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Superman42280 -> Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 10:11:32 AM)


I am not getting contacted all that much by subs/slaves. Is it my profile? Am I not good looking?

How could I increase the number of slaves who contact me for chat?

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm.



candiapplered -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 10:20:53 AM)

You just have to be patient Superman! You can't expect to find the right one in a couple of days. Plus some think you are coming off too strong with all of your questions!



TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 10:30:56 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Superman42280
How could I increase the number of slaves who contact me for chat?


Don't think of this as a numbers game...your concern shouldn't be the quantity of slaves who contact you, focus on the quality.

If you want some specific profile advice, you might want to add a bit more about what you will bring to the relationship, and focus a bit less on what she will wear.

And you might want to think about starting a few less threads...

Taggard



perfection20005 -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 10:35:40 AM)

Give it some time Superman. Also agree that you have to stop posting so many threads. It makes some think you are coming on too strong.



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 10:43:05 AM)

Plus you're male. Males rarely get hits unless they approach things as though they are NOT looking for something and are just there as a resource. You're approaching this as a singles bar...and that really doesn't work.



brightspot -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 10:47:12 AM)

I don't know Superman???

I surely wouldn't want to wear Nylons and heels 24/7!

I think you come off a bit too eager, but lacking important
knowledge.

There are other sites where you can gain lot of information
about WIITWD and not have to ask all your questions here.
You are young you will grow and learn.
Would you really want to find someone, when you still have
so many questions?

Maybe if you educate yourself first, most subs want someone
who is knowledgable and can guide them in the lifestyle.
Google BDSM and you will have lots of info at your finger tips.

Good luck with your education and when you have some under
your belt and understand WIITWD better and are stronger and
more "Self" aware with this knowledge, I don't see why you would
have that hard of time finding someone willing to devote themselves
to you.

*Brightspot



HalloweenWhite -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 11:01:43 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Superman42280


I am not getting contacted all that much by subs/slaves. Is it my profile? Am I not good looking?

How could I increase the number of slaves who contact me for chat?

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm.




The problem is there are millions of reasons why you dont get contacted-you may have too little experience for some,you may not have the same interests,live too far away,be too this or that,or not this or that enough. You may not be attractive physically to others, too old,too young, wrong gender....the list sadly goes on and on and on and on......


HalloweenWhite.

The answer is to not give up. One thing you must do though is show respect and have manners when/if making first contact. Maybe try to make them laugh a bit. (?).



AAkasha -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 11:14:55 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Superman42280


I am not getting contacted all that much by subs/slaves. Is it my profile? Am I not good looking?

How could I increase the number of slaves who contact me for chat?

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm.


First, realize that just putting up a profile does not mean you'll be swimming in responses. You are probably going to be the one having to do the work and make initial contact.

Others have pointed out that your profile needs to be re-worked and be more well rounded. Anyone who has been around here already knows loud and clear you have a fetish for stockings, but the way you approach it could make a woman feel like you just want a female body so you can worship the stockings and shoes. Why do you have to be so fanatical? Why not be more realistic? When a man is so wrapped in his fetish that it's obvious, a woman starts to feel obejctified. You may need a sub that craves that kind of objectification, but perhaps are alienating those that would be interested in developing a desire to serve and then naturally want to please you any way you could imagine.

If your fetish for pantyhose is your main thing, and really that's what it's all about, you might want to consider dating an open minded vanilla woman. If she is extremely into you, she'll want to dress in ways to turn you on. Of course, you have to make sure you're extremely desirable to her.

Akasha



MistressFire70 -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 11:21:00 AM)

Perhaps a small revamp of the text in your profile might work. You can always change it back. If it's not all about sex, don't make the profile about sex. Add in some of the points that you currently skip in order to talk about them later. In this case, more might be better. Oh, and a clearer picture (we can't tell if you're good looking or not!), with your t-shirt tucked in, perhaps. I know you've said that you're a pretty casual person, but there is a whole courtship phase where the girl will want to see you best side. Save the casual side for the morning after when both of you have messy hair and bad breath.


Now, for me, I know why I don't get contacted: I'm not into Female Supremacy, I'm pretty demanding (and upfront about it; I have a LONG profile) and I'm looking for relationships, not just kinky sex or play partners (not that these things are wanted as PART of the relationship). That eliminates quite a few! Although...I have been thinking about a consort or two...hmmmm. Advertising that would be a BIG change in my profile. LOL

Fire



Superman42280 -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 11:44:22 AM)


I adjusted my profile... it is pending approval and can be read in about 48 hours I'm sure or so



Lordandmaster -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 12:08:20 PM)

Maybe people are getting turned off by your forum posts.



mnottertail -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 12:11:02 PM)

Not so's you would recognize it much, but in this league, we don't use blackjacks; we try to use a little polish; a little poise, ya know?

Al Bundy

I would also add to search for the phrase 'stupid chicken dance'. There are others equally as glorious, but that is my take on it.



ItzKat -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 12:13:19 PM)

What I am about to say is my point of view and only that. However, I am a submissive female so take it for what it is worth.

Let's start with your picture. It appears to me that you are aiming a pistol and have just cropped that part out of the image. I have no issue with guns, but maybe some do. Switch that one with one of the others you have on your profile... those are really good.

Now for your profile, to me it sounds like you are looking for a maid you can have sex with. That is not something that would appeal to me. Try disucssing some of your interests or experience in BDSM to give prospective subbies something to think about besides trying to vaccuum in heels.

Finally, it might be your age. Submission takes a great deal of introspection and self knowledge. Often younger women have not gained enough life experience to begin that journey. (I not saying all, there are certainly some great aware subs here) However, even when a younger sub does venture into this realm, she would mostly likely be looking for an older, experienced Dom.

As it is with everthing else on the net, women will get lots of hits, men will not. It is just the way it is. Just being on this list is not going to guarentee success. You might want to go involved in your area's local BDSM groups. There you will get exposure and experience and maybe find the partner you seek.

Again hon, these are just my opinions...

Kat

PS. You might want to lighten up on the "Ask a Sub" questions... at a certain point it is just annoying.



darkinshadows -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 12:50:07 PM)

You asked...

Your profile (previous) came across as too naive.

Your previous profile also contradicts your forum posts. It made you sound quite knowledgable, yet your posts are that of a newcomer - so it is possible that any potential submissives would be hesitant over the contradiction.

As people have said, your posts here will have been seen (possibly) by potentials, and they may have been put off by them. It is also possible that they have been put of by the ridicule you have been subjected to because of the posts and it might have been wiser to be less questioning and have heard what people have said. So far, it doesn't look or 'feel' like you have. It has come across that you have listened, but nor actually heard.

You are not learning by your mistakes or taken heed of any advise offered.

Your images could do with improving. But that has nothing to do with your looks, just the 'pose'.

You seem to need constant affirmation. Not a positive feature.

Possibly, also try and find your alter ego, rather than 'superman' - sorry, personally I find it a bit naff.

Your new profile, sounds a little needy - no confidence in what you are - if you don't feel confident, nothing wrong in that - but be honest about it in your profile. Your blog also points subs to the posts in the forum. Not a good move IMO - see above for the reason.
It is also a bit too short.

You sound extreme about the stocking fetish - nothing wrong with having such an obsession, but it is possible people may assume you are focusing on only one subject.

There is no hint of other factors like hobbies, likes, dislikes - outside the BDSM arena. You sound too focused on getting a girl - not nurturing a sub/slave.

Well, you did ask. I hope you can accpet the constructive critiscism as it is meant to be, constructive.

Peace and Love







justatoy2 -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 1:00:37 PM)

i did read your profile, and i have to say that actually you seem a bit submissive to me. I look for doms with character and strength. Just a thought.



stef -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 2:15:08 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Superman42280

I am not getting contacted all that much by subs/slaves. Is it my profile? Am I not good looking?

Aside from that bit of scruff on your chin that seems to be plaguing the majority of twenty-something year old men these days, you're a good looking guy. It's not that.

quote:

How could I increase the number of slaves who contact me for chat?

Try engaging people in some real discussions instead of flooding them with inane question after question. Presently, it just looks like you've got the attention span of a gnat and the depth of a petri dish. It's not exactly the best image to put forth when trying to find that sub/slave of your dreams.

So far, all people can tell about you is that you're highly inquisitive and you have a thing for heels and nylons. You need to allow people to get to know who you are and that's not going to happen until you stop interrogating, and start talking. It's not easy for some people to open up and talk like that in a group of strangers, but if you take the time to do it, you might be pleasantly surprised by the outcome.

~stef



RiotGirl -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 2:33:59 PM)

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayiiiiiieeeeeeeeeeeeeee.

Superman.. ask all the questions you want here. Its a great place for knowledge, i know i have learned alot. Just dont listen to all the political bull that goes on. Funny, i bet if you were a girl, they wouldnt be giving you such a hard time. But really, girls usually get so swamped on here with emails.. that they usually havent the time to go looking. So really what you need to be doing, is go looking and swamp tons of girls. heh



gretchen -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 2:34:41 PM)

If they don't go to you, you go to them. But aproach them with honesty and intelligence, therwise you're not going to get the slave/sub you want. If you send them e-mails asking about their fantasies, they will probably put you on their bulk mail folder. Don't be too insistant, and please, read the profiles!!.



feline -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 2:37:09 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Superman42280


I am not getting contacted all that much by subs/slaves. Is it my profile? Am I not good looking?

How could I increase the number of slaves who contact me for chat?

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm.


You "talk" too much! What girl wants to involved with a man she can't get a word in edge wise with??? I know submissives with better self-control.




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darkinshadows -> RE: Increasing my hits. (8/1/2005 3:02:22 PM)

Hey Riot - I agree he has had alot of negative feedback - and I do agree a person should be able to ask questions. The problem stems from the fact that what he is asking isn't discussion questions. People can't tender a discussion from them, they are personal - not open... They are questions you might ask a friend or mentor, but not an open forum - I think that is what is grating on peoples nerves. But I do agree, if people can't handle the questions, like you said in another post, there is an ignore button and people can just click that and - poof - no more questions from the man in tights...

Peace and Love



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