slavegirljoy
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This is how i see a TPE M/s relationship, why the thought of it appealed to me and, how it works for me and my Master.
First the definition of Exchange:
exchange (v.) To give something in return for something received; trade; make an exchange: exchange dollars for francs; exchanging labor for room and board.
i give (something) my power to make the decisions about my life to my Master, in exchange for (something received) His power to Dominate me and control me and protect me and provide for my well-being and give me the pleasure-pain that i crave and give me the oppotunity to serve, which i have a deep need to do. It's a very good exchange, in my eyes. The best deal i have ever made.
Of course, i have power. If i had no power, i would have nothing to exchange with Him. The power that i have, i freely give to Him because that is how i want to live my life and that is the arrangement that is best suited for me and my Master. i have my strengths, my skills, my talents, as well as, my self-worth and my own identity and, He has His. i didn't lose any of that or give it up by becoming His slave. In fact, by becoming Master David's slave, i have become more of who i truly am and have become more confident and better at what i'm good at.
i no longer have to play the part of the 'modern women', the self-sufficient, career women or, the super mom, doing it all myself, bringing home the bacon and frying it, too. That was what i tried to do for awhile because the myth that i was sold, growing up in the post-women's rights era was that women could do it all, themself and didn't need to subject themselves to the subservient role of slave/wife, in order to be fulfilled and happy. For me, that was nothing but a bunch of hogwash and i felt like a complete fake trying to live that way.
Master David knows that i have value and He knows what my strengths, skills and, talents are and, He utilizes them to their fullest potential and that helps me to be the best me that i can be. And, being His slave has given me more fulfillment than i have ever known. i'm not knocking women who do choose the path of self-sufficiency and single mom, career woman, if that's what they enjoy. i was okay at it but, i never enjoyed it. i hated it.
i don't like making decisions, i'm not very good at it and, i can do so much more with my time, if i don't have to spend it making decisions. He is very good at managing people, time and, other resources. His job required those skills for a lot of years. He manages me very well. He doesn't micromanage me. That would be a waste of His time and, it isn't necessary. i know what i need to do. i know when i need to do it. And, i know how it needs to be done. And, i get it done, without my Master having to watch my every move to make sure that i'm doing it right.
Being a 24/7 TPE slave, for me, doesn't mean that i do nothing but wait on my Master or, that i sit and wait for His directives before i do anything or, that i don't do things for myself. It simply means that He makes the rules of how i live and, that i put His needs and wants before my needs and wants and, that i am at His beck and call at any time, day and night.
It also doesn't mean that i don't make any of the decisions. It simply means that i ask for His permission before i do anything that i have not already been given permission to do. For example, i have permission to use the toilet anytime i need to when He isn't home. i am allowed to decide for myself when i need to go pee and, i don't need to call Him and ask for permission, first. But, when He is with me, either at home or out somewhere and i need to go pee, i always ask for permission. Most of the time, He grants me His permission but, not always. Sometimes, when He is leaving for work, He will tell me that i can't use the toilet until 7:00 PM or, some such time. Then, i have to go by that decision.
It also means that He always has the final decision and, that He has absolute veto power over any of my decisions. For instance, i might decide that i want to cook chicken for dinner and i will say to Him, "Master, would you like to have chicken for dinner tonight?" and, He might say that's fine with Him or, He might say, "No. I want chilli tonight." And, instead of me saying, "Well, i already thawed out the chicken and it needs to get cooked and i was really in the mood for chicken.", i say, "Yes, Sir. Would you like a salad with that?"
So, what is so bad about this sort of arrangement of power within a relationship? It doesn't work for everyone, of course, but, if it does work for some, why criticize it or, the very idea of it? If this isn't your idea of what a TPE relationship is, that's fine, but, this is what it is for Master David and me. Every relationship is defined by the people in it. This is what He was looking for from a TPE relationship with a slave and it's what i was looking for from a TPE relationship with a Master. He and i had the same vision for what a TPE relationship is and, this is what Wwe are living.
slave joy
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