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should i stay or go - 10/21/2007 3:05:45 AM   
lookingfordaddy2


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Status: offline 		My profile states i am losing weight and if size is a problem to Dom/daddy/master not to conact but this was said to me after a 24 hour period of talking to a daddy     there is no way I, or anybody else for that matter, is going to take you as there sub now. BUT that does not mean that will be the case when(if) you start to look after yourself [about my weight which i am losing]
So my question is is there any point of me staying if this is true what he say
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RE: should i stay or go - 10/21/2007 3:10:03 AM   
batshalom


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Status: offline 		He just appointed himself the spokesperson for every Dom. He just tried to feed you a big plate full of hooey. My advice is to not eat it.

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RE: should i stay or go - 10/21/2007 3:10:21 AM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		Honey, this is the internet.  People are going to say all kinds of things to you.  I wouldn't get too invested in what anyone says.  Only you can decide if you want to stay or go.  My advice would be to not base a decision on what pixels on a screen say to you.

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RE: should i stay or go - 10/21/2007 3:11:31 AM   
searchingangel


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Status: offline 		Please don't let anyone put you down like that, to me it shows that they are simply not the right Dom/daddy/master for you and are more into the physical aspect and not looking any deeper.  i've been in that situation and it's not easy hearing that but don't let it stop you searching for that ideal person.

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RE: should i stay or go - 10/21/2007 4:22:50 AM   
Focus50


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ORIGINAL: lookingfordaddy2

My profile states i am losing weight and if size is a problem to Dom/daddy/master not to conact but this was said to me after a 24 hour period of talking to a daddy     there is no way I, or anybody else for that matter, is going to take you as there sub now. BUT that does not mean that will be the case when(if) you start to look after yourself [about my weight which i am losing]
So my question is is there any point of me staying if this is true what he say

Mother Nature gets most things right....
 
The reason there's such a diverse range of shape and size etc in people is because we all have an equally diverse range in what attracts us individually.  For eg, this particular male does NOT find big boobs to be attractive (<gasp>) - a genuine "itty bitty titty committee" man, as we yousta say....  lol
 
Seriously, you're problem isn't your weight; it's that you've been listening to an arsehole!  Delete and block his sorry arse....
 
Focus.

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RE: should i stay or go - 10/21/2007 4:27:12 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		I will say that your profile invites taunting........I would rewrite it if I were you.

That's me, tho.
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RE: should i stay or go - 10/21/2007 4:31:37 AM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		I think Ron's right.  I mean, you list your weight at 999 lbs and talk about it all through the profile.  Why not focus on all the positive things about you?  I'm sure that you have many, many good qualities.   

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RE: should i stay or go - 10/21/2007 4:38:56 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		See?  I am not the only one.

Look, you can certainly be proud of your efforts in weight loss, but let's get that shit in perspective, Fatty Arbuckle made a career of it, but if that isn't where you want to be----------

I mean, what might I comment were I to write you a note trying to get to know you:

I see that you haven't got a picture so I imagine you are a fat ugly whore, who has no more going on than to be ridiculed about your weight,  you fuck pig, and you haven't learned how to use lower case letters, have you?

(is that about what you get for mail?)

There certainly is not many openings there to start an alluring conversation.

Jesus H. Fuckin' Cross Hoppin' Christ woman...give yourself a fuckin' chance!!!!

Ron

edit:  Hey!!! there are women and men out here that want that kink, so----


< Message edited by mnottertail -- 10/21/2007 4:41:04 AM >

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RE: should i stay or go - 10/21/2007 4:49:40 AM   
fsub4use


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Status: offline 		You know, i understand why You are so strong about it.  i'm also a big woman.... and i make sure that i put a REAL picture of me up on line... this is what i look like.  i've looked like this since - well always.... i don't have any problem with getting lovers or boyfriends (or girlfriends for that matter).  Why?  Because i know i'm passonate and smart and sexy and fabulous.... Confidence, my dear, is sexy... go find yours.... (it scares away the assholes usually)  good luck

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RE: should i stay or go - 10/21/2007 4:53:16 AM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		I would put an accurate physical description in the physical section, take out the references to weight in your narrative, put in your narrative what your relationship goals are and what is important in life as a person for you, and tell this guy that's an obvious fool to quickly fall off a cliff.

The internet is full of fools, ignore them, keep the good ones you find close.  Lose weight for YOU and your own health, not some Dom/me or anyone else.  You are a person that has many good characteristics, talents and abilities, focus on those and it will help you deal with your shortcomings.  YOU need to be kind and protective of you first before you can deal with others that aren't.

good luck to you,
l

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RE: should i stay or go - 10/21/2007 5:09:36 AM   
lookingfordaddy2


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Status: offline 		the reason i have about my weight there for is it stops most otf the one who dont like big women contacting me which saves a lot of time and problems
About icecream next to name i am not sure how to change that i am in to heaps of different things and had some really good experiences
but this comment has blew me away a bit
the reason for the question smiles thanks for then answers

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RE: should i stay or go - 10/21/2007 5:13:37 AM   
sweetNsmartBBW


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Status: offline 		I understand why you reference your weight- as you are trying to avoid the negative contact from people that are not attracted to that (similar to why I put the BBW in my name, it just wards off the skinny-chasers from the get-go).  However, you are much more than just a number before a pound sign.  I'm not saying to lie about your weight, or act like it's not relevant- just saying to shift the focus from your weight to you as the whole person. 

The Dom that told you nobody would want you "as is" was dead wrong.  There are Dom's out there that are not only 'okay' with bigger girls- but some that literally seek them out.  Like any other body type, some find it attractive, some don't.  Obviously, that particular  Dom didn't- and felt the need to tell you that He spoke for everyone- which is, pardon my French, BULL! 

I wish you happiness, success and acceptance.  Don't let your weight (or another's opinion of it) deprive you of any of those things.  You should revamp your profile, accentuate the positive...and stay right where you are.  You have as much right to be here as anyone else- and as much of a chance of finding a Partner; it's all about finding the One that is compatible with you.   

< Message edited by sweetNsmartBBW -- 10/21/2007 5:14:35 AM >

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RE: should i stay or go - 10/21/2007 5:15:11 AM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		The icecream cone is just an indicator of how many times you've posted on this forum, it doesn't mean anything, go up to mnottertail's post and click the yellow where it says the ice cream cone next to your name it will you show you the breakdown of the symbols. 
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< Message edited by laurell3 -- 10/21/2007 5:16:23 AM >

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RE: should i stay or go - 10/21/2007 9:35:10 AM   
angelikaJ


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Status: offline 		You are so much more than a number on a scale!!
I understand feeling self-concious about a "physical flaw" and honesty is very important in any relationship, but in focussing on that aspect of you you aree depriving us from seeing more of "the real you"...let people know who you are....look at you talents,abilities,strengths and gifts.
Be gentle with yourself and ignore the jerks who treat you badly.

Jennifer.

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RE: should i stay or go - 10/21/2007 10:41:09 AM   
Estring


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Status: offline 		Some people carry 999 pounds very well.

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RE: should i stay or go - 10/21/2007 10:59:51 AM   
shellzbythesea


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Status: offline 		i do agree with what most everyone else has said.  you should probably take the 999 pounds off your profile and not write everything in all caps...it seems as though you are yelling (rather than using them sparingly for emphasis).  i would just politely state that you are losing weight but please don't contact you if that's a problem.  That's pretty much what you've already done but lose the caps, the attitude, and the 999lbs, and you may get better responses. 
 
However, i wouldn't leave just yet.  There is someone for everyone and who is HE to tell YOU that no DOM will want you?  He cannot speak for all Doms as all Doms are different.

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RE: should i stay or go - 10/21/2007 1:24:17 PM   
proudsub


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Status: offline 		I have chatted with a lot of doms who like bbw, so they are out there.  In your profile you might simply state that you are bbw and not make such an issue of it.  I would just leave the "weight" blank. Then mention some positive things about yourself and what you are looking for. Also like others said, lose the caps. Good luck to you.

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RE: should i stay or go - 10/21/2007 1:33:45 PM   
mina36


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Status: offline 		I'm also fairly plus-size, but I do get attention from a few. In fact, it's rare for me to get something ugly in my email box. Ultimately, what you might want to keep in mind is that if someone is going to tear you down over your weight, that same someone would likely find some other trait to be negative about, too, even if you weren't overweight.

I agree with the poster who said confidence is very important!! Someone will always be "more" than we are...prettier, slimmer, smarter, more talented. So believe in yourself first and try not to let other people make you feel bad.

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RE: should i stay or go - 10/21/2007 1:35:56 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Ja, I just perved you and I would fuck you till your nose bleeds.

Ron  

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RE: should i stay or go - 10/21/2007 1:39:26 PM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		Dear, as so many have already pointed out, confidence is sexy.  i am 30 pounds over my ideal weight and twice the age of what a lot of Doms would be seeking but i am who i am and i'm very happy with myself.  i'm probably sexier and more attractive now than i was at 24 and 99lbs because of who i've become inside.  Are there some asshats who are simply looking for some fantasy babe?  Yeah.  And in my experience they are the same guys who got all of their sex education from watching really bad porn.

There are, my dear, LOTS of Dominants who just love the look of rope on soft flesh, who prefer curves more than angles, but self-depreciation isn't very desireable.

When you fall in love with all the fabulous things that make up the fabulous YOU, then you will attract a better class of people.

Oh, and this IS the internet where people will make nasty comments just to make them.... and just because you can't smell something over cyberspace doesn't mean that alcohol isn't often involved in those rude comments.

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