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Age? - 10/21/2007 8:11:27 AM   
BIllCT


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Status: offline 		Does age really matter in matters of D/s or BDSM?
I think it is the physical and mental attraction that counts as well as the acts being performed isn't it?
 
Besides I think anyone over 21 is capable of choosing just what they want to do, or have done to their own body, for pain, pleasure or whatever, isn't that how it should be?
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RE: Age? - 10/21/2007 8:14:14 AM   
Raechard


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RE: Age? - 10/21/2007 8:20:35 AM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		There are many factors arent there and age isnt jsut a physical thing, i am 21 and like to think im pretty sure about who i am but i know many people my age who have no clue. Age is jsut a number but with it comes experiance of life. I know of a man who is 40 and will not talk to any women above the age of 25 and prefers 18 year olds and personally when i was 18 i didnt have a clue. Each person is allowed to set their own limits and ideas and i know a lot of people have cut off ages, each to their own i say.

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RE: Age? - 10/21/2007 8:26:28 AM   
came4U


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Status: offline 		"Asking the right questions takes as much skill as giving the right answers." Robert Half.

Bill, it matters to some, it doesn't to others. 

the end. 

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RE: Age? - 10/21/2007 8:33:00 AM   
bipolarber


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Status: offline 		Just try telling a cop, or that guy from MSNBC "To Catch a Predator" that age doesn't matter... LOL

Seriously, to me, age does matter. Although I love talking with the younger crowd, I just can't get into playing with anyone who isn't within about 10 years of my own age. As I mentioned in other posts in related topics, I like hanging out with people who are of my own generation, just so we can talk to each other and know what the hell we're referencing. If I bring up a show I used to watch on Saturday morning TV, I don't want them cocking their head to one side, like a confused puppy, and ask, "What's so special about Saturday morning TV?" (Thus driving home the fact that the networks haven't done Saturday morning kids programming in over 15 years... since the Cartoon Network and Boomarang took over.) Stuff like that can be a mood killer.

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RE: Age? - 10/21/2007 8:34:09 AM   
onthedl94


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Status: offline 		I can completely relate to your question, as it has been my experience that most of the respondants in my quest for a longterm, satisfying D/s relationship have on average been 10 to 15 years older than myself and even some that were extremely younger.  I am completely comfortable with the age difference because what is more important to me is the connection between me and my Dom emotionally and physically.

And while I understand where you are coming from with regards to a D/s, M/s relationship, I believe this question applies to all relationships.  How many vanilla couples have you seen where the much older man is married to the very young female and everyones immidate response is she's in it for the money?  They have had to make a decision to be happy no matter what others think and you have to do the same, no matter what kind of relationship you are in.

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RE: Age? - 10/21/2007 8:34:53 AM   
LATEXBABY64


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RE: Age? - 10/21/2007 8:37:12 AM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BIllCT

Does age really matter in matters of D/s or BDSM?



Assuming everyone is 18+, it doesn't matter any more than it does for any vanilla folk. Which is to say... it varies greatly depending on the specific person.

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RE: Age? - 10/21/2007 8:42:01 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BIllCT

Does age really matter in matters of D/s or BDSM?
I think it is the physical and mental attraction that counts as well as the acts being performed isn't it?


Age matters in so far as the compatibility between people. Personally I get along better for the most part with people younger than I am. Fox and Angel are bouth younger, Fox is 20 and Angel will be turning 23. There is no doubt they are both old enough to make their own decisions about things. However their young age might make them incompatible for many older Ladies.
Age can also lend to the physical and mental attraction. How much mental attraction might there be between a  50 yr old man and a 21 yr old woman who have nothing in common but a kink? Or vice versa, a 50 yr old woman and a 21 yr old man?
Age may not be a dealbreaker, but everyone has preferences. Age doesnt always indicate expereince, or maturity, but it is commonly assumed to. That is possibly where the "Age shouldnt matter" argument can be used... numbers of years on earth really dont account for much in what youve learned or how you act.

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RE: Age? - 10/21/2007 8:45:24 AM   
LATEXBABY64


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Status: offline 		I do not know if  I agree with that. There is some really new exciting evidence to show that people may not be fully mentally devolped at 18 mentally. they were saying something about hormons and our bodies chemistry. I have find that article again. It was a good read

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RE: Age? - 10/21/2007 8:47:01 AM   
came4U


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Status: offline 		it is not news that the human brain is not fully grown to mental/emotional capacity until just after the age of 21.

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RE: Age? - 10/21/2007 8:49:40 AM   
LATEXBABY64


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Status: offline 		that is true. Peoples minds and bodies develope and different rates. 

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RE: Age? - 10/21/2007 8:50:07 AM   
treehugger42


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Status: offline 		Shrug, I'm 21 and it seems to me like a lot of people don't really "figure out" their kink until they're into middle age... thus, I'm willing to consider people who are significantly older (into their mid-30s) because the pool of dom/mes my age is so small - and the pool of those with any practical experience is smaller.

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RE: Age? - 10/21/2007 8:53:26 AM   
LATEXBABY64


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RE: Age? - 10/21/2007 8:53:31 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Any adult without significant mental impairment who is able to give informed consent, should have the right to decide what they choose to do with their lives, including how to manage their intimate relationships.

And that includes the fact that they have the right to decide they prefer a specific age range in the people they partner with. In other words, just because you're both over 21 doesn't mean she doesn't have the right to refuse you because you are old enough to be her father, or grandfather. If she's old enough to say yes, she's also old enough to say no. Even if it's simply because she doesn't like the color of your eyes.

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RE: Age? - 10/21/2007 8:54:49 AM   
LadyLynx


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Status: offline 		Well I definately was not ready for the lifestyle at 18.  Not even at 21.  As for preferances, I prefer Men that are between the ages of:  28-42.  (though there are a few men that are older I would make an exception.) Women between the ages of 28-45. (though would consider ladies younger then that, depending.)

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RE: Age? - 10/21/2007 8:56:40 AM   
came4U


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Shrug, I'm 21 and it seems to me like a lot of people don't really "figure out" their kink until they're into middle age... thus, I'm willing to consider people who are significantly older (into their mid-30s) because the pool of dom/mes my age is so small - and the pool of those with any practical experience is smaller.


Not necessarily treehugger.  It just happens that those of us at an average age of lets say 40 yrs old didn't have access to computers at the age of 21 to pursue bdsm, nor was it as widely known or practice-known before the internet. 

We grew up at a different time (50s, 60s, 70's, even 80's) when the idea of 'marriage' and settling down at a younger age was kinda shoved upon us.  We did, and now that many of us are divorced, we seek and wouldn't ya know it, our dreams and lives now make sense to us.

You just happen to be amoung the generation that bdms/kink is easily available in various research materials at your age.

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RE: Age? - 10/21/2007 9:01:46 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		Thats very true, came4u
I have been involved in the lifestyle since I was 18. I had a mentor, at that age, but until I met her I had no idea what BDSM and D/s was.  I just thought all the things I liked or wanted were wrong, since that was not what was accepted as "how things are supposed to be".  Nowadays, its as esay to research BDSM as it is Shakespeare, and people can do a lot more information gathering and investigation before they even get their first experience. At 20 Fox knows more about the lifestyle that I ever wuld have thought about at that age. He has been reading about it since he was a late teen. Its all about access.


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RE: Age? - 10/21/2007 9:02:02 AM   
LATEXBABY64


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Status: offline 		a wise domme said it is not the amount of knowledge you have about something but how you use it. 

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RE: Age? - 10/21/2007 9:06:42 AM   
Primordius


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Status: offline 		Age is important for more than the usual sexual attraction.  Woman over 35 are limited in their ability to reproduce.  It's natural for males to be more atracted to vertile females regardless of species. If a guy wants kids then it is not rational to look to woman older than 35 no matter how old he is.

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