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Jinger -> RE: Ask me anything (10/30/2007 12:00:50 PM)
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Why is it so difficult to turn 'bad pain' into 'good pain'? I keep trying to tell myself that if some pain turns me on then this should too. But that doesn't work very well so I wear myself out fighting the bad pain. Autumn is my favorite time of year, yet it is also the physically most painful time too. Barometric changes, dropping temps and the rain make me go OUCH HELP OUCH. I have the softest bed in da world but even that hurts. Bah freakin humbug I feel whiny. Thanks for giving me a spot to ramble, whine, and ask impossible things Jinger.
The difference between bad pain and good pain is that we have learned to take "good pain." Like spanking, I can tolerate the pain of spanking because I have purposefully sought it out. Through repetition and my psychological enjoyment of the scenario, spanking for me is not as painful as it is sexy. But I haven't at all sought out getting appendicitis. When or if that happens, I won't be ready for it. It'll take me completely by surprise and won't be sexy at all. So in other words, bad pain is unexpected and unwanted.
But I think you knew that.
That said, you can't just magically alter how you react to pain. Bad pain is exactly that, bad pain. There is no point agonizing over how you can look at it a different way so that it's somehow fulfilling. Even masochists have preferences over what they experience, afterall.
In short: turning bad pain into good pain is difficult because it is nearly impossible. Though I'm sure it'd be easier if you were clynically insane.
On a sidenote:
I also experience a lot of pain with autumn. And generally I stick to really soft mattresses. But they say hard matresses are actually better for the body, and you know...I've slept on them and never woke up with a bad back.
I wonder if we should jump ship...
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