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ORIGINAL: TNstepsout

Also, when it came to being out of town this time, I repeatedly asked him if he would be able to email and communicate with me while he was out of town. He said yes. He told me that when he got back to the hotel room he didn't usually have much to do on a business trip. He was having internet problems with his work computer but assured me he would have his personal computer also. When I didn't get an email I sent him a text message and then called a few days later. Also, I had him fill out a calendar with his schedule that I could access so there would be no problems with expecting things from him that would interfere with his job or other plans. When he finally emailed back he said he had ANOTHER trip that he had never mentioned and was not on his schedule. How was I supposed to know? I can't unless he communicates, which he was not doing.

No, I am very fair and always give people a second chance and most of the time more, but this was just too blatant and disrespectful. I couldn't ignore it. If I simply told him "oh that's ok" how would he ever respect my authority?

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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

I'm making an assumption here that you're referring to a purely online relationship.  In that context, a lack of internet connection is a problem that will really stand in the way of them properly communicating.  But, if that is only one of many modes of communication in your relationship, surely, a phone call to you to say, "Hey, my internet isn't working, sorry I let you down" would have sufficed.  There is no excuse in this day and age, even if you're called out of the country for business, and a gentleman can't use common and acceptable manners to uphold his end of the relationship.

I always ask them, "Would you accept this sort of behavior from an employee?  A business partner?  A company you're doing business with?  Would you do this to a client?"

100% of the time, the answers have been NO.  When I become the exception to their generally good behavior, it's time for them to walk.