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badazzfireman57 -> RE: OMG WTF Do I do? (10/25/2007 3:11:45 PM)

I have to agree with the concensus here, and say to get out.  Whats to say he wouldn't get you where he wants you, and take out you & him as a murder / suicide, as stated above.  I worked as a Firefighter / EMT for almost 13 years, and I don't know how many domestics I went to where the b/f or husband had pulled that whoa is me shit, and beat the hell outta his g/f or wife.  It is not worth it.  Call the PD, let them have him commited, and maybe he can get the help he needs.........  Just my 2 cents



wisteriaV -> RE: OMG WTF Do I do? (10/25/2007 3:13:40 PM)

Call the police in  his town tell them this guy is suicidal and has threatened it. Then the nice people will come and get him and keep in the nut house for a few days so you can change your phone number, delete your profile and come up with a new one. They shouldn't charge you for changing the phone number if you explain why you need to have it changed...[8|]



akisha -> RE: OMG WTF Do I do? (10/25/2007 3:16:44 PM)

~Fast Reply~

My mother told me when I was 15 and started dating. " If anyone ever threatens to hurt themselves get the fuck away from them as far and as fast as you can"

I'm saying the same thing now



Michaelsangel -> RE: OMG WTF Do I do? (10/25/2007 3:27:02 PM)

i have to agree with the majority...RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN! This is emotional blackmail at its very worst! If you are concerned, call the police in his town, tell them that he has threatened suicide and you are concerned....have them do their job by checking up on him....then you get the hell outta there as quick as you can! i belong to a group for survivors of loved ones suicides and believe me, suicidal thoughts and behaviors are no way to try to control or manipulate anybody....for your own sanity, leave him and find a Dom who doesn't play those kind of mind games!
Michaelsangel



laurell3 -> RE: OMG WTF Do I do? (10/25/2007 3:54:55 PM)

Call the police, if he is a danger to himself or others he is comittable.  Get a protection order and get away from him.  He's either playing a game with you or needs serious help.  Either way, a relationship with him isn't possible right now.  You cannot fix him, you will not save him (if he even needs to be saved).



onthedl94 -> RE: OMG WTF Do I do? (10/25/2007 3:55:42 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SeeksOnlyOne

quote:

ORIGINAL: theletter12

do you think he's really serious? i do, and i'm scared.


no i dont think he is serious.....serious folks blow their brains out and let folks be surprised.....

hes a manipulative, pityful human being trying to guilt you into doing something.....

of course, this is my opinion....everyone has one


This is a VERY GOOD opinion!  My ex use to use this same tactic everytime I would try and leave him.  I would stay, all the while knowing I was not happy in the relationship, and finally I called his bluff.  And that's exactly what it was, "A Bluff." 

Also, I am having a hard time figuring out why you would want someone with this sort of mental issue to have control over you to begin with.  If he truely is contemplating suicide do you really think he would mind adding homicide to his list?  I don't!  Better to be safe then sorry, girl RUN!



KiandPhoenix -> RE: OMG WTF Do I do? (10/25/2007 3:56:16 PM)

Get his address, call the cops and tell them he is threatening suicide. They will lock him up for at least 72 hours or maybe it is 96, but that does not include holidays or weekends. He does not even have to consent. If he wont go willingly, they will take him anyhow. Then block his number and e-mail, and get the hell away.

~Ki



LadyLegs -> RE: OMG WTF Do I do? (10/25/2007 3:59:40 PM)

And you haven't asked to be named the beneficiary of his life insurance policy?  What ARE you thinking?



badazzfireman57 -> RE: OMG WTF Do I do? (10/25/2007 4:09:30 PM)

LMAO LadyLegs, silly.  Just silly



apettiger -> RE: OMG WTF Do I do? (10/25/2007 4:22:59 PM)

1) you have not even met him face to face, yet he loves you and cannot live without you. STAY, if you want to be isolated from your friends and family.
2)(as was stated before) a person who REALLY is pplanning on commiting suicide keeps it to themselves, for FFEAR being interrupted and stopped.
3) NEVER settle!! you may be compatible with him to a point, but something tells me that you dont agree with this tactic. if he will pull this to hook you in, what will he do to you after he gets you to himself?
and lastly ,,, i am sure jeffery dahmer told everyone of his victims "oh, c'mon, i'm not gonna hurt ya. it's just a drink and a movie" right before he injected the acid into their brains.



Rushemery -> RE: OMG WTF Do I do? (10/25/2007 4:35:59 PM)

the OP's profile is MIA



IrishMist -> RE: OMG WTF Do I do? (10/25/2007 4:55:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Rushemery

the OP's profile is MIA

Of course it is [8D]



InkedMaster -> RE: OMG WTF Do I do? (10/25/2007 4:59:52 PM)

The Skyway Bridge here in Fla is putting in a special "suicide lane" for jumpers, complete with valet parking. I think another company is trying to get the contract on the photography rights, kinda like they do when your on a rollercoaster. Skyway toll $1.00 Valet parking $5.00 The expression on your face falling as you discover Newton's second law of motion...PRICELESS



lilrissa -> RE: OMG WTF Do I do? (10/25/2007 5:00:56 PM)

it's only a cry for attention. #1..he doesn't love you..not after a month. Real love takes time. He is in lust and there is a difference between infatuation and love.  It requires spending time together in person and getting to know each other because on the phone and on line are not the same as in person.
He is merely trying to coerce you into coming out of guilt. A real man would realize that with a broken leg..traveling is not exactly something you are up for. I would seriously question him being a dominant/Master.  Sounds rather sick and childish to me. 
Don't worry about him hurting himself.  Unless you truly are worried that he might, call the police and get them involved instead.  If you go and he is suicidal, he may choose to take you with him. I would say that this one is not all there and you need to disassociate yourself from him immediately.  Just fade away and avoid all calls, emails and IM's and just let him know that you are not ready to move in.  Trust me, this is not a healthy approach. He is moving wayyyyy too fast.
Hope you heed the advice



pseudopsychotic -> RE: OMG WTF Do I do? (10/25/2007 5:52:21 PM)

::Fast reply::

I cant think this thread is actually a serious one.



Estring -> RE: OMG WTF Do I do? (10/25/2007 5:56:26 PM)

Tell him you have a bridge you can sell him and he can jump from it. 



winterlight -> RE: OMG WTF Do I do? (10/25/2007 6:01:29 PM)

Why would u want to be under somebody that doesn't have a grip and uses coercion etc.

RUN LIKE HELL. Move, change your phone number, cell phone etc. Do whatever it takes!!



corsetgirl -> RE: OMG WTF Do I do? (10/25/2007 6:08:08 PM)

About 11 years ago, after breaking up with an ex-boyfriend for one month and trying to get over it, he calls me to ask me to come over and pulled the same "I am going to kill myself" BS drama on me. 

Like a stupid idiot, I fell into that trap and one year later we were married.  For the next four years after the time I said "I do", I should have ran because this marriage was a roller coaster ride to hell! 

Do yourself a favor, call the cops or a suicide prevention office in your neighborhood but steer clear of this man.  If you stay with this man, you are going to be with a time bomb.  D's relationships take time and one should not be forced or pressured. 



grlneedstolearn -> RE: OMG WTF Do I do? (10/25/2007 6:28:45 PM)

i say this is a red flag, for me anyways. i say this because he wants attention, but he also needs to get/be emotional stable first. Because you've only talked on the phone and nothing else, i would say just leave him so he can deal with his own problems. Like for me, if i were to talk with someone for a couple months and all of a sudden they want me up there with them at 2am i'm gonna be like, umm no, get your life straightened out first and get both feet on the ground. i wouldn't go with this guy, he's got problems that he can't or doesn't want to work out and wants you to help him, which is fine, but to threaten suicide if he's not there?? Why doesn't he get counseling or other support group? This guy just doesn't sit well with me



DreamyLadySnow -> RE: OMG WTF Do I do? (10/25/2007 7:28:11 PM)

He's abusive. He's manipulative. He's stalker material.
Get the hell away while you still can.

LS



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