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Keeping a Journal? - 10/17/2007 7:16:41 AM

Shawn1066

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I am still quite new into this, and I was thinking of keeping a journal of some sort to chronicle my various thoughts, ideas, and experiences as they occur. I think, at the very least, my Mistress would find it interesting and I know I would enjoy writing it...

My question is... Where would be a good place to post this journal? Would it potentially be troublesome to keep it in a public setting? Should I keep it private?

Any suggestions are welcome. :-)

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RE: Keeping a Journal? - 10/17/2007 7:33:30 AM

imtempting

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Personaly I would not do one as if it got out well my life would be ruined. If I had to id do it on my pc and hide the file in a program folder.

On xp click.... Start - run - then type: C:\Program Files\ somewhere in there hide it.... and after you look at it remember to delete it from my recent documents.

Or on the net make it private but be carful what identifying information you put on there.

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RE: Keeping a Journal? - 10/17/2007 7:40:20 AM

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Hi Shawn,

It depends do you want DV to be able to read it whenever she wants to? Then I’d go with an online journal which you can set as private and she could friend you. Or have it public. My current online journal is both public and private (anyone can read some of the entries others only my friends or myself can). I’m at livejournal.com I’ve had no issues, through if you know what you’re looking for I’m pretty easy to find (I don’t think it’s that easy to connect to me).

The other way you can do it is the old fashion way of writing it out in a book. I love this method and my real journal is done in this style. It makes you slow down in your writing, and you can share it with her when you get together. Or you can both write in one journal and pass it back and forth. It would be very private just for you too.

It is very helpful when it comes to reflection a lot of, I was worried about that, kind of moments. Or that was so sweet ect. I think you should keep the journal, I think you will enjoy it years from now.

Kat
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RE: Keeping a Journal? - 10/17/2007 8:43:35 AM

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I do live journaling and have been for nearly a year. Choosing to keep it private or public will depend on your comfortability level. I use yahoo 360 to blog and the settings allow the user to give permission on who you want to read your blogging. Livejournal.com is another good site to use.

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RE: Keeping a Journal? - 10/17/2007 9:02:22 AM

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I keep my journal on Word documents. I do one for each month and put all 12 documents in a folder with the year on it. I keep my journal on a flash drive and back it up on another flash so I'm sure not to lose anything.

I like doing docs. because I can email to my Sir and he can read and add comments easily and mail it back to me.

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RE: Keeping a Journal? - 10/17/2007 9:09:18 AM

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I recently started journaling again. I have it set to public, and a few people have the address, I also don't do the keywords, so it doesn't get much traffic (I like it that way). I don't talk about the lifestyle. It's more a place for me to process and talk about things that other people would probably find boring. I consider it a therapeutic outlet.

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RE: Keeping a Journal? - 10/17/2007 9:17:15 AM

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I do word documents too but after I email them to master I put them on disc. There just for me and him to read. Although I aren't keen on doing the diary it's fun to look back and see how much change has taken place over our time together.

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RE: Keeping a Journal? - 10/17/2007 10:02:22 AM

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i'm not permitted to keep one anywhere, written or typed online due to the fact that we both choose to keep our personal lives private from the rest of the world. Even if you keep your journal private it's still stored on a server somewhere that can be accessed by God only knows who....

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RE: Keeping a Journal? - 10/17/2007 10:47:27 AM

xoxi

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I just bought a journal a few days ago to write what seemed like a million thoughts swirling in my head.

I've stared down at blank paper three times now with no idea what to write.

So I definitely understand the desire to want to get all your thoughts down coherently. I just bought a journal book, one that I can keep with me whenever...I've found it's easier to be truly honest with your thoughts when you're the only one who reads them. Of course if you're writing for the sake of feedback then by all means get a LJ or something. I like LJ because they have communities...and it's also a wonderful format.

Good luck with this!

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RE: Keeping a Journal? - 10/17/2007 11:09:34 AM

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I started keeping a journal at the behest of a former Master. Back then I used the typical composition notebooks you can get at any school supply store. Mainly cause at the time I was in college and had access to that sort of thing, and I wasnt always sitting in front of the computer when I found the urge to write. That way the notebook was always with me. When I met with Him I would trade, taking the one he had been reading and giving him the one I was writing in. We lived in the same town, about a 30 minutes drive, but only got to see each other 2 or 3 times a week usually. Even after he and I split ways, I have continued to journal. Sometimes with a pen and paper, and sometimes on my computer in a word document. Not to long ago I started using a web based journaling system. I like it, I have nothing to worry about as far as privacy issues go though. I used to worry about who would find it, but Ive gotten past that point in my life. There really isnt anything I have left to hide from anyone. A week or so ago the online site I was using shut down, and since I havent made up my mind where to move my journaling to, I started using the journal entry places here on CollarMe. Im not quite as keen on that as I was on other places, say livejournal or something or MySpace, you really need to be searching for me to find it...and to really know I have a site there...here, well..there are quite a few people on CollarMe I know in a vanilla setting, and Im not sure if I really want to keep opening up compleatly on here...but for now Im still doing it...shrugs...I guess it just dpesnds on what functionality you want it to have. Although, I will have to admit, there is something cathartic about writing your thoughts down with a pencil that you just cant duplication in electronic form....maybe if I had a laptop...but I have yet to figure out how to drag my desktop down to the edge of the river to write...

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RE: Keeping a Journal? - 10/17/2007 1:37:35 PM

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I use to have a journal online... cant find the site any more. Anyhow, when I started I was thinking who the hell would want to read about my life. Anyways, the amount of readers I aquired was down right scary. The amount of vanilla girls taking notes and asking question... was down right mind blowing. In any case, its not really a good thing. What I did do that was really cool and was much better than any online blog I did was create my own off-line web site. I used an old program called microsoft frontpage and purchased a large capacity USB stick. Using front page all the files are managed very easy and I even keep my personal photo collections and comments as well as art work and a daily journal of course all easy to navigate and what not. Depending on your set up at home you can do a hell of a lot. If you for instance purchase an old copy of win 2000 server (if you need a license sometimes a win xp license will surfice) you can set up your own ftp / email / web server and have it all secure on your home network. You dont have to purchase a domain name for a private web site out of your home because the public will not be viewing it however you can make it available to whoever you want to see it by using your ip address instead. It works really great with the home server because then you can feed it into your living room tv and read email, serf the web whatever. If you do decide to use the USB stick you can still attach the web site to it and do it in such a fashion that you can give someone access by plugging your stick in so to speak. You can also secure your site using a list of IP numbers that you allow to access it. Its a lot easier than it sounds.

Another note about those usb sticks.... as far as I know they just memory chips and they have no way of retaining information... so once you delete it its gone forever no one can rerieve it unlike hard drives which are really easy to pull information off after someone has deleted or reformated the drive so the USB sticks are a more secure option that will fit in your pocket and be portable. Doing a web site in either frontpage or in Microsoft word is way easier than using one of the online blogging companies and you dont have to worry about copyrights ect. when doing it privatly like that and yes you can get nailed with that hard when you have a really popular blog.

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RE: Keeping a Journal? - 10/17/2007 3:11:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: xoxi

I just bought a journal a few days ago to write what seemed like a million thoughts swirling in my head.

I've stared down at blank paper three times now with no idea what to write.

I did the same thing with mine, HA! But I got over it by just writing a few "ok now I'm writing, damnit!" entries. I put everything in there. Random thoughts, rants, fantasies, things that I'm puzzling over that I don't want to talk to him about yet. He reads it from time to time (not daily) which helps. If I knew he was poring over every.single.thing I wrote the instant the ink was dry it would make me edgy and we talked about this.

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RE: Keeping a Journal? - 10/17/2007 3:26:04 PM

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i personally don't keep a journal. I have no problrms talking things out with my Master ( i see him every day) sometimes it is eaiser to write things and get your thoughts in order.

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RE: Keeping a Journal? - 10/17/2007 4:07:46 PM

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Whatever works for you- just don't PRESUME your mistress will have any particular feelings or inclinations about it either way. Many a good subs downfall has been getting resentful and pissed because their dom didn't "pay enough attention" or react to their journal.

Make sure to talk about it first, she may have some restrictions of her own to put on it.

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RE: Keeping a Journal? - 10/17/2007 4:12:26 PM

Sabella

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They are great for memory jogging in the future as well. I've read entries I wrote when I was a teen & in my 20's and it's amazing how it will all come back. The day, your mood, whatever you had on your mind or what was going on around you. Even more interesting (to me) is seeing how you are progressing on your way as your views and goals change over time.

That's a good point LuckyAlbatross. Because then you're writing for approval, which kinda defeats the purpose of a journal IMHO. Write for you.

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RE: Keeping a Journal? - 10/17/2007 7:02:18 PM

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People only mention journaling for subs well what about the dominants?

Would it not be good for the dominant to keep one too so the sub can see how the dominant is feeling etc?

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RE: Keeping a Journal? - 10/17/2007 8:33:33 PM

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i LOVE keeping a journal because it give me a place and way to process. i do it here, alt and on 360. i enjoy some of the feedback i get and don't some, but mostly it's just blather for my own processing. i can look later to see how i was feeling about something. i have posted my "reports" following scenes and fantasies. You name it, it's been posted. Women often process out loud like that though. It helps me to get my head wrapped around issues i'm stuck on. Good luck with all of it!
denise

PS how do i change the nilla icon near me.. not comfortable with that at all.. just not nilla!

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RE: Keeping a Journal? - 10/17/2007 8:48:13 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: luv4pashn

i LOVE keeping a journal because it give me a place and way to process. i do it here, alt and on 360. i enjoy some of the feedback i get and don't some, but mostly it's just blather for my own processing. i can look later to see how i was feeling about something. i have posted my "reports" following scenes and fantasies. You name it, it's been posted. Women often process out loud like that though. It helps me to get my head wrapped around issues i'm stuck on. Good luck with all of it!
denise

PS how do i change the nilla icon near me.. not comfortable with that at all.. just not nilla!

by posting more it will change from vanilla to something else

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RE: Keeping a Journal? - 10/17/2007 9:18:24 PM

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I have a sub that sends me a journal entries in email every day that are password protected. I don't really worry about people finding stuff on my computer at this point if they got ahold of my computer there's no way they couldn't know I was into bdsm and it's very difficult to hide all the site and other activity you've done on your pc. Thankfully I have a kinkfriendly computer nerd to handle my pc issues.

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RE: Keeping a Journal? - 10/17/2007 10:27:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sabella

They are great for memory jogging in the future as well. I've read entries I wrote when I was a teen & in my 20's and it's amazing how it will all come back. The day, your mood, whatever you had on your mind or what was going on around you. Even more interesting (to me) is seeing how you are progressing on your way as your views and goals change over time.

I so agree with this point! Also the "what was I thinking" in regards to the boy I had a crush on in high school.

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