Argentopal
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Joined: 12/12/2005
From: Central Texas / Hill Country
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Hi,
So again, here I am, with my over active thought processes. I was just thinking today,I personally believe pleasing a dominant in a non sexually way to be just as important as the sexual side of a d/s relationship, what else do you do for your partner/dominant that is non sexual?
First of all, I agreee with those who have already said it is hard to differentiate between sexual and non-sexual in a full time tpe relationship, however I also understand your questions. I get up way early (to me it is way early!lol!) and go downstairs. I make coffee and I put Sir's lunch together. I always have things he likes for his lunches, including snacks and juice for breaks and there is always something home-baked as well. I take his coffe back upstairs in a thermal pot and give him a cup in bed exactly the way he told me to do it 10 years ago. Then I lay out his clothed for that day and make sure his wallet, phone, pocketknife, keys, badge, etc are all where he expects them to be. I get back in bed and we have a little morning ritual to begin the day for both of us in a calm and focused way. here the line blurs, because the end of the ritual is sexual. After he leaves for work I make the bed and do any upstairs cleaning up I need to do that morning.
I take care of the house and do alot of outside work (we ahve 6 acres of outside, sometimes it takes me all week to cut the grass that needs to be takem care of!!!) I do all the things a 1950's "homemaker" would have done because it was "her job". I love to bake, and I love to cook. Our ums are grown and gone, so nothing to do there anymore. I take time for myself; I read, I write, I sew, I sit in the garden and watch the hawks and the foxes and the deer.
What does your dominant expect from you? Is there anything you love to do for your partner? and is there anything you don't particularly enjoy doing for your dominant, but you do it anyway?
He expects me to take good care of myself. He expects me to take good care of him. He expects me to let him know if something needs to be taken care of. Just a few minutes ago i followed a "bad smell" and found interesting colored effluent in the downstairs shower!!! I made sure it was not draining, but getting deeper (sometimes the washing machine draining will have odd effrects on things) and I called him immediately. On the phone I checked certain things for him with the septic system so he had a better idea of what was goign on and now alas - I cannot run any water in the house! lmao - while that means no washing dishes or laundry, it also means no shower before he gets home - so at times we take the good and the bad in the same dose! Tonight was supposed to be a long play night for us, LMAO and the house has other ideas!!! But such is real life and we just roll with the punches.
I don't "like" making the bed, but I have done it every single day for 10 years now, unless I was actually sick or not at home! yes I make the beds in hotels because he wants me to! I don't "like getting up at 5:30, but I do and he goes to wrok early so he can get home early and that's something he does for me.
Are you free to do these things for your dominant?
Yes, he enjoys surprises and yes after this long I do know what it will be "ok" and when it's better not to do it.
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He held out His hand and said "Step into the abyss with me."
... and i did.
~Surrender without Fear~
~Power without Guilt~
~Love without Doubt~
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Pleasing a dom non sexually.. - 
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, I supply ears when he needs to vent, a shoulder when he needs something to lean on, a foot rest when he needs to rest his feet, an extra brain when he needs to find a solution etc. etc. 
And in His best domly tone, He politely informed me that I have no limits with Him. 
Hmmmpphhhh. 
*grumble grumble*
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