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Who's your___!___? - 10/25/2007 8:56:37 AM   
ShaktiWithLingam


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Status: offline 		1.Does the sex and/or gender (Male, Female, Intersexed, Transgender, Androgynous) of the One or poly-Ones whom you submit to, serve, surrender to, and/or Own you matter?

2.If so why or why not?

3.If not why or why not?




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RE: Who's your___!___? - 10/25/2007 9:03:03 AM   
slaveluci


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ORIGINAL: ShaktiWithLingam

1.Does the sex and/or gender (Male, Female, Intersexed, Transgender, Androgynous) of the One or poly-Ones whom you submit to, serve, surrender to, and/or Own you matter?

2.If so why or why not?

3.If not why or why not?




Yes, it matters to me.  I am owned by a straight, dominant male and that's the only sex/gender/orientation, etc. that I was ever interested in serving.  I have much love and respect for all different people but never wished to serve or be owned by any type other than a straight, dom male.  Why?  Not sure, just what I prefer.  Dom females, gay/bi men and transgender individuals just don't bring out that desire in me............luci

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RE: Who's your___!___? - 10/25/2007 9:45:31 AM   
batshalom


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Status: offline 		Probably so if you're hetero, or bi with a preference for one sex or the other, or gay, or transgendered with particular sexual preferences. Why? Well ... that's just the way it works, eh?

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RE: Who's your___!___? - 10/25/2007 9:51:15 AM   
onmykneesb4Him


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Status: offline 		It matters because of the sexual orientation of the person, just like any other intimate relationship.

Maybe i'm not understanding the question? Because it seems odd to ask this.

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RE: Who's your___!___? - 10/25/2007 9:51:22 AM   
sweetNsmartBBW


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Status: offline 		It certainly matters to me...and it's pretty much as batshalom said, just the way I'm wired.  I only tend to submit to Dominant Males, and even then, only after I truly know, respect, and admire them.  Otherwise, I'm on equal footing with everybody else...

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RE: Who's your___!___? - 10/25/2007 9:57:49 AM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		I prefer the power, way of thinking, emotions and body of a strong, dominant male if I am to be dominated.  I love women and I love their bodies, but I am less affected submissively and sexually to women.  Not to say there aren't powerful women out there, but I tend to look equally at them, rather than up to them.

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RE: Who's your___!___? - 10/25/2007 10:10:24 AM   
slaverosebeauty


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Status: offline 		Yes it definatly matters.  I want a Dominant Straight Man.  I don't mind playing with other women on rare occassion, but I prefer men.  The man I am with has to have similar views regarding poly, etc.  Its not any different that a vanilla relationship as far as most things go.

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RE: Who's your___!___? - 10/25/2007 10:24:28 AM   
chellekitty


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Status: offline 		no...because i can seperate power exchange from sexuallity....but if i were to get into a power exchange relationship with someone i wasn't sexually attracted to, even if they were a straight male dom...i would require that i be able to get my sexual needs met elsewhere with out any restraints other than that i be safe....

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RE: Who's your___!___? - 10/25/2007 11:55:42 AM   
LordVelvet


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Status: offline 		I agree with the kitty. It would depend on what I was looking for. I can Dominate or submit to any of the above in a Power Exchange or play even if that isn't want I want from say a "relationship". Just My opinion.
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RE: Who's your___!___? - 10/25/2007 12:12:09 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Yes.

I'm a heterosexual, submissive, monogamous female who doesn't play or have sex with someone without emotional intimacy. So the only person who can meet all my needs is a heterosexual, dominant male.

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RE: Who's your___!___? - 10/25/2007 12:21:38 PM   
Argentopal


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Status: offline 		I submit only to one person and that is based on the love and trust we have built on years and years in this relationship, but I would not have been in this relationship if that person was not a totally het Dom male.  I can "TOP" anyone, male or female.
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RE: Who's your___!___? - 10/25/2007 12:34:55 PM   
iammachine


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Status: offline 		1.Does the sex and/or gender (Male, Female, Intersexed, Transgender, Androgynous) of the One or poly-Ones whom you submit to, serve, surrender to, and/or Own you matter?

I'm not a sub, but I'm going to answer anyway. Yes and no.

2.If so why or why not?

It matters to me if it matters to them, pretty much. I do act differently with different genders/orientations. I am most comfortable with homosexual men, I am suspicious of het or bi men, I am very comfortable with m-f TGs, I don't actually know any f-m though I imagine I would be just as comfy cozy there, I am generally comfortable playing with women, though I can be socially suspicious of some women in particular (I hate politics).   These are all, of course, generalizations and I take every person I meet or may play with as an individual.

3.If not why or why not?

I don't have a gender preference, sexually or otherwise. Generally my BDSM play is as platonic as kink can be, and I mostly play with homosexual men (I am an bisexual woman), by virtue of the majority of my social circle consisting of, well, that demographic. :)


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RE: Who's your___!___? - 10/25/2007 4:19:54 PM   
gypsygrl


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Status: offline 		When it comes to straighforward power exchange, without sex, gender doesn't matter.  If sex is a part of it, I'm sure I could submit to both males or females if I found them attractive.  Can't say about the others because my experience interacting with them has been so limited.

Dunno about the why questions.


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RE: Who's your___!___? - 10/25/2007 4:24:14 PM   
onthedl94


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Status: offline 		As for myself, I only desire to be with a het male Dom.  I can't really give you a "why" because I think it's just like a person knowing they are gay, bi or straight: they just know they are.

Now as for playing, I am bi and enjoy playing with other female subs, but only under the instruction of a het male Dom.

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RE: Who's your___!___? - 10/25/2007 4:37:27 PM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		since i'm not bi (or even bi-curious), lesbian, etc etc, yes it does matter if the dominant i serve is monogamous, straight and male.  serving and/or playing with women doesn't do anything for me.

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RE: Who's your___!___? - 10/25/2007 4:54:22 PM   
IrishMist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ShaktiWithLingam

1.Does the sex and/or gender (Male, Female, Intersexed, Transgender, Androgynous) of the One or poly-Ones whom you submit to, serve, surrender to, and/or Own you matter?

2.If so why or why not?

3.If not why or why not?




No; I don't try and control who I respond to. If it's felt in the mind, in the body, and in the heart; I let it happen naturally; as it should.

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RE: Who's your___!___? - 10/25/2007 5:02:04 PM   
octavia


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Status: offline 		I kinda like boy parts... so.... yep would have to say it does.



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RE: Who's your___!___? - 10/25/2007 5:14:53 PM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		yes it matters...why? because I said so.....lol 

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RE: Who's your___!___? - 10/25/2007 5:20:11 PM   
hisannabelle


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From: Tallahassee, FL, USA
Status: offline 		greetings shaktiwithlingam,

depends on the situation. i am bisexual and am attracted to males and females about equally, but i feel more comfortable submitting to males in long-term d/s relationships (possibly in part because i've never had such a relationship with another woman). however, i'd be comfortable bottoming or serving a woman in another context, and am open to sexual/emotional relationships with either sex. in terms of intersexed, transgender, androgynous...i expect i would have the same reaction to a relationship with an intersexed or androgynous person as with a woman/trans m-to-f - being comfortable having sex or bottoming but not being a slave in an ltr...but i've only ever known intersexed/androgynous people as platonic friends and so i can only speak tentatively on that as well.

respectfully,
annabelle.


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RE: Who's your___!___? - 10/25/2007 8:04:42 PM   
slaveluci


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

I prefer the power, way of thinking, emotions and body of a strong, dominant male if I am to be dominated.  I love women and I love their bodies, but I am less affected submissively and sexually to women.  Not to say there aren't powerful women out there, but I tend to look equally at them, rather than up to them.

What she said.  I love being with women but as far as seeing them as powerful and wanting to submit to them, that just doesn't happen with me.  As you said, ownedgirlie, I see other women as my equals and not my superiors.  (Actually, I see most men that way as well)...........luci

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