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i wonder - 10/23/2007 8:01:26 PM

southernhart

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out of everyone on these boards that has a D/s relationship. How many are actually in love with each other amd how many just play? i am fortunate that we love each other and will someday soon be married.

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RE: i wonder - 10/23/2007 8:51:29 PM

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I love Master more than I think he knows. I enjoy playing with him, but I love him so much. Master is the one person that I have felt this way about. I can only hope that we could be married, its not something that Master takes lightly though.
I am happy that you have found love.

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RE: i wonder - 10/23/2007 8:54:52 PM

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and i'm happy you have too. isn't it wonderful? aren't they amazing?

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RE: i wonder - 10/23/2007 8:57:08 PM

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My slave/wife and I are very much in love.

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RE: i wonder - 10/23/2007 9:05:07 PM

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I do both. Also don't forget that love is not necessarily a part of a healthy Ms relationship.

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RE: i wonder - 10/23/2007 10:21:39 PM

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*sings to self "What's love go to do with it"*

I am probably one of the most emotionally hesitant women on earth. As such, I tend to not get too tangled up in "love" in the ways that most people interpret it. In general, I tend to have some sort of kinship, appreciation and general affection for people that I play with. You might say that I feel some form of love for them.

As for more traditional styles of love... I tend to attribute that more to some form of a commitment. Which, in regards to me, is something a little it like trying to saddle break a wild horse... it can be done, but it's probably going to be a rough ride.

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RE: i wonder - 10/23/2007 10:54:36 PM

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I love My Pet.... But it's one of the reasons My Pet isn't truly a slave (by a VERY strict definition I use). A thought occurs: I don't believe she could devote herself to me the way she has without loving me.

Love has as many definitions as there are relationships, but ours hinges love and trust together very closely. Her trusting me so much has made her love me... Or perhaps her loving me lets her trust me.

Perhaps its my paranoia about STD's but I don't dig on playing around, sexually or not (not meaning in D/s that isn't sexual). There was that one fantasy about having a kitten farm, though...

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RE: i wonder - 10/23/2007 11:11:27 PM

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I fell in love with my Daddy/Master as soon as I met him, not even realising it but worried that I'd end up hurt and feeling despondent if he didn't reciprocate my feelings; I knew instantly this was the man for me, in all aspects. I don't ordinarily believe in love at first sight or even that it's possible to love someone that quickly; but dammit, I fell and fell hard. I'm lucky enough for him to love me in return and as a result, obviously the whole d/s aspect of the relationship feels more natural, comfortable and intense. There's nothing like coming down from a huge climax as he whispers "Daddy loves you" in my ear

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RE: i wonder - 10/23/2007 11:40:47 PM

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when Daddy and i were first talking...there were a lot of things going on in my life that were stressful. and one evening he told me "you love me, you know". and he was right. i was teasing with him a day later and began to say "aw, but you love me anyway" and couldnt finish it....because i was afraid he would say no.

he made me finish the statement anyway, and told me that yes, he did love me. and we're still very much in love. absolutely silly with it at times.

kitten, smiling

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RE: i wonder - 10/24/2007 1:46:49 AM

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In a world of microwave dinners, 180+ television channels, high-speed internet, it seems a lot of people (not just D/s or M/s ) are looking for instant relationships, love at first sight, etc. Few people seem to appreciate love made from scratch, that grows slowly from just a seed of affection.

To all who yearn for that 'in love' feeling.... go ahead, feel it and embrace it and don't worry so if your partner is or isn't 'in love' with you. There is much joy in affection, security in fondness, trust in a genuine friendship. There is a gentle place called Contentment that is often forgotten. You cannot force the flowers to bloom and you can't push the river to make it flow faster.

It was finding that peace, the place of contentment, the embracing of it being okay for me to not be loved in the same measure that i love, that i came to be loving and in being loving, found Love.

Yes, InkedMaster and i are 'in love' but i don't think that would have happened if we had not established the relationship first, and allowed the love to grow naturally out of commonality and affection.

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RE: i wonder - 10/24/2007 4:04:13 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: southernhart

out of everyone on these boards that has a D/s relationship. How many are actually in love with each other amd how many just play? i am fortunate that we love each other and will someday soon be married.

We are very deeply in love with each other.

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RE: i wonder - 10/24/2007 4:15:39 AM

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It really depends on what you mean by "in love" and/or "just play". They aren't mutually exlusive.

I don't love my slave, but he loves me. I don't "play" though either. I am simply dominant and he is my slave. There are no scenes. He just serves and gets rewarded in whatever way I see fit.

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RE: i wonder - 10/24/2007 4:40:23 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: southernhart

out of everyone on these boards that has a D/s relationship. How many are actually in love with each other amd how many just play? i am fortunate that we love each other and will someday soon be married.

In love with my owner and I just play with others. Life is good.

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RE: i wonder - 10/24/2007 5:03:04 AM

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When Master Vanatru and I first got together, there was no love, we simply took care of a need that each other had. I as his slave and he as Master. Over the course of time..almost three years living together now, I know for a fact we love each other. We say it to each other at least twice a day and theres the little personal things that we do that makes it obvious...

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RE: i wonder - 10/24/2007 5:27:33 AM

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Love is great but I won't get married again. I am happy to take care of Aba is his (and my) dotage but ... ohhh ... I am no good at the marriage thing. ~slight twitch~

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RE: i wonder - 10/24/2007 8:20:58 AM

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batshalom, you don't have to get married just because you love him and vise versa.

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RE: i wonder - 10/24/2007 8:45:55 AM

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i loved hearing the happy stories. It's so nice to know that there are real relationships out there and peole are happy in them. In my real life i see so many subs going from wanna be Master to wanna be Master and they are so unhappy. Thanks everyone for sharing your happiness with me and letting me share mine.

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RE: i wonder - 10/24/2007 11:56:12 AM

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we are totally and passionately in love with each other. Neither of us have ever known anything like it.
C & c

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RE: i wonder - 10/24/2007 12:17:46 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: southernhart

out of everyone on these boards that has a D/s relationship. How many are actually in love with each other amd how many just play? i am fortunate that we love each other and will someday soon be married.

lil1 and I love to play

but the best part .....we are also so much in love with each other

....I consider myself truely fortunate to have found her

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RE: i wonder - 10/24/2007 1:26:40 PM

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this is in ask a Master but i see other subs/girls/bottoms etc have replied.

I'm sure many of you are tired of hearing "our backstory" but we will celebrate our 26th wedding anniversary(28 years living together total) on Monday, last Sunday was the 2nd anniversary of our "celebratroy recolloaring" and in Feb we will have been full time Ds for 10 years. Love??? i think so. Trust born of that love??? definately. Trials throughout the years??? many. Love??? yes.

and we do call some of the fun stuff we do "play" (what else do you do with toys???) or "having a scene" but like sex is part of a loving relationship, getting cuffed up and flogged is also just a part of us and what we share. I can play or be played by someone i do not love. But having what we have - for us - just makes it so much better.
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