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RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently - 10/16/2007 2:39:33 AM   
LadyEllen


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Status: offline 		Thanks everyone! And apologies for not staying up for the responses - it was late and he'd just left. It was our first meeting after months of phonecalls, and just a friendly "get to know you" sort of chat really.

It would seem that its better to be myself - even if that is nice and cuddly, so I wont be rewriting my profile here - though it has been a few months now and I do like to change it from time to time so there might be an edit coming up. Mind you, I might just also make a 2nd profile (if no Mods are watching) along the lines he's talking about, and see what results. Whatever I do though, I have to get some new pics done - I got my new boots weeks ago now and theyve hardly been out of the box yet. Trouble is, I have a major problem walking with any elegance in them; 5'' heels do not suit an arthritic hip and pelvis, so I think seated might be the best idea for a pose.

He's due back here Thursday so we'll "go over his opinions". He should have been here the other day, when I got so pissed off with a Sharp fax machine that I threw it on the floor and put a heel straight through the keypad and into the insides of it - oh its nice being the boss and working from home. I hated that damned machine - biggest load of rubbish I ever bought (after a Brother printer), so it was quite satisfying! Maybe if he'd seen that - and the fear on the face of the guy with me at the time (a friend who'd called round) - he wouldnt think of me as quite so nice and cuddly? More like psychotic probably - oh yes, I do get scary - now is that an image to cultivate I wonder?
E

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RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently - 10/16/2007 3:12:18 AM   
RumpusParable


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Status: offline 		LadyEllen,

Responding to your OP (I've not yet followed through the rest of the thread), I have to say that his comments strike me as quite silly... The seem much to be saying that you need to play the oft-desired and solely seeked Unrealistic One-Sided Fantasy Dominatrix role in your profile.

How in the world are you to get what you want if you don't show yourself as you are and state what you want?

I say, no, don't try to play into the fantasy by restructuring anything about your profile.  You may (hell, will) get a lot more contacts but of what quality and use?

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RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently - 10/16/2007 3:20:09 AM   
RumpusParable


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Status: offline 		Okay, now that I've gone and read your profile:

No, I really wouldn't change a thing unless you feel anything needs clarified or added at some point.  You come across there as polite and warm woman who well knows what she wants.

Like a regular ol' dominant gal... with some fetishy pics thrown in to boot.  If that's you, as it seems to be from my seeing you around the boards, I'd say you had it right and shouldn't alter it to be more uber-dommish.

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RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently - 10/16/2007 3:51:05 AM   
MissMagnolia


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Status: offline 		Tell him to bite his bum (have a camera handy, it's hilarious). You look and sound sane, no nonsense and damned sexy. No point in showing the spread to people who aren't invited to the feast.

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RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently - 10/16/2007 6:26:37 AM   
petdave


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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen He says, (for the moment, since he isnt gagged), that I need to look pissed off in my pictures and be more foreboding in my text copy, to gain "the right image". He also says ('cause he still isnt gagged as yet) that I shouldnt mention LTR at all, ever.

But is this wise? Should I not try to present myself in my own words, rather than in words that some might prefer me to use? Should I not be truthful and honest about what I want?


Well, being honest and straightforward about what you want does suggest that you haven't gotten all that pesky testosterone out of your system yet...
*ducks*

It seems foolish to say that you shouldn't mention an LTR if you're looking for an LTR... Maybe he's suggesting that you should stop looking because you've found him?

Personally, as an LTR-oriented sub, i think that a profile like yours is much more appealing than the "I am Uber Bitch Goddess of the Universe and lowly men are but playthings for my amusement" FemDom archetype... There are a lot of men looking for that sort of thing, but how many of them are looking to build a life with someone like that? i donno. The percentage of UBGUs who do it professionally seems to suggest that those men are more interested in a temporary play arrangement, but my study is hardly scientific. Research grant, i needs one

And the picture looking up from floor level is very Dommely without being UBGU. You look a little embarassed in the uniform, though... no offense intended, just IMO.

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RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently - 10/16/2007 6:38:33 AM   
LadyEllen


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Status: offline 		Dave - thank you. Please be assured that I value your opinion every bit as much as the next man's!

The more I think about it, I think youre right - he seems to think I should portray the UBGU. Now, if I could deprive Visa of a few hundred quid a week that way, it might be worth doing, but (a) I dont have the time, and (b) I dont have the expertise or facilities for that level of activity, and (c) whilst the money would be nice, its not really what I'm looking for personally.

Yes - the uniform! It didnt come with the skirt, so the look is a combination of amusement at the whole scenario and the fact that I'm wearing my friend's daughter's high school skirt from when she was about 14, which wont do up properly and yet is still sliding slowly towards the floor....!

E

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RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently - 10/16/2007 6:43:29 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		there were these cuddly little furry animals that became flesheating monsters when they got wet movie------

Remember E, the cuddly and cruel juxtapositioning can be------- errrrrrm useful in the macabre world of kinksters.

BernardoGui 

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RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently - 10/16/2007 6:54:43 AM   
chiaThePet


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Status: offline 		So he wants you to "grow a set of balls" so to speak.

Isn't life ironic.

chia* (the pet)

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RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently - 10/16/2007 7:11:19 AM   
LadyEllen


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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

So he wants you to "grow a set of balls" so to speak.

Isn't life ironic.

chia* (the pet)


regretably perhaps, that isnt on the agenda.........maybe I could use yours?

are you familiar with pinking shears?

E

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RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently - 10/16/2007 7:50:04 AM   
chiaThePet


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

So he wants you to "grow a set of balls" so to speak.

Isn't life ironic.

chia* (the pet)


regretably perhaps, that isnt on the agenda.........maybe I could use yours?

are you familiar with pinking shears?

E


Regrettably, pink isn't my color, though I do have a spare.

chia* (the pet)

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RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently - 10/16/2007 7:55:30 AM   
chiaThePet


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

there were these cuddly little furry animals that became flesheating monsters when they got wet movie------



Loosely based on my life, though I prefer the term, "meat eating".

chia* (the pet)

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RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently - 10/16/2007 8:55:45 AM   
aidan


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quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet
quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

So he wants you to "grow a set of balls" so to speak.

Isn't life ironic.

chia* (the pet)


regretably perhaps, that isnt on the agenda.........maybe I could use yours?

are you familiar with pinking shears?

E


Aaah, aaah, jagged edges.

Oh, and something that confuses me about all this:
Is there something wrong with fuzzy and cuddly and...nice? I like those things. I find them endearing qualities. Is there something I'm missing?


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RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently - 10/16/2007 9:26:42 AM   
LadyEllen


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Status: offline 		you know Aidan? This is exactly my issue with his advice - I mean, yes I can be nasty, vicious, sadistic psycho monster bitch from hell - but not all the time, because much of the time I'm nice (well, some think so anyway), have too much else going on and yes, want a cuddle.

E

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RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently - 10/16/2007 1:08:05 PM   
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imamachne words I dig your profile and posts a whole lot


Ohhh... I get creative interpretations (spelling ) of my screen name and paraphrased! I feel special!


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RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently - 10/16/2007 1:14:16 PM   
iammachine


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He should have been here the other day, when I got so pissed off with a Sharp fax machine that I threw it on the floor and put a heel straight through the keypad and into the insides of it


*sniff* Poor cousin fax machine. You will be missed!

quote:

I hated that damned machine - biggest load of rubbish I ever bought (after a Brother printer), so it was quite satisfying!


Hey, what did us machines ever do to you? Huh?!?

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oh yes, I do get scary - now is that an image to cultivate I wonder?


If you want to, I'm sure you can! The question is, do you want to?

I tend to seem to have the opposite problem. People that don't know me well, tend to think I'm rather intimidating. I don't get it.


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RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently - 10/16/2007 3:35:36 PM   
madameflame25


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Status: offline 		You can have a fluffy lovely side and a man I am so gonna kick you backside when you get home side too, no rules there to suggest your should be one or the other.........................I have both and I like myself for it.  The bossy kink kick ass side of me will never ever fade though and amen to that...........

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RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently - 10/16/2007 9:52:37 PM   
ocilla


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ORIGINAL: iammachine

quote:

imamachne words I dig your profile and posts a whole lot


Ohhh... I get creative interpretations (spelling ) of my screen name and paraphrased! I feel special!



sheesh! I am soooo busted.  And I do know better than to not verify and proof - what was I thinking.?  Sorry bout that and thanks for being nice and cuddly about it. he he

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RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently - 10/16/2007 10:58:11 PM   
FullfigRIMaam


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Status: offline 		Clearly that boy hasn't read you on the boards for very long.   You may be a dignified lady, but you are a bad muthah *** from what I've observed over time on here.   I think you're kind, and generous, but have never thought nice and cuddly, though there is nothing wrong with a bossy, nice and cuddly lady I suppose.   M

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RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently - 10/17/2007 4:46:49 AM   
TNstepsout


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Status: offline 		You know, the more I read this thread, the more amused I am. I can only imagine what I would do and how I would react if told I looked too cuddly. Really, I think this whole discussion could lead to a truly wicked scene. In fact, you really should bring the subject up again the next time you meet. Something along the lines of this. With a sweet coy smile and an innocent wide eyed look

"you know X, I've been thinking about what you said last week, you know, about how "cuddly" I look on my profile?"

"yes Ma'am"

"Well I think you're right, I AM cuddly. I don't know if there's anything to be done about it. You know, some women are just, well... cuddly."

"yes Ma'am"

"Why don't you come over here and sit close and see for yourself how cuddly I am.....that's it...closer...no, even closer, remember, I'm nice and cuddly, nothing to be afraid of......."


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RE: help! - I'm nice and cuddly.... apparently - 10/17/2007 4:50:20 AM   
MsLilac


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Sounds like he is just trying to project his own fantasy of what he wants you to be, on to you, and objectifying you. How dare you have multi dimensional personality! . If this was your fist date, also sounds like his idea of flirting and/or like he was trying to goad you.

There is nothing wrong with cuddly. I’m one of those cuddly Domme types. As has been mentioned here already, it can make the mean, so much more meaner. The look on their faces when one switches from angelic to devilish all unexpected like… lmao, priceless.

As for your photos, I think they look fine. Not at all cuddly, or bitchy. You just look like you are being natural.

Do the most sadistic, meanest, cruellest, non fluffy thing possible to him - kick the cheeky beggar to the curb, and play with someone else.

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