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Online/LongDistance with the hopes of 24/7 - 10/21/2007 8:14:31 PM

mya75

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I know there have been a lot of posts regarding long distance and online relationships between Doms/subs..I am interested to know if anyone has had success in a relationship that started long distance and online that has turned into a 24/7.I am personally going through something similar with the hopes of it becoming 24/7 and would appreciate any info from Doms/Dommes or subs/slaves....

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RE: Online/LongDistance with the hopes of 24/7 - 10/21/2007 8:17:58 PM

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I've had two relationships that started online and went to 24/7... I ended both of them. I'm not saying it can't work, but don't think that you can know a person just by talking to them online or over the phone. You can get an idea, but you don't see the everyday things, the more subtle traits... you *can* make it work, just be prepared to meet someone with a slightly different personality than you were expecting.

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RE: Online/LongDistance with the hopes of 24/7 - 10/21/2007 8:20:06 PM

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thank you koko..I have of course met and dated online in the vanilla world in the past but this would be my first ventures as a sub.....thanks

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RE: Online/LongDistance with the hopes of 24/7 - 10/21/2007 9:18:30 PM

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I have had hundred of online relationships over the last decade or so, none have yet resulted in a 24/7 live in situation.

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RE: Online/LongDistance with the hopes of 24/7 - 10/21/2007 9:21:35 PM

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Online is so tricky ..*smiles* .....thank you for your posts..

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RE: Online/LongDistance with the hopes of 24/7 - 10/21/2007 9:28:18 PM

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I've had many relationships start online.. as for long distance.. those were short, if sweet.

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RE: Online/LongDistance with the hopes of 24/7 - 10/21/2007 9:42:16 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I have had hundred of online relationships over the last decade or so, none have yet resulted in a 24/7 live in situation.

Maybe you could expand on that and give the girl a little hope?

12 days!! woo hoo!!

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RE: Online/LongDistance with the hopes of 24/7 - 10/21/2007 9:58:36 PM

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What I have noticed if the question is worded differently you usually have a bunch of sub/slaves claiming how they started with their Owner and how long they have been together...but hmmm now that I am asking it a bit different than I have seen in the past I am getting way different answers...woe is me all hope is lost *lol* just kidding but it does seem that online rarely works yet it is such a profound and over used way of meeting people...*ponders to herself in thought* thank you Bossy and goodgirl

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RE: Online/LongDistance with the hopes of 24/7 - 10/22/2007 1:55:12 AM

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Master and i met online and were 1800 miles apart. i moved in with Him July 4th and we are very happily in a 24/7 TPE

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RE: Online/LongDistance with the hopes of 24/7 - 10/22/2007 2:37:29 AM

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InkedMaster and i met online, went to telephone within a couple of days then He flew me to meet Him (we live 500 miles apart) within a few weeks. Knowing someone in person, spending time in day-to-day ordinary functions is important. i don't think most people can really say whether or not 24/7 will work unless face-to-face time is spent together. i would never consider it without that kind of connection... Within two months He collared me. Our second time together was for 4 days. We talk every day. Our goal is 24/7 but because of my lease and family obligations, that probably won't happen until this coming summer. That we have a goal, a time frame, a desire, mutual values, shared sense of humor, etc all point to a lasting relationship. We are mature, know what we want, know there are no guarantees and just reckless enough to feel the joy outweighs the risks.

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RE: Online/LongDistance with the hopes of 24/7 - 10/22/2007 4:27:22 AM

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Master and I met online playin' an RPG, we played for about 6 months before talking out of character, we went a year or so without trading names or pics or phone calls. We played every night for hours then started talking EVERY night (we hardly missed any) out of character for hours, this went on a couple of years. Then we moved to meeting online and talking on the phone then letters. After more time passed we met in person, he came all the way from Australia to the Us and stayed for 3 months. He went back to Oz and I flew out 3 months later and got married and are living happily.

We met in 2003 and it's now 2007 going on 2008 I think that's amazing for an internet story. I am sure there are some who have us beat though !

Sometimes things just do work out. We're both so happy and we fit together so nicely, I wish everyone could be this happy in their relationships.

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RE: Online/LongDistance with the hopes of 24/7 - 10/22/2007 4:32:47 AM

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moving from online/long distance relationship to 24/7 with my SO as husbanddom and wifesubmissive in July 08 right after the wedding. communication is the key that helps us iron out any concerns/problems (esp since i'm moving with 2 UMs) we might face along the way.

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RE: Online/LongDistance with the hopes of 24/7 - 10/22/2007 4:36:04 AM

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Everybody is different, and every relationship will be, too. Yes, I have heard of it happening- but seems to be the exception instead of the norm. I spent 6 years in such a relationship- with many promises and much hope- only to find out the the commitment that was repeatedly assured was not there. So, after all that time and emotion invested- it never panned out. It was a learning experience for me; while I'm not going to say I'd never try long distance again (althought I'd much prefer to meet the local 'Master Right')- I'd make sure that I had much more clearly defined plans and a timeline in place once things started to get serious. If those are not things ~both~ sides can commit to, then it's time to pack up and move on...

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RE: Online/LongDistance with the hopes of 24/7 - 10/22/2007 5:14:22 AM

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Quick reply:

We met online. It took about a year of my traveling back and forth every 4-5 weeks for 4-7 days but we pulled it off. I have been with him almost 8 years now. So it can work.

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RE: Online/LongDistance with the hopes of 24/7 - 10/22/2007 7:26:45 AM

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BSB,

Woman I love you dearly and hope to create a life with you but we are a long way from that. There are several rather large obsticles still in the way. You need to get your divorce finalized and I need to finish school. Then I need to move 3,000 miles across country and then we have to move in together and make living together 24/7 work which will mean in some ways starting our relationship all over again.

While I truly think we can pull all of this off, we are at least a year away from trying. If we pull it off we will be the most annoyingly happy couple in the universe though!

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RE: Online/LongDistance with the hopes of 24/7 - 10/22/2007 8:14:10 AM

BossyShoeBitch

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

BSB,

Woman I love you dearly and hope to create a life with you but we are a long way from that. There are several rather large obsticles still in the way. You need to get your divorce finalized and I need to finish school. Then I need to move 3,000 miles across country and then we have to move in together and make living together 24/7 work which will mean in some ways starting our relationship all over again.

While I truly think we can pull all of this off, we are at least a year away from trying. If we pull it off we will be the most annoyingly happy couple in the universe though!

Thank you. That is what I wanted to relate to the OP.. Just that we are moving onward and upward..*smooch*

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RE: Online/LongDistance with the hopes of 24/7 - 10/22/2007 8:37:05 AM

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I met my Master on here a little over a year ago and I moved to a different state to be with him closing in on four months.

I am not sure but I think long distance has compatibility, effort and reality issues.

I think if decisions are based on what you are doing online then at best it is a crap shoot. I do think if two people are both equally committed to trying to get to real time 24/7, the effort is their by both of them and they both live in reality and are not chasing magic pill dreams then I do think it can work.

I think there is a huge difference between lets try this online and see where it leads and using online as a tool to find someone compatible in real life. The former lacks commitment and reality of the big difference between reality and cyber. The latter is simply a tool to be used to help.

Like any relationships though, success is almost always based on compatibility, effort and keeping our brains and heart open.

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RE: Online/LongDistance with the hopes of 24/7 - 10/22/2007 8:54:12 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mya75

I know there have been a lot of posts regarding long distance and online relationships between Doms/subs..I am interested to know if anyone has had success in a relationship that started long distance and online that has turned into a 24/7.I am personally going through something similar with the hopes of it becoming 24/7 and would appreciate any info from Doms/Dommes or subs/slaves....

we met online in 2003...at a BDSM personals site(not this one), at the time we lived 180 miles from each other. we met for the first time about a week later which turned into a torrid LDR that demanded a passionate living together arrangement.
we tied the knot last year.
good luck!!!

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RE: Online/LongDistance with the hopes of 24/7 - 10/22/2007 9:11:09 AM

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And you two have a joy and lightness of being that I hope to emulate one day!

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RE: Online/LongDistance with the hopes of 24/7 - 10/22/2007 9:20:41 AM

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Iv'e taken quite a few fron online to real life-never long distance.

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