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spelling - 10/23/2007 7:47:36 AM   
elfie


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Status: offline 		Just a random question/ thought. recently while perving a few Dominant profiles, i happened to notice, the spelling was awful. i couldn't help but notice, it was that bad ( not one or two hard to spell words here i am talking simple words a 5th grader should know) the other part of this to is, if you are a Dominant, wouldnt spelling be important? Do you think it matters?
Do you think it reflects badly and would you try and politely correct the spelling mistakes?
does it really make a difference? if you are supposed to be the one in control wouldnt that have a negative light? since this is a a way to meet people, doesnt the profile make the first impression for you?
 
 
 

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RE: spelling - 10/23/2007 7:51:39 AM   
sublizzie


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Status: offline 		Spelling matters. It does make a difference to me. If I'm reading a profile with major spelling errors, I don't contact that person. (Which may cause a flurry of spelling errors on some profiles!) If they've contacted me, then I'll look at the spelling in their emails and how they relate to me. Some people just can't spell. I do wish they would learn about spell check though. Everyone has an occasional mis-spell. Even spell check occasionally mis-spells. But it's like putting on nice clothes for a picture shoot. If you want to attract people you offer them something that looks good. Good spelling looks good.

Just my thoughts.......

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RE: spelling - 10/23/2007 7:52:24 AM   
chellekitty


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Status: offline 		you could try to correct the spelling mistakes but it makes you look like an anal retentive jackass...maybe after you get to know a person you can point out....hey, btw you spelled ______ wrong on your profile....

otherwise...it doesn't really matter...


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RE: spelling - 10/23/2007 7:52:31 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		If you start to correct spelling then what else are you going to bitch about and try to correct. If the person gets their point across then it dose'nt matter.

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RE: spelling - 10/23/2007 7:52:31 AM   
SharpLikeARose


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Status: offline 		Well personally I try not to judge someone on their spelling but it does grate on my nerves when someone doesn't spell simple words right. Punctuation I really don't care about. But honestly, if I'm perving a profile I find I am more interested in those that take the time to write correctly.

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RE: spelling - 10/23/2007 7:58:58 AM   
RRafe


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RE: spelling - 10/23/2007 8:01:16 AM   
chellekitty


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Status: offline 		too bad you only did the reading and not the spelling 

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RE: spelling - 10/23/2007 8:01:35 AM   
Pernicious


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Status: offline 		Factors contributing to bad spelling:

Bad education
English as second language
Laziness

Life experience doesn’t always equate to educational experience.

They may not be able to spell the word flogger but it doesn’t mean they don’t know how to use one.

An open mind must be kept as to who you are in discussion with and a short amount of conversing will give you a better judgement of someone than spelling alone.

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RE: spelling - 10/23/2007 8:02:39 AM   
LaMistressa


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Status: offline 		Spell Czech everything, I say! 

Actually, I do notice spelling in emails and profiles, and I really hate "text speak".

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RE: spelling - 10/23/2007 8:10:14 AM   
Prinsexx


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quote:

ORIGINAL: elfie
Do you think it matters?
 
 
 

It matters. Size matters. But it's waht you do with it that counts.

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RE: spelling - 10/23/2007 8:11:11 AM   
Goddess20


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Status: offline 		I think it matters. Only because I want to be able to read a message or profile without having to squint at words and figure it all out. If I have to do that then I lose interest, it's just annoying.

I also hate when sentances just don't make sense! The only time I forgive it is when English isn't their first language.


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RE: spelling - 10/23/2007 8:11:13 AM   
catize


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quote:

 if you are a Dominant, wouldnt spelling be important? 


While I'll admit that a first impression can aid or deter my  interest, I don't quite see how spelling would be a criteria for dominance. Personally I've never met anyone who spells in place of speech.  I would be dumbfounded whether a dominant commanded me to k-n-e-e-l or n-e-e-l.

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RE: spelling - 10/23/2007 8:21:51 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Yes, I do think it matters.  That's coming from someone who does happen to have a lot of incorrect spellings on the forums.
 
Personally, I don't get offended at all when someone points out a mistake that I missed.  There are times that I type out something so quickly because I have a serious interest on an issue that I just hit send.  Why should it bother Me that someone was trying to be helpful?  Truthfully, I don't think it diminishes anyone's opinion of Me should I miss a letter or have a typo on one of My posts.  If someone catches it, I know they actually did read what I had to say and paid attention.

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RE: spelling - 10/23/2007 8:23:11 AM   
toservez


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Status: offline 		We can be all noble but part of any contact with a person we will take any information and process it. Generally speaking it is not something you totally control consciously. Obviously from the answers on this threads and the others that have been on the subject vary quite a bit on the conscious level part.

Very few of us if any would go on a job interview wearing our worse outfit. Very few of us would go to a bar wearing our worse outfit all dirty and look like we had not showered in days. Our profile is the first impression we give to someone. A miss spelled word here or there is one thing. It is a far different impression to have miss spelled words all over the place.

Today with spell checkers I just think if you are serious about finding someone it would be logical that the person would spend serious time on their profile and part of that would be to make sure that the spelling was correct. We only can make one first impression why not make the effort to have a profile with correct spelling?


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RE: spelling - 10/23/2007 8:29:54 AM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		I think it matters, especially on profiles.  Since your profile is the means by which you initially present yourself, I think it should be as error free as possible.  While the ability to spell has absolutely no connection to the ability to dominate, it's true, to me it shows that the person took the time s/he needed to present him or herself in the best possible light.  And, if s/he takes care with something "small", then she will take care with something bigger, namely me.  Yeah, it's a bit convoluted, but it's the way I am. 

Now, one or two misspelled words don't bother me all that much but I will blow by a text full of misspellings, "ur"s or any of the textspeak.  Forum postings are a bit different to me.  It's not like we spend hours agonizing over the correct phrasing so I don't pay much attention to misspelled words in a post. 

Duh!

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RE: spelling - 10/23/2007 8:34:34 AM   
chellekitty


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

It matters. Size matters. But it's waht you do with it that counts.



waht or what? hehe

quote:

ORIGINAL: Goddess20

I think it matters. Only because I want to be able to read a message or profile without having to squint at words and figure it all out. If I have to do that then I lose interest, it's just annoying.

I also hate when sentances just don't make sense! The only time I forgive it is when English isn't their first language.



sentances or sentences?


be careful with typos on a speeling thread...yes that was on porpise....look at my original repli


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RE: spelling - 10/23/2007 8:40:36 AM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		Spelling matters to me, which is weird because I can't do it very well. The joy of dyselxia.
Multiple degrees, still can't spell.
If someone can't take the time to spell check a profile I wonder about them. It is after all leading with their best foot.
If thats the best they got, it says something about them.
To me BDSM is in the details, as is any relationship.
When people get shoddy and play hard and fast with details, it makes me wonder.
Yet another thing I file under the "Things that make me go hmmmmmmm," category.

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RE: spelling - 10/23/2007 8:41:15 AM   
Bella1965


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I absolutely believe it makes a huge difference. This is a text only medium. Since this is the only impression you can make, why not strive to put your best foot forward? Forum posts, journals, or profiles that reek of misspellings, piss poor grammar and sloppy punctuation make me cringe. It only takes a a moment to employ a spell checker. It takes a minute or two to proofread. Is someone's day that busy that they can't spare the time? Nonsense. Attention to detail speaks volumes to me. It tells me how that person conducts their life and handles themselves. The content is debatable. *chuckling*


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RE: spelling - 10/23/2007 8:42:41 AM   
camille65


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Status: offline 		In my view a profile is much like a resume, a person is using the written word to put themselves forward and describe themselves.
If someone is so illiterate that their profile can't be read without effort then yes, I mentally discard that particular 'resume'. It is not an off the cuff thing, it takes a bit of time to write the profile and fill out the likes/dislikes part so there is no reason not to spend the extra 60 seconds to use a spell check.

In the forums or in a chatroom I consider it to be slightly different. There is more of a time constraint especially if one is in a discussion, then it is perfectly understandable to me if someone types 'waht' when meaning 'what' on occasion. Chatspeak has never bothered me.

On occasion is the key for me. If there are spelling errors in each and every sentence I have to spend time decoding their post. There have been too many times I decoded only to find it wasn't worth it lol. Casual mistakes are one thing and continuous mistakes are another. They can be corrected but the typist is too lazy. If they are so lazy in their communications then I have to wonder how lazy they are in their thinking and standards for themselves.

I do NOT speak of those that are dyslexic or unfamiliar with the language, I speak of those born here.

If someone doesn't care enough about how they present themselves then what else to they slack off on? It is an attitude, it is arrogance and I actually consider it rude when things like spell check are so readily available.

For over a year I was patient but now I have blocked a couple of regular posters because their lack of self-perception that is presented by their words is beyond lacking.

(That all means, yes spelling counts. To me lol.)

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RE: spelling - 10/23/2007 8:47:26 AM   
Alumbrado


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I do NOT speak of those that are dyslexic or unfamiliar with the language, I speak of those born here.



Errrmm... Dyslexia isn't really a country...

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