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RE: Is this a normal reaction to a question? - 10/25/2007 7:37:25 AM   
lusciouslips19


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Status: offline 		hey guys I am a ball. I always bouce. Matter of fact I have 2 dates for this weekend and a possible 3rd. After work or coffee dates. All first meetings with Dom's I have been talking to for a while. Friendly and drama free.

So I am not sitting around crying or acting nuts or downtrodden. I have too much to offer and want a Dom who respects this. I have realized I am very submissive but I am not a slave and will never be a broken down robot of a slave. i am strong and have a strong will. I suppose my insecurities came up because my 6th and 7th sences were working just fine!

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RE: Is this a normal reaction to a question? - 10/25/2007 7:53:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

hey guys I am a ball. I always bouce. Matter of fact I have 2 dates for this weekend and a possible 3rd. After work or coffee dates. All first meetings with Dom's I have been talking to for a while. Friendly and drama free.

So I am not sitting around crying or acting nuts or downtrodden. I have too much to offer and want a Dom who respects this. I have realized I am very submissive but I am not a slave and will never be a broken down robot of a slave. i am strong and have a strong will. I suppose my insecurities came up because my 6th and 7th sences were working just fine!


glad to see you bouncing right along. somehow i knew you would.

being of slave heart does not neccesarily make one a "broken down robot". the slaves i have grown to know are actually quite the opposite. just saying.

may we all find our bliss,
everhope

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RE: Is this a normal reaction to a question? - 10/25/2007 9:15:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		Nope, his response wasn't normal at all.  I can relate to the desire to serve and submit so badly it's eating you up inside, but please, slow the roll!  Don't jump into anything with anyone who won't give you answers to your questions...period...I have never had problems with any respectable men willing to give basic info.  "are you married?" is one of the first 3 questions I ask....yes, people can lie, but if you listen to his responses, you can usually, eventually figure it out.

This guy actually sounds familiar to me.....talked to one sub here who said the guy had the same reaction to her questions.....he's here somewhere, don't know his name, but she saw all the same red flags everyone else is seeing here.  My advice, RUN, GIRL, RUN!  Don't let the thrill of the lifestyle cloud your judgement....don't treat the relationships here any different than you would a vanilla one......take the time to listen to your gut....the realtionship development is essentially the same....you wouldn't go home with someone you met if he was giving off a bad vibe, would you? 


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RE: Is this a normal reaction to a question? - 10/25/2007 9:52:40 AM   
lusciouslips19


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I LOVE your picture. You're hot!!!

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RE: Is this a normal reaction to a question? - 10/25/2007 10:14:38 AM   
lusciouslips19


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Status: offline 		What I should have said was I do not want a Master who wants a broken down robot of a slave.

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RE: Is this a normal reaction to a question? - 10/25/2007 10:30:11 AM   
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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Everhope,

I LOVE your picture. You're hot!!!


thanks, luciouslips.
that happens to me in a hot tub....
fuck being a princess...i wanna be a mermaid!

''What I should have said was I do not want a Master who wants a broken down robot of a slave.'

me either.

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RE: Is this a normal reaction to a question? - 10/25/2007 10:46:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

What I should have said was I do not want a Master who wants a broken down robot of a slave.


The real guys don't want a broken down robot for a slave either. Communication is a good thing (including asking questions). I'm sure you'll eventually find the one that can dance with you instead of just stepping on your feet. *grin*

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RE: Is this a normal reaction to a question? - 10/25/2007 7:01:42 PM   
lusciouslips19


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[/quote]

thanks, luciouslips.
that happens to me in a hot tub....
fuck being a princess...i wanna be a mermaid!

''What I should have said was I do not want a Master who wants a broken down robot of a slave.'

me either.
[/quote]

Me too! But I wanna be the Lady of the lake!!!

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RE: Is this a normal reaction to a question? - 10/25/2007 7:04:16 PM   
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[/quote]

The real guys don't want a broken down robot for a slave either. Communication is a good thing (including asking questions). I'm sure you'll eventually find the one that can dance with you instead of just stepping on your feet. *grin*
[/quote]

Thanks. I hope hes a gem like you. Dancing. Hmmm? I hope he can tango and rumba and we can learn all those hot passionate dances together and swoon! yum

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RE: Is this a normal reaction to a question? - 10/26/2007 1:34:57 AM   
MisterP61


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Status: offline 		lusciouslips...... it is a very good thing for you that you did get the response you did.  An impatient Dom is a very scary thing to have to deal with..... you would never know when He could go "off" and really hurt you.... and not in the SSC type of way either.

As a submissive, and even A Dominant, having contact information is O/our way of keeping it SSC for O/Ourselves as well as the person W/we are meeting for the first time off of the internet.  With all that W/we hear about keeping kids safe from predators on the internet, W/we somehow forget that W/we can also be victims.

I am glad that things are working out for you now.

MP

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RE: Is this a normal reaction to a question? - 10/26/2007 3:24:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm sorry but I just don't get this "under consideration" stuff.  Seems to me it makes life more complicated.  You either want someone or you don't, what's to consider? 

I can't honestly picture a man sitting in his chair, drinking his evening scotch or beer thinking "Hmmmm, do I really want slavebigboobs or not.  Would it be better to wait around untill slavesweetass comes along, or go with what I've got?"  It all seems very callous to me.  If your really feeling someone, would you really have to put them under consideration? I think not.

That said I think your much better off, I wish you good luck with your many dates.  I hope you have a great time !




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RE: Is this a normal reaction to a question? - 10/26/2007 3:36:59 AM   
lusciouslips19


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Status: offline 		hey dancer,

I have looked at your picture before . It looked like legs with high orange socks. When I looked at it today it looks like 2carrots and a couple of hard boiled eggs on a bed of greens!

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RE: Is this a normal reaction to a question? - 10/26/2007 3:43:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

hey dancer,

I have looked at your picture before . It looked like legs with high orange socks. When I looked at it today it looks like 2carrots and a couple of hard boiled eggs on a bed of greens!


Umm thanks for the compliment... I think.  I used to have feet all prettied up with hena, but my lust for over the knee socks got the better of me. So orange carrots in a bed of greens it is!


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RE: Is this a normal reaction to a question? - 10/26/2007 4:25:54 AM   
lusciouslips19


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Status: offline 		I dont know, maybe i am just hungry?!?!

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RE: Is this a normal reaction to a question? - 10/27/2007 1:25:39 PM   
RaynaSub


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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Why isnt there a board here where the subs can list the names of the players ? like the website "girl, dont date him". Would save some of us alot of headaches if we knew which ones were here just playing games and we could have a list of the fakes ahead of time.

being honest about wanting contact to feel more secure is not lassoing someone. Its saying "I dont know you and will feel safe if you can provide me with the assurance that you are on the level"


lusicouslips you are new and have a lot to learn.
You have been given very good advice so far here.
There is no need to list the names of players, because many men here change names
like the wind.
It is going to be your job to be careful and selective with the Dom's you become involved with.
People are people, and they do not magically become better people because they are involved
in this lifestyle.
Many here make very poor choices when picking a partner and they suffer just as much as anyone
does that is not in this lifestyle.
In the end, you will be responsible for the relationship you become involved in.
As all adults are, good luck.

< Message edited by RaynaSub -- 10/27/2007 1:26:46 PM >

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RE: Is this a normal reaction to a question? - 10/27/2007 1:57:07 PM   
MisterP61


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RaynaSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19




lusicouslips you are new and have a lot to learn.
You have been given very good advice so far here.
There is no need to list the names of players, because many men here change names
like the wind.
It is going to be your job to be careful and selective with the Dom's you become involved with.
People are people, and they do not magically become better people because they are involved
in this lifestyle.
Many here make very poor choices when picking a partner and they suffer just as much as anyone
does that is not in this lifestyle.
In the end, you will be responsible for the relationship you become involved in.
As all adults are, good luck.


RaynaSub,

This is perhaps the most significant advice I have seen on this thread.  Though as A Dominant, I have also made the wrong choice in submissives, so the street does allow two way traffic.  It is also not just men, but women who are the predators also change their screen names like their underwear, though I will admit that it is more likely to be a male doing it. 

One thing that you did forget to add in here is that you must also be wary of the pseudo genders.   These are the O/ones who list M and are Female and visa versa.

I thank the OP for starting this thread.... it can not be said enough..... SAFETY....SAFETY.....SAFETY.  Never be afraid to put your safety first... if One refuses to give any verifiable contact info..... run as far away as you can and dont look back.

MP

Edited to ask if anyone knows why My picture that I chose is not showing up?????


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RE: Is this a normal reaction to a question? - 10/27/2007 4:57:18 PM   
lusciouslips19


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Status: offline 		In the last few years since my seperation, I have learned alot. I was so niave. I am not anymore. I am still a hopeful romantic with an inner innocent core. This is what makes me a good sub. I also have a domniant mother lion side that protects this little innocent girl. I someday, hope to put this lion aside for a good and decent Master whom I can trust who will protect me. but Untill this happens, this lion will continue to roar.

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RE: Is this a normal reaction to a question? - 10/28/2007 7:51:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with all that has been said and offered; My only advice is to underscore what LuckyAlbatross said, was that BDSM relationships develop in much the same way any others do; you slowly develop intimacy and trust, you flirt, you court, and invest the time and hard work to see if this person is worth it.
One of the biggest misperceptions is that BDSM offer a magic secret path to lifetime romantic bliss.

I wish you well, and may your personal Bullshit-o-Meter continue to give faithful readings....

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RE: Is this a normal reaction to a question? - 10/28/2007 10:01:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		Luscious on the quote thing, the start quote command does NOT have the slash.  The slash is part of "end" commands.

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RE: Is this a normal reaction to a question? - 10/28/2007 10:06:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		If you want to do all the sexy shit, go to my profile at the top of this page right in gold, scroll around in there until you  find the signature block information, there is a button that says PCD code there, click it and it will tell you how to imbed anything or whatever for both sides of this site, emails and postings, but do not post images even though it shows you how, in this side, you can do links, but images are colloquially against TOS, although it doesnt say so, and you will soon find yourself in the  Nescafe production of  Ahmal and the Night Visitor.

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