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Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 7/29/2005 7:59:01 PM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		Can you all kiss..love...be soft at times and just drop the armor?
I know you want to tie us to the bedpost and whip our ass.....put things on us, like humblers....make us watch porn while being tied and helpless....damn, you all are cruel!!!
However, thats why subs are that....they love it!
However, what about soft kisses under a summer mist?
Holding hands while you go for icecream sundaes?
passion and soft, nice sex.
sweaty bodies rubbing against each other?
Can you all be just as Vanilla as a virgin in the missionary position, when the mood arises, or do you need to whip an ass to be happy and satisfied?
Drop the ropes, the clamps, the hobblers, the whips, the chains, the wax and just love in a vanilla atmoshphere...can you?
I'm only asking, becasue I met a FemDomme, that I hope will kiss, before and after torture.....she's so sweet...but such a hard ass!
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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 7/29/2005 8:26:25 PM   
femdom4u2besub


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Status: offline 		Well I can’t speak for the rest of my peers but…for me I am a woman first. I like it all, the only difference is… I like to have it when I want it, and how I want it, and it goes without saying with whom I want it…something we picked up from you guys along the way….nice post though…lucky lady….but my question back to you would be will you be able to be sub to her…after all it’s part of who she is too?

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 7/29/2005 8:35:04 PM   
Carameldomme


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Status: offline 		I suppose I can 'be vanilla'...

I think of it more like this - I'm not vanilla-definitely caramel..or chocolate, but many of the things I enjoy are not D/s in nature. If, at those moments, I am vanilla, then empatically - Yes. I can 'be vanilla'.

P.S. My subs don't see my vanilla side much b/c their purpose is to fulfill my D/s needs, not take me to a play or share a sundae with me.

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 7/29/2005 11:04:49 PM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		depending on the definition of "vanilla" - most definitely. I want a pet that I can cuddle on the couch with while we watch a movie ... or that I can take to see the musical that Holly doesn't have any interest in ... or whatever else I do that you feel falls under the blanket of "vanilla"

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 7/30/2005 5:49:03 AM   
fastlane


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I would like to think that we are both lucky. Somewhere back I began a thread on two of the same kind co-existing with one another..Dom/Dom, for example. I was pleasantly surprised to find, just how many relationships are working well out there in that particular state.
Could I sub for her, because that's who she is? Well, lets put it this way. I volunteered to do just that, but I too am a Dominat, so the answer is two/fold. Yes, but not 24/7.
That does not mean that I couldn't love her 24/7, I am just not the submissive type. I look at this meeting more as role playing for me and am curious if she can roll me up and spit me out.
Thanks for your reply and I love those sexy thighs of yours 4u You obviously make someone submissive under you a very lucky boy

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 7/30/2005 10:19:13 AM   
SadisticPrincess


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Status: offline 		Sure I can be vanilla.

Well, vanilla raspberry ripple, maybe.........

:)

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 7/30/2005 10:55:25 AM   
perverseangelic


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Status: offline 		It seems to me like you're associating "vanilla" with "gentle emotion" or "gentle sensuality."

The way I see it, if a person is the owner--the dominant parnter in a relationship-- they are the dominant parnter even when they're cuddling. I don't see stuff like holding hands and romance as "vanilla." It doesn't lessen or negate the power dynamic.

Also, saying that agressive sex is 'armor' is problematic to me. Aggressive sex isn't necessarially protection. It'w a way of enjoying sex.

To me, I couldn't love in a vanilla atmosphere, becuse that isn't the kind of relationship I need. I can love in ways that -appear- to be vanilla. My partner doesn't have to spend every day hitting me. However, I am -always- his. I am never in a relationsihp of people with the same authority level. Doesn't mean we arent' snuggly and cute and apparantly vanilla.

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 7/30/2005 1:18:59 PM   
Sylph


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Status: offline 		Can I be gentle and nurturing. Absolutely. Last weekend I spent watching the sunset on the beach with someone who I consider mine. Do we kiss and snuggle? All the time. I am prone to pulling her hair tho. The person I am with should be able to discus politics, technology , music or whatever else is interesting me at the time. I am not interested in someone who sees me as an object to fulfill kinky fantasies. .My regular demeanor is casual and nurturing , until I feel impish , sadistic or seductive. I will always be a complete woman rather than a McDomme . My needs are much more complex than a mere whipping boy could fulfill.

Hope you have found something special and wish you much luck.

Sylph

Edited becaue I forgot how to spell.

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 7/30/2005 1:25:02 PM   
SweetDommes


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quote:

ORIGINAL: perverseangelic

It seems to me like you're associating "vanilla" with "gentle emotion" or "gentle sensuality."

The way I see it, if a person is the owner--the dominant parnter in a relationship-- they are the dominant parnter even when they're cuddling. I don't see stuff like holding hands and romance as "vanilla." It doesn't lessen or negate the power dynamic.

Also, saying that agressive sex is 'armor' is problematic to me. Aggressive sex isn't necessarially protection. It'w a way of enjoying sex.

To me, I couldn't love in a vanilla atmosphere, becuse that isn't the kind of relationship I need. I can love in ways that -appear- to be vanilla. My partner doesn't have to spend every day hitting me. However, I am -always- his. I am never in a relationsihp of people with the same authority level. Doesn't mean we arent' snuggly and cute and apparantly vanilla.


Yeah, this is how I feel ... I do all kinds of things that people would probably define as "vanilla" ... but aren't really 'vanilla' or 'kinky' or anything else - they just are.

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 7/30/2005 2:20:23 PM   
Oumae


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Status: offline 		I'm with some of the others on this.... I don't see cuddling, kissing, eating ice cream etc as being vanilla. What is important to me is the mindset, if I'm in the mood for soft and sensual then soft and sensual it is but then I can be a fluffy Domme

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 7/30/2005 3:19:35 PM   
LadyJulieAnn


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Status: offline 		Of course I can be romantic, soft, caring, and nurturing. Any sort of loving relationship needs those things, in my opinion. My BDSM activities are just another aspect of my relationship, and I do a lot of kissing, even within a scene sometimes.

Be well,
Julie

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 7/30/2005 4:12:09 PM   
MstrssPassion


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quote:

ORIGINAL: fastlane

Can you all kiss..love...be soft at times and just drop the armor?
I know you want to tie us to the bedpost and whip our ass.....put things on us, like humblers....make us watch porn while being tied and helpless....damn, you all are cruel!!!
However, thats why subs are that....they love it!
However, what about soft kisses under a summer mist?
Holding hands while you go for icecream sundaes?
passion and soft, nice sex.
sweaty bodies rubbing against each other?
Can you all be just as Vanilla as a virgin in the missionary position, when the mood arises, or do you need to whip an ass to be happy and satisfied?
Drop the ropes, the clamps, the hobblers, the whips, the chains, the wax and just love in a vanilla atmoshphere...can you?
I'm only asking, because I met a FemDomme, that I hope will kiss, before and after torture.....she's so sweet...but such a hard ass!


Since when does being a female dominant mean we are incapable of TLC, cuddles, kisses, holding hands & missionary sex??? I've even heard many say that if a female dominant gives a blowjob she just couldn't be a real dominant.

Whether it be walking hand-n-hand or having their hands tied behind their back, I would think that the answer would be, whatever she wants & however she desires it... no matter how 'vanilla' someone views the action.

MstrssPassion
"A woman who enjoys her vanilla... with sprinkles!"


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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 7/30/2005 5:23:47 PM   
MsChief


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< Message edited by MsChief -- 8/1/2005 12:16:59 PM >

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 7/30/2005 6:55:13 PM   
Niran


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Status: offline 		For those of us that live our D/s as a...hn...whats the right word...ok, for example, I am married to my sub...How would we call that? Well, you know what I mean. Anyway, yes, holding hands, soft kissing, etc is a part of that type of intimate relationship. Do I need to whip to be happy? Nope. What I need is for him to reassure me that he loves me, with or without it.

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 7/30/2005 8:02:02 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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quote:

ORIGINAL: fastlane

Yes, I definitely can be vanila, but only with a very openminded vanilla guy.
quote:

Can you all kiss..love...be soft at times and just drop the armor?
Absolutely! In fact I've been accused of not being bitchy (I'm neither confirming nor denying this) enough therefore not dominant enough.
quote:

I know you want to tie us to the bedpost and whip our ass.....put things on us, like humblers....make us watch porn while being tied and helpless....damn, you all are cruel!!!
You're projecting baby. I think this is a submissive fantasy.
quote:

However, what about soft kisses under a summer mist?
Holding hands while you go for icecream sundaes?
passion and soft, nice sex.
sweaty bodies rubbing against each other?
Can you all be just as Vanilla as a virgin in the missionary position

Yes, I'm beginning to miss old boring missionary. Soft kisses I love, if the guy is a good kisser, I'm not big on holding hands I'll admit.
quote:

Drop the ropes, the clamps, the hobblers, the whips, the chains, the wax and just love in a vanilla atmoshphere...can you?

Oh hard question, drop them all forever? I think I can.
Hard act, I'm not very hard so not a real stretch in my case.. M

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 7/30/2005 10:00:05 PM   
MsBlackheart


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Status: offline 		I've made it very clear in my profile that I want more than a happy vapid ass, and expect intercourse, so my answer is a definite "yes". I'm not a cuddler per se, but I do require much of the same attachment that a vanilla woman seeks in her man. I have had worship with complete adoration and mutual affection, and I guess it's a once-you-try-it thing. I want the loving, tender moments, interspersed among the D/s activities, wrapped up as one package. I couldn't care less what anyone else thinks that this makes me, good or bad, a "real" Domme or not. It's what satisfies ME. :)

-MsB

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 7/31/2005 1:16:04 AM   
Misstoyou


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Status: offline 		It pleases me to see my sub gets both pleasure (or as you define it, fastlane, vanilla) *and* pain, not simply pleasure *from* pain.

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 7/31/2005 12:25:36 PM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		Thank you for all the insight and words as soft as the taste of a vanilla ice cream cone carressing my tongue. It is refreshing to such love in Dommes and also encouraging!

Hey....get that sharp cone away from my ass Mistress...that could do some damage..LOL

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 7/31/2005 12:29:41 PM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		Insert "see" before such on the above reply.....and please remove the waffle cone...NOW!

It was funny for a moment

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RE: Can FemDommes be vanilla and just love? - 7/31/2005 12:31:02 PM   
Niran


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