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Mavis -> RE: Porn and men - How much is normal? (10/30/2007 12:06:43 PM)
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i kinda thought the poster said he's gotten a great new job since then, but the behavior initially started during the loss of the old job. the new job should be refilling that gap, so he's sticking with the new habit because it met some need.
men watch porn for the same reason both sides masturbate, no pressure from a partner with expectations of thier own pleasure.. i can get off by myself in 4 mins alone, but with even a loving adorable partner, it's longer, i'm thinking of two of us and that does slow my response.
Add to the mix a time when the partner has been implying her satisfaction isn't being attended to enough, that'll add further distraction, can see why he's turning to a simple pleasure.. maybe remembering a time when he didn't have to satisfy you because you were happy to "just be used for your pleasure"? (i say this is one of the main reasons M/s doesn't work in a primary relationship, not too many people want to go thru life without reciprocol sexuality. but that's another topic.)
i don't think anyone should go too long with partner being able to not take responsibility for both partners sexual fulfillment, BUt, for a time, maybe it's sensible to relieve him of your expectations until he's back into the investment it takes to see to the needs of a 3-D partner. If porn is the easy way.. take steps to be even simpler joy than what he's getting there.
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