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RE: Been talking to a Dom on here and He - 10/21/2007 11:33:08 AM

winterlight

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i don't spend time with an imaginery Master. I do go to munches and meet people within the lifestyle.

I have met this Dom one time very briefly. I am not an instantly in love type of person. I take my time to get to know somebody. I am not stuck on this Dominant i was just wondering how long to "wait" for a reply. I am doing other things besides coming here.

thanks for the replies..

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RE: Been talking to a Dom on here and He - 10/21/2007 11:33:51 AM

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I agree, is this someone you would want to become involved with?
Be glad you did not waste any more of your time and life with him.
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RE: Been talking to a Dom on here and He - 10/21/2007 2:11:23 PM

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It's really pretty common. A lot of people just disappear instead of showing the courtesy of telling you they are no longer interested. Just be glad you found out early on that he's a spineless POS before you really had something to lose.

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RE: Been talking to a Dom on here and He - 10/21/2007 3:39:40 PM

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to all the naysayers.... collarme mail is not perfect....or he may be ignoring you....personally...i send messages....my sent folder says they are read, but when i ask the person i send them to....they say they never got them...so...he may not be getting them...or he may be replying and you may not be getting them....do you have another way to contact him? or maybe someone else can send him an email for you giving him your off-collarme-email-address just in case....thats what i do, i have someone play my secretary...hehe...but only do that once...

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RE: Been talking to a Dom on here and He - 10/21/2007 4:06:17 PM

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Any even halfway reputable guys I've talked to in here have told me in advance if they were going to be too busy to be in contact for a time. And they've usually found time for at least a quick Ron-type note :) to just touch base to show that they were still interested.

My opinion is, if he's really interested, he'll find a way.

Although chellekitty has a very valid point.....there have been times when another party and I have attempted to email each other in here and they've not gone through. Recently, on 10/15, in fact, an email came through while I was online that was dated 10/11. So, it might be worth your while to email him stating that you've heard there are problems with the email system sometimes, and you just wanted to make sure you had received his email if he wrote one. Try writing a 'new" one, don't use the 'reply' function. But, if he doesn't reply to that one, and you can't contact him anywhere else like regular email or IM (like AOL or Yahoo), then he's probably not interested.

< Message edited by windchymes -- 10/21/2007 4:10:08 PM >

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RE: Been talking to a Dom on here and He - 10/21/2007 4:17:25 PM

Missokyst

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Ok.. so what are you waiting for? If someone doesn't answer you and they aren't yours, who cares if he doesn't answer? If it comes it comes. If not, no big deal because there hasn't been an emotional attachment.
Seems simple to me.
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ORIGINAL: winterlight

i don't spend time with an imaginery Master. I do go to munches and meet people within the lifestyle.

I have met this Dom one time very briefly. I am not an instantly in love type of person. I take my time to get to know somebody. I am not stuck on this Dominant i was just wondering how long to "wait" for a reply. I am doing other things besides coming here.

thanks for the replies..

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RE: Been talking to a Dom on here and He - 10/21/2007 5:08:53 PM

littlehumbledone

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quote:

ORIGINAL: winterlight

has been reading my messages but not answering them. I take it i am dismissed. It has been 6 days since He last messaged me....

How long does one wait? I was warned that He is busy but if U read my message and not reply kinda odd isn't it?

Yes, and it is rude, when I joined CM I got it seemed something like 50000000 messages, I took the time to read each one, look at the profiles, and the ones who didn't fit in with what I was looking for, I sent a "thank you, but no thank you' didnt take more than a few seconds.. I have a horrible dislike of being or appearing to be rude. It takes less than five seconds to say "I am busy, but I will get back to you' and just as long to say 'thank you for your messages, but you're not what i'm looking for'

of course he could just be an arsehole.. CM is full of them too.

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RE: Been talking to a Dom on here and He - 10/21/2007 6:12:50 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: winterlight

has been reading my messages but not answering them. I take it i am dismissed. It has been 6 days since He last messaged me....

How long does one wait? I was warned that He is busy but if U read my message and not reply kinda odd isn't it?

Playing devil's advocate here... how many messages have you sent Him in 6 days? i know some get turned off if you're sending too many and not giving them a chance to reply - it screams clingy... just a thought.

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RE: Been talking to a Dom on here and He - 10/21/2007 8:18:15 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: winterlight

i don't spend time with an imaginery Master. I do go to munches and meet people within the lifestyle.

I have met this Dom one time very briefly. I am not an instantly in love type of person. I take my time to get to know somebody. I am not stuck on this Dominant i was just wondering how long to "wait" for a reply. I am doing other things besides coming here.

thanks for the replies..

I would not "wait" at all, life goes on as you have stated..if he replies, then do as you will ,if not ,continue to do as you will...I guess for one who is going on with their life as per usual, including munches and the like..why then would you even worry about how long to wait??..The logic of your question and statements, escape me...Tempting

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