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RE: Update... - 10/18/2007 7:36:00 AM   
meticulousgirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: submissfifi

Whats bagging a master mean exactly? Oh did I forget to mention the fact he was far more prepared to meet the fake profile on facebook, to someone he had chatted to for months.

What makes you think I even want to be in his good books? He lied!

How can I trust him now?


First impression:  what an ass hole
Second Impression:  He knows it's you, and He's mind &ucking you........

one day you will learn not to backstab past and present Dominants online....it's not safe first of all, and second of all you cant do anything more disrespectful to you or that Dominant. 

~meticulous~

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RE: Update... - 10/18/2007 7:52:55 AM   
BeingChewsie


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You never even saw a pic of this man that you "committed" to? So I'm guessing you never met this man you "committed" to? Is this the same man who didn't have time to meet you that you "committed" to? Is this the same man who wanted you to find him another woman without having met you that you "committed" to? You did everything for man you never saw or met?

Why would you be cyber submitting to pixels on a screen?

...and you wonder why you feel like a fool?

Here is my advice, I'm pretty sure I gave you this advice on another thread if not here you go:

Stop being so desperate for a relationship.


quote:

ORIGINAL: submissfifi

Hi,

Following on from the whole not allowed to contact Sir post. I went to speak with him the day I was supposed to, only to straight away be accused of being a day early, which I was not. He never talked to me about it, why I behaved that way, nothing. Just that did I want to be owned by him, and that he was waiting on me. Well now that really is ironic, when after setting up a fake profile on facebook, to which he denied using, he was flirting with fake me. I always had a vibe I was one of many, and that he was never really that interested.

Next came his profile here, saying how he hadn't meet that someone, and hoped to find it here. How very charming, two weeks no contact with me, whilst he resumes his search for that someone! It gets better, when I asked, note the word asked, not confronted, apparently someone had logged in and changed his profile, how bizzare, and then he said he hasn't used it in months, well thats funny he was looking at my profile 3 days ago, and oh look he logged in a few hours ago too. Wow that hacker is good. I mean come on, credit me with some intelligence, yeah I maybe submissive sexually, but I'm not stupid. Oh I will change it, I will delete it, well there was last night to do that, and first thing this morning when he logged in! Yet it still remains.

Then theres sending fake me a photo in a dare via facebook, something which I had asked from him for months, yet a complete stranger on facebook gets it straight away. Theres going on a diet, theres exercising for him, theres doing everything I possible could for him, theres investing my time and energy in him, theres the fact I commited to him. Yet all along I was played. Yeah yell at me for entrapment, or underhand tatics, but was I wrong? no I wasn't? He was never interested in me, never even attracted to me, being describe in a photograph as summery really didn't cut it either.

Theres the whole speech about how a relationship should be built on honesty. I was always honest with him, (yeah mention the fake profile) but the whole reason the fake profile exisit was because I couldn't bare two weeks without talking to him. Yeah pathetic, sad, old me. What a sucker hey. And if you all think for one minute I'm happy, I'm not. A guy, a dominat guy that I was very attracted to, who I did everything I could possibly do for, who I had commited too, has broken my trust, my respect,but most importantly my heart.

And not one word of an apology.  

So I know he maybe few and far between. But why do I feel such a fool?




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RE: Update... - 10/18/2007 7:57:19 AM   
submissfifi


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I understand what your all saying, and what I've done is very disrespectful. Is there anyway I can remove a post?

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RE: Update... - 10/18/2007 7:59:15 AM   
laurell3


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I dont think you can past the edit time without a moderator, ask them.

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RE: Update... - 10/18/2007 8:01:45 AM   
submissfifi


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Where are the moderators? I've clicked the link and it opens up to no names or anything?

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RE: Update... - 10/18/2007 8:02:47 AM   
laurell3


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no clue, report your own original post and ask them to edit it maybe?

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RE: Update... - 10/18/2007 8:07:49 AM   
BeingChewsie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: submissfifi

I understand what your all saying, and what I've done is very disrespectful. Is there anyway I can remove a post?


Why would you remove it?  Let it be a lesson to you not to submit to pixels on a screen. Meet the person(multiple times) before "committing" to them.

Anytime you come in contact with someone online and think about cyber submitting come back and read this thread.

< Message edited by BeingChewsie -- 10/18/2007 8:08:37 AM >


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"In fact, it is my contention that most women are accepting of way less than optimal circumstance constantly, and are lucky to be 'snagged' by the right man, if ever. But it is more by happy accident than by their design. "
~Ron and Hup

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RE: Update... - 10/18/2007 8:10:48 AM   
chellekitty


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quote:

ORIGINAL: submissfifi
If I was not good enough then he should have said and let me go.


holy crap, i am about to be more blunt than MrD was in response to the same sentence....what is this role reversal week?

sweetie...the door swings both ways....if you're not getting your needs met in a relationship, GET OUT....you don't have to wait for him to "let you go"


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RE: Update... - 10/18/2007 8:17:50 AM   
obis


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You just learned a very hard lesson about getting emotionally investing in someone before they've really proven themselves. That's your positive thing to take away from this. He was a player, thankfully you found out before you were pregnant and moved in with him!

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RE: Update... - 10/18/2007 8:19:12 AM   
submissfifi


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I don't want to remove because I too believe it is important for me to learn from it. I only wanted to remove it if I had offended anyone, or been disrespectful. I'm hurt and a little angry and sometimes you need a place to let it all out. But if that has caused people or masters to feel I'm not respectful that is why I wanted it to be deleted.

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RE: Update... - 10/18/2007 8:21:43 AM   
mistoferin


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OMG, what cyber drama! You were cyber owned by a man you never saw or met. You were cyber committed to him. He cyber cheated on you. Maybe you ought to call the cyber morality police and have him cyber arrested and cyber flogged in the cyber town square. Holy shit, I really hope that you are only being cyber emotional over this.....if ANY of this has actually crossed over into reality you should immediately seek professional help.



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~erin~

There are no victims here...only volunteers.

When you make a habit of playing on the tracks, you thereby forfeit the right to bitch when you get hit by a train.

"I did it! I admit it and I'm gonna do it again!"

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RE: Update... - 10/18/2007 8:27:37 AM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

You were dishonest in making another profile and talking to him as if you were someone else. He isn't the only dishonest person in this.


What she said.

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Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val

It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

Member:Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair

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RE: Update... - 10/18/2007 8:29:11 AM   
chathamvahere


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Dear, you have been played, unfornate, but part of this wonderful thing called the world wide web, move on, there are others, real Dominates that would love to meet you, try meeting someone local, munch, parties etc Good luck and keep searching!!!

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RE: Update... - 10/18/2007 8:39:01 AM   
MrDiscipline44


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quote:

ORIGINAL: obis
thankfully you found out before you were pregnant and moved in with him!
Come on, Obis, you, I and anyone else that reads this thread knows it would have never have gotten that far.

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Those who can, do. Those who can't, teach.

Have you slapped your slave today?

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RE: Update... - 10/18/2007 8:43:29 AM   
mistoferin


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44

quote:

ORIGINAL: obis
thankfully you found out before you were pregnant and moved in with him!
Come on, Obis, you, I and anyone else that reads this thread knows it would have never have gotten that far.


Thank goodness....we have been spared having to go through the cyber pregnancy, cyber morning sickness and cyber abortion.

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Peace and light,
~erin~

There are no victims here...only volunteers.

When you make a habit of playing on the tracks, you thereby forfeit the right to bitch when you get hit by a train.

"I did it! I admit it and I'm gonna do it again!"

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RE: Update... - 10/18/2007 8:53:27 AM   
submissfifi


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Well for your information, I did want to meet him, and wasn't happy about the whole cyber thing. Sometimes you need to rant.

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RE: Update... - 10/18/2007 8:59:05 AM   
MrDiscipline44


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Yes, sometimes people do need to rant. But ranting to strangers doesn't really help. You should get together with a few girlfriends and commiserate. They console you and you'll feel better and closer to them. Am I fuckin channeling Dr. Phil or what? Go out, have some drinks and forget about this shit. I know I will.

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If you love somebody, you have to be willing to break them.

Those who can, do. Those who can't, teach.

Have you slapped your slave today?

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RE: Update... - 10/18/2007 9:03:00 AM   
mistoferin


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quote:

ORIGINAL: submissfifi

Well for your information, I did want to meet him, and wasn't happy about the whole cyber thing. Sometimes you need to rant.


I can understand meeting someone online. I can understand wanting to meet him. What I can't understand is becoming emotionally invested, committed to and owned by someone you have never met and never even seen a picture of.

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Peace and light,
~erin~

There are no victims here...only volunteers.

When you make a habit of playing on the tracks, you thereby forfeit the right to bitch when you get hit by a train.

"I did it! I admit it and I'm gonna do it again!"

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RE: Update... - 10/18/2007 9:07:18 AM   
submissfifi


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Vanilla girlfriends are not going to understand the first concept of a kinky relationship. That in itself will take more explaining than what actually was happening. I have apologised to him for my actions, and I deeply regret them.

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RE: Update... - 10/18/2007 9:08:45 AM   
laurell3


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psst...the horse is dead....stop beating it

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