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bdsm? - 10/15/2007 6:24:32 AM   
therealboss


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Status: offline 		so who decides that one person's idea of bdsm is not bdsm because it's not what they are into?
personally,i enjoy humiliating people who allow me to humiliate them,i enjoy dominating even though am not a pro,why should that make me any less of a Dom?people that have come to me still see me as a Dom,and most importantly,i see myself as a Dom


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RE: bdsm? - 10/15/2007 6:32:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: therealboss

so who decides that one person's idea of bdsm is not bdsm because it's not what they are into?
Why, the Magistrate of BDSM Activities (MBDSMA). They control the BDSM Police (BDSMPD) who make sure that your BDSM is like everyone elses.
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personally,i enjoy humiliating people who allow me to humiliate them,i enjoy dominating even though am not a pro,why should that make me any less of a Dom?people that have come to me still see me as a Dom,and most importantly,i see myself as a Dom
Well good for you. I bet mommy is so proud of her lil dommy-boy. All grown up, now isn't he? Now you jus run along now. We have things to do. Go on, shoo, shoo.

< Message edited by MrDiscipline44 -- 10/15/2007 6:33:03 AM >

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RE: bdsm? - 10/15/2007 6:50:20 AM   
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so who says your not? You simply have some procliviites within the confins of the path.

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RE: bdsm? - 10/15/2007 6:55:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: therealboss

so who decides that one person's idea of bdsm is not bdsm because it's not what they are into?
personally,i enjoy humiliating people who allow me to humiliate them,i enjoy dominating even though am not a pro,why should that make me any less of a Dom?people that have come to me still see me as a Dom,and most importantly,i see myself as a Dom



sigh...therealboss....your OP should explain what your concern is so we could actually discuss and understand what you are talking about.  This statement is not a conversational topic, in fact, it's kind of the majority unwritten rule in the lifestyle, don't criticise other's kink.  So, what is it you want people to talk about?  Did someone tell you that you weren't a "true Dom"?
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RE: bdsm? - 10/15/2007 7:01:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		hmmmmmmm,,,,,,! procliviites?

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RE: bdsm? - 10/15/2007 7:07:14 AM   
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laurell3
hello again laurell3,i think this a conversational topic,as people have said what am into is not bdsm,the topic is dbsm?a question mark behind bdsm,am inviting people to give me their veiws on bdsm so we can all discuss it

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RE: bdsm? - 10/15/2007 7:09:23 AM   
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ORIGINAL: therealboss

hmmmmmmm,,,,,,! procliviites?


–noun, plural -ties.




natural or habitual inclination or tendency; propensity; predisposition: a proclivity to meticulousness.

from www.dictionary.com

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RE: bdsm? - 10/15/2007 7:10:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		people? here?  so....you're only into humiliation and were criticised for that?  Is that correct?
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RE: bdsm? - 10/15/2007 7:12:11 AM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		The words decide, not people.
BDSM is simply an acronym Bondage/Discipline/Domination-submission/Sadim/Masochism.
If your relationship contains any single one - that is practising BDSM. Pretty simple really...
 
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RE: bdsm? - 10/15/2007 7:20:52 AM   
toservez


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people have said what am into is not bdsm


I am sorry if I did not read some thread that somehow dissed you, but what you are into sounds perfectly well within the confines of this life. “People have said” really has no bearing on individual people who read and write on this message board and if anyone does not agree with your views accept it as part of life.

Looking for validity happens on a message board just like everywhere in life. I am just not sure why you need to make it about yourself. I just do not think you are going to find people argue about humiliation being within the umbrella of this life unless somehow it is personal comments about themselves and not humiliation itself. It is one of the more personal topics that people often confuse personal preference with right and wrong.






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RE: bdsm? - 10/15/2007 7:23:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

The words decide, not people.
BDSM is simply an acronym Bondage/Discipline/Domination-submission/Sadim/Masochism.
If your relationship contains any single one - that is practising BDSM. Pretty simple really...
 
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I second the dark. Thank you for stating my thoughts.
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RE: bdsm? - 10/15/2007 7:36:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		well in this lifestyle or what ever you want to called it name it tell it.  everyone fantasies what they want it to be. It is sexual driven. Human sexuality is not always about intercourse. While most change and adapt to concepts that are unstable ofton times mentally taxing on the mind and body others are finding that purity and growth inside. What it is to belong to someone or be with someone.  Hype, Gossip, Cattle Gathering = mass stupidity (where one persons idea becomes the norm do to populatity)  check it out for your self one just has to look to see what it is all about

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RE: bdsm? - 10/15/2007 8:19:39 AM   
LadyLynx


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Status: offline 		Read my tagline.  (hint, the 2nd one.) even in our community,(online,local,global) there are people who insist on pushing their views on everyone else. Try not to let it bother you.  As for myself,  I am openminded. I work at remaining openminded. sometimes it is a struggle, and other times it isn't.  Just so you know, your OP sounded just a little pompous.  I hope you aren't one of those guys who struts around saying "I am DOM!"   while it maybe silly, it won't win you any points.  Cheers!

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RE: bdsm? - 10/15/2007 9:15:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: therealboss
so who decides that one person's idea of bdsm is not bdsm because it's not what they are into?

Who decides this?  Lots of folks.
Does that mean their ill-informed, ignorant proclamations of what's "true" or "not true" should be taken seriously?
Not at all.

luci

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RE: bdsm? - 10/15/2007 9:22:52 AM   
MistressCJ1960


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Status: offline 		For me BDSM and D/s are two totally separate entities.   The two CAN and often DO comingle.    However I look at them as separate issues.

AGAIN MY opinion on this, I'm not forcing it on anyone, i'm simply stating my view.
BDSM is Kinky sex
D/s are personality traits

For example -- my parents have a very vanilla sexlife within a D/s relationship -- he Dominates, she does what he says - inside and outside the house.
On the other hand, I have many friends who enjoy Kinky sex, OUTSIDE the context of D/s.   Their D.s roles are simply 'role play' when they have kinky sex.

My opinion is that there are many D/s couples who also enjoy Kinky sex, but simply because you have kinky sex with someone doesn't make it a D/s relationship - or a relationship at all really!




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RE: bdsm? - 10/15/2007 9:57:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MistressCJ1960

For me BDSM and D/s are two totally separate entities.

That's unfortunate, because then you are using a different definition from pretty much everyone else.

D/s is a *part* of BDSM.  It's what the 'DS' part can stand for.

BDSM:  Bondage/Discipline Domination/Submission Sadism/Masochism.  No?


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RE: bdsm? - 10/15/2007 10:29:47 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TotalState

D/s is a *part* of BDSM.  It's what the 'DS' part can stand for.

BDSM:  Bondage/Discipline Domination/Submission Sadism/Masochism.  No?



Oui!
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RE: bdsm? - 10/15/2007 12:54:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: therealboss

so who decides that one person's idea of bdsm is not bdsm because it's not what they are into?



Your potential partners decide if you're compatible. If they're not, then let it slide off your back because it just doesn't matter what a stranger thinks of your way.

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RE: bdsm? - 10/15/2007 1:00:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: laurell3

people? here?  so....you're only into humiliation and were criticised for that?  Is that correct?
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Oh, the irony. The irony!!

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RE: bdsm? - 10/15/2007 1:01:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		Like I tell most people, why does it matter what other people think?

I'm sure my lifestyle isn't everyone's cup of tea- some would happily tell me I'm a fraud, or a fake, or whatever, and that's great for them. Call it what you will, it's my life, and I'll live it my way, which happens to be whatever way makes me happiest.


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