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dominmd -> RE: Best Way To Spot A Submissive (7/31/2005 2:05:28 PM)

You just never know.

But, ask to see her purse, maybe she has her flogger and a ballgag and a set of hancuffs with her name on them. If you are lucky maybe she has a tattoo that says "sub" on her forehead. Here is a surefire way to find out if a girl is a sub or not. Ask her this "Do you want me tie you up and spank you till you cum" If the answer is Yes, you have a sub, if she beats the hell out of you, she just may be a Domme or a completely vanilla blackbelt.

Oh yeah......I'm not gonna be sarcastic........I'm not gonna be sarcastic........I'm not gonna be sarcastic........I'm not gonna be sarcastic....



tetheredkitty -> RE: Best Way To Spot A Submissive (7/31/2005 2:14:54 PM)

Well I'm quite submissive in the bedroom, but I refuse to take orders OUTSIDE the bedroom. If someone told me to sit on the couch, I'd look at them like they were nuts. HELLO, I'm quite capable of sitting down when I'm ready to, thank you.

I'm quite aggressive and dominant in my every day life. I work as a jailer and spend my nights locked in a room with murderers and rapists and telling them when to eat, shit, piss, etc and making sure they behave.

I don't think anyone who knows me "in the normal world" would suspect I was submissive :) In fact, I've had several inmates ask me if I'm a domme, lol :)



Padriag -> RE: Best Way To Spot A Submissive (7/31/2005 2:20:49 PM)

Some would say that would make you a Bottom, but not a submissive. Others might prefer the term sexual submissive. Then again you're a gamer, so first check to see if it violates your class or alignment... we're a strange bunch you know [;)]



tetheredkitty -> RE: Best Way To Spot A Submissive (7/31/2005 3:53:01 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Padriag

Some would say that would make you a Bottom, but not a submissive. Others might prefer the term sexual submissive. Then again you're a gamer, so first check to see if it violates your class or alignment... we're a strange bunch you know [;)]


ROFLMAO! Yes we certainly ARE a strange bunch! ( generally consider myself lawful neutral for the record :) )

"Bottom" vs "submissive"? I dunno about that one...but the term "sexual submissive" I like . I DO occasionally enjoy domming though...but overall, I would much rather submit.

Of course, I tend to like variety in my sex life. Which means if I have sex with my partner 10 times, I might want to be submissive 4x, dominant 2x, and just be equals 4x.



dominmd -> RE: Best Way To Spot A Submissive (7/31/2005 4:11:32 PM)

That is a great attitude. So in essence you switch? Not a bad thing at all. At least you are having fun which is what life should be about.



tetheredkitty -> RE: Best Way To Spot A Submissive (7/31/2005 4:24:32 PM)

I guess I'm a switch...but I'd rather sub. If I'm going to dom, I'd rather it be with a female than a male.



kc692 -> RE: Best Way To Spot A Submissive (7/31/2005 5:04:31 PM)


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ORIGINAL: tetheredkitty

I guess I'm a switch...but I'd rather sub. If I'm going to dom, I'd rather it be with a female than a male.



OK, not trying to get off topic here, but I'm intrigued,,,why with a female instead of a male?



dominmd -> RE: Best Way To Spot A Submissive (7/31/2005 5:13:10 PM)

Maybe because us guys can be horny dogs with only one thing on our minds (us). Someand I stress SOME male subs are very good and eant to do nothing but please their Dom/Domme. However, many are justin it for their own kicks. Women by far, seem to be able to communicate better and have a better understanding of the female bod'y wants needs and cravings. Besides, women are far more sensitive than men are by large.

Switching is no big deal for me. I lean towards being dom. I like being sub when I have too much on my vanilla mind and that is when I really need to let go. My Dom side, is my normal side, I am strong, and always in control.



tetheredkitty -> RE: Best Way To Spot A Submissive (7/31/2005 5:22:14 PM)


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ORIGINAL: kc692


quote:

ORIGINAL: tetheredkitty

I guess I'm a switch...but I'd rather sub. If I'm going to dom, I'd rather it be with a female than a male.




OK, not trying to get off topic here, but I'm intrigued,,,why with a female instead of a male?


I think it's because I don't really like or trust women. I love men. Men are great. All my friends are male. There's something about being around a man that makes me want to please him and take care of him and falling at the feet of a kind male comes natural. It's just an inclination I get. Women, I couldn't care less about and I would enjoy the idea of whippping them, humiliating them, making them beg me for mercy, and then using them to satisfy my own lusts.

Of course, I also don't mind the idea of another woman topping me either, although I'ven ever had that experience.



dominmd -> RE: Best Way To Spot A Submissive (7/31/2005 5:24:15 PM)

You are interesting to say the least. I like your profile too.



tetheredkitty -> RE: Best Way To Spot A Submissive (7/31/2005 5:30:14 PM)

LOL...Thanks :) I try to at least be unique!



Padriag -> RE: Best Way To Spot A Submissive (7/31/2005 8:22:05 PM)


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ORIGINAL: tetheredkitty


Of course, I tend to like variety in my sex life. Which means if I have sex with my partner 10 times, I might want to be submissive 4x, dominant 2x, and just be equals 4x.

You sure you aren't chaotic neutral? [;)] If you've ever seen the Paladium alignments, color me Aberrant (although as a rule I hated alignment systems). And yes, you certainly are unique, best way to be.



slavedesires -> RE: Best Way To Spot A Submissive (7/31/2005 8:49:46 PM)


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ORIGINAL: tetheredkitty


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I think it's because I don't really like or trust women. I love men. Men are great. All my friends are male. There's something about being around a man that makes me want to please him and take care of him and falling at the feet of a kind male comes natural. It's just an inclination I get. Women, I couldn't care less about and I would enjoy the idea of whippping them, humiliating them, making them beg me for mercy, and then using them to satisfy my own lusts.

Of course, I also don't mind the idea of another woman topping me either, although I'ven ever had that experience.



ok kitty.... i have already offered my submision to you under the eye of Master...
can you be as sadistic of a wench as you say you can be?

and can you give your submission as a bottom to one who will use sensory deprivation and breath control?

what are your lusts..... willing here.

~~shy
who aint skered [:)]



tetheredkitty -> RE: Best Way To Spot A Submissive (7/31/2005 8:57:37 PM)

Breath control is on my hard limits, as is playing with any dom I don't know well.

I guess I'm weird, I like to be friends with people before they see me nekkid!



Padriag -> RE: Best Way To Spot A Submissive (7/31/2005 9:06:21 PM)


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ORIGINAL: tetheredkitty
I guess I'm weird, I like to be friends with people before they see me nekkid!

That's not weird, just means you like to keep some things private. And you aren't the only one.



tetheredkitty -> RE: Best Way To Spot A Submissive (7/31/2005 9:07:58 PM)

I should edit that statement though....

They should be friends before they see me nekkid...in person :) I have a yahoo group with over 140members that shows nekkid pics of me and I'm cool with that :)



lynda4u -> RE: Best Way To Spot A Submissive (7/31/2005 9:23:03 PM)

I am submissive, but in the real world, I usually will not show it! However, if I'm at a club, dancing with a man, and he says, "Give me your hands".. I will look up at him and without question, place my hands in his (assuming I would want things to go further with this person than simply a dance!). If the woman is *not* sub, she may question your 'request'.. as the other writer said.. often, it is in the 'eyes' after you make a statement similar to the one that I mentioned. If she is not sub, no harm done.. you just asked for her hands. :)



BittersweetLila -> RE: Best Way To Spot A Submissive (7/31/2005 10:22:52 PM)

This is a bit off topic too -- but how possible is it for a sub person to do a switch and play the dom role? I am a true submissive, I know it and I know I have always been this way. I have experience with both male and females, but am currently in a long term relationship with a vanilla woman. We do love each other but the sex is totally dull for me. I have tried to bring about change. Over the years I have tried to "make" her act more dominent, but instead of it getting better as we get older it's getting worst. I notice more and more how submissive she is about everything -- I have to make all the decisions, initate lovemaking, tell her to clean the house, tell her what to wear, make her buy a new truck etc. So, the question is maybe she is also secretly wanting me to be more of a Master, just as I am secretly (or not so secretly) wanting her to take control. Could I switch?? How do you do it? Problem is, if I did it once would she expect it all the time?



Fawne -> RE: Best Way To Spot A Submissive (8/1/2005 7:14:35 AM)


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I think it's because I don't really like or trust women. I love men. Men are great. All my friends are male. There's something about being around a man that makes me want to please him and take care of him and falling at the feet of a kind male comes natural. It's just an inclination I get. Women, I couldn't care less about and I would enjoy the idea of whippping them, humiliating them, making them beg me for mercy, and then using them to satisfy my own lusts.

Of course, I also don't mind the idea of another woman topping me either, although I'ven ever had that experience.



That is interesting. Different reasons why..
I love men. I am friends with men. Pleasing and falling at the feet of a kind male comes natural to me too.
I also fear men. Want to escape. That combination of love, awe, fear of the power they hold and how submissive I can be to that energy is why I need to be bound, hurt, driven into an animal state of lust: then need the comfort and knowledge I trusted and was safe and loved and it all comes together.



mnottertail -> RE: Best Way To Spot A Submissive (8/1/2005 7:29:37 AM)

I have found the best way to spot a submissive is to look into many, many bedroom windows at night.



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