of my life.  He does, i do and my kids do but thats it. 



oh and i never had a pony either.



stella41b -> RE: What were you missing in life? (10/17/2007 10:46:30 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Woodhunter

Please delve deep into your psyche 'cause there has to be a better answer than just "I was born this way."



Okay, so you're looking for a 'better' answer - here's mine. Let you and the others work it out for yourselves.



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ORIGINAL: Woodhunter

What make's you feel you need to be controlled, beaten, humiliated or abused? Did you have a parent that was abusive? Where you molested when you were younger? Where you neglected emotionaly by a family member or some one you deeply loved? What void in your life are you trying to fill by seeking out a Master or Mistress to dominate ever you.



Here I can give you three answers.

1. I am a TS (transsexual female). My physical body is male, however my soul, mind, heart, and the rest of the inside of me is female. I'm not sure whether you have kids or not, but there's no greater experience to an adult than the birth of their own child. I was born a healthy 'boy', only that's how it appeared on the outside. However try to imagine how I felt, I was a girl but ended up with this body of a boy - which sort of pissed me off greatly in my childhood. Ah but you see, I'm human, just like everyone else, so like everyone else I didn't work it out until later, until I was about 13 years old. Up until that time I just felt 'different', I had this tremendous inner conflict inside me, all I knew that people were treating me differently to the way I felt and I couldn't understand why. I discovered at 13 and went to my parents, for who - and I guess you people can figure it out - I was their son, and this 'son' suddenly starts wanting to be a girl. It freaked them completely. Their reaction freaked me completely, as did the reaction of other people through my teens. It took me 27 years of my life to come out successfully, and I have only just managed to overcome all the issues I've had in my own head because of this.

However as a child I became rebellious, eccentric, wilful, stubborn, unpredictable, antisocial, and as a result through being a diffiult child I was beaten and chastised constantly by my parents.

I was born in 1966. July. I'm a Sun Cancerian, Virgo rising, Virgo Moon... together with the Virgo rising and Virgo Moon I got that powerful Uranus-Pluto conjunction which caused the social upheaval in the mid-1960's in the States and I'm part of that generation which is bringing the world advances in technology and healthcare but also the same generation causing mass unemployment and problems with healthcare. However with me working against myself control and discipline have always been major issues in my life.

Yes I can be a genius, some people say that I am, but the way my life worked out meant that yes, I've had my birlliant moments but I have been living mainly on the edge of life, on the edge of insanity and madness until I recently worked it out by way of an astrological consultation.

But I was lucky. At the age of 16 I found the Church and became a born again Christian. At the age of 17 I changed, experimented briefly with Islam, and found Buddhism, did the 3 month stint with a Master from India, and that is how I've got through, pulled myself together and have now overcome my issues with control and discipline. I follow the Buddhist philosophy in my life totally, thuis is the basis of my life.

Being a believer in reincarnation I have a theory (not proven, just a theory) that not only was I 'born this way' but also that 'I chose to be born this way'.

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ORIGINAL: Woodhunter

I am a Dom that's new to BDSM and have a fetish for light bondage and find there are some very sadistic Master's/Dom's out there that you sub's/slave's seem to gravitate to and I don't know why. Fisting, mutilation, beaten unconscious, ritual murder, choking, male sub's forced into unprotected sex with other men for no other reason than their Master/Mistress said so. Why??? When you acquire AID's and your Master/Mistress/Dom/Domme kick's you out the door because he/she has used you all up, then what are you going to do?



There is good and evil in this world, there really is. And like it or not good exists alongside evil and evil exists alongside good, and it has to be that way so that we can learn to recognise one from the other. Some people are weak, and some people are strong. However we all make mistakes, we all make the wrong decisions, and we all have to suffer the consequences for the things we think, say and do which are wrong.

Being a Buddhist I believe in Karma - the law of consequence. Everything you say, everything you think, everything you do, and every single experience you go through has some sort of consequence, some sort of meaning.

I strongly disagree with the view presented above that just because someone is a Dom and a sadist that they are abusive and that they are bad people.

I see it completely differently. We know that there is good and evil in the world, and we know from the above fragment I have quoted that people are capable of being both good and evil. We know that there is a law of Karma and each and every thought, word spoken or written, and each and every action brings a consequence. We all know that we all make mistakes, we make the wrong decisions, or do things at the wrong time. It is from the things we do wrong and our mistakes that we learn such things as guilt, fear, prejudice, and regret, and these are things which build up inside us, inside our very souls as we all go through life.

This is where I see the attraction of BDSM for people. It's easy to go on about all the fakes, and the liars, and the psychos and the idiots, but when you stop and think about it, and I mean really stop and think about it, the BDSM community is also full of really good people - and these good people can be found both as submissives and Dominants.

BDSM is good for the soul. BDSM requires human interaction, therefore it requires good qualities such as trust, friendship, kindness, warmth, understanding, even love. And I for one see a slave and a submissive as being just as good as a Dominant, irrespective of whether they are a sadist or not, they are all good people. How so?

Consider that we have all made mistakes and carry regrets and we all therefore carry such things inside us as fear, regret, guilt, and insecurity. These are things which we all need to be released from, they are bad for our soul, bad for our Karma. We don't need bad Karma, it makes death a terrible experience and also makes the period of death between lives (my belief again) an incredibly long and lonely journey, much longer than life. Life is short by comparison.

Now we all need to be released, and it is that feeling of release which I feel gives us either domspace or subspace. But to achieve that we need to atone for the things we have done wrong, we have to pay for our mistakes, and we pay for that through experiencing pain and restriction. It cleanses us, it cleanses our souls.

Consider also that there are two different ways of giving, you can either provide or you can serve. Doms are providers, and subs and slaves are servers. Therefore Doms take control and through their control they provide release, and subs and slaves through their loss of control they achieve release and they are released, and as a result in releasing the sub from their guilt, fear, insecurity and regret the Dom is also released from their's through the act of giving, or if you prefer a sort of charity. On the basis of my reasoning here I form the view that the BDSM community is full of good people irrespective of what role they play.

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ORIGINAL: Woodhunter

What have you missed out of in life that has led you down this path? Do you love pain and suffering? Does it feel THAT good?



Second question first - pain and suffering releases us from our guilt, fears, insecurities and regrets. Next, third question - yes, it feels damn good to let go of your guilt, fears, insecurities and regrets to discover truth, wisdom, happiness and fulfilment.

And this to me answers the first question above. What have I missed out on in life? Well pretty much the same as everyone else - Nirvana, or if you prefer Perfect Enlightenment. We are not God (though some people may mistakenly believe they are equal to God) we are human, we are mortal, we make mistakes, we are far from perfect, we are all learning, we are all experiencing, and it is this learning process and series of experiences that lead us all down the same path. And that path is quite simply called LIFE.



meticulousgirl -> RE: What were you missing in life? (10/17/2007 11:30:18 AM)

I have to agree with LA 100% and i know this is probably going to come off as rude but I'm just dieing to know why you seem to want to criticize us when you are so new.  Dom or not i just find some of your statements quite rude.

i am a slave because i enjoy making other people happy period.  i have been that way for as long as i can remember (childhood) i have had a need to have consenquences and rewards for my actions, behaivor and words.  It's not a want, it's a need. i dont get off on the physical side as much as i do from the mental.  This is my lifestyle, this is a lot of people's lifestyle and it irritates me beyond belief that you would relate it to the a-holes that include murder and a multitude of other activities while calling themselves a Dom.  That's not how over 3/4 of us live this lifestyle out.  I'm not saying your not serious but please be a little more respectful of those of us who play and play safely as well as those of us who have choosen our practices as a lifestyle.

~meticulous~



MRandme -> RE: What were you missing in life? (10/17/2007 2:59:56 PM)

My childhood was as bad as it could get. i won't go into details, but there was abuse, neglect and molestation involved. These things did not cause me to become a submissive. The opposite actually. i was still a submissive, still had this intense urge to please... and was telling myself that i needed to grow a backbone, stop being a doormat. i craved praise and was disappointed because i never seemed to get it.

i subconsciously sought out men that said they respected my independance and strength, then smothered it out of me. i was, though i didn't know it, searching for a Dom/Master.

Now that i have embraced my submissive side, it is easier to be strong with others. Knowing that i submit to my Master and that He is the only one i have to please makes it easier to be assertive with others. And i know that when i please my Master, He will praise me and reward me.

my abusive childhood did not make me submissive, it made it harder to accept my true nature. The abusive marriage also threw roadblocks in my way. It is very hard to trust on the level required for true submission when your trust has been betrayed constantly in your past.

i don't crave to be beaten or humilated. i don't crave to crawl on my belly, to humiliate myself. i crave to give myself to someone who can appreciate that giving.

i have been fortunate enough to find someone that i can trust in that way. It isn't easy. But it is worth the effort.

g



mellian -> RE: What were you missing in life? (10/18/2007 1:57:31 AM)

I really dislike those who ask whether I am was abused as child or some such because I am a sub, lesbian, or whatever. One doesn't need to be abused, neglected, or whatever to be a submissive or slave. While yes, I can probably fish out aspects of my life that may have help formed my interest in BDSM and wanting to serve another women like being raise in a family who like to help others and stubborn about others helping them, been quite a loner when I was young, part can be due to my gender identity, always wanting to make positive difference, and such, but do I see any reasons why I should explain myself. I am who I am and who I am will continuously evolve.

-mellian



welshwmn3 -> RE: What were you missing in life? (10/18/2007 3:39:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark


Why does there have to be an answer?  Why are you physically male?  It just is.  Try not to get caught up so much in the why because it can lose the when and where.



 
Your response made me think of the Rush song:  Why does it happen?  Because it happens.  Roll the bones, roll the bones.
 
:)



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