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What is the Best way to Filter Fake from Real - 10/25/2007 4:09:48 PM

Sterlings

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can you help me out it has probly been posted before but i can not find it, and i am a newb. any feed back would be greatly apperciated.

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RE: What is the Best way to Filter Fake from Real - 10/25/2007 4:38:25 PM

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Well guys who show of their abs for one thing. Whooosh.. right out the window.

Seriously-do you mean howYOU can weed the fakes, or how the ladies weed the fake subs?

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RE: What is the Best way to Filter Fake from Real - 10/25/2007 4:47:30 PM

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If I had abs like that, I'd answer the phone naked

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RE: What is the Best way to Filter Fake from Real - 10/25/2007 5:52:09 PM

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Ask for the Certificate of Authenticity, of course.

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RE: What is the Best way to Filter Fake from Real - 10/25/2007 6:38:20 PM

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At least they are nice abs, give the poor boy that. And define "Real", please, Ab-Boy.

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RE: What is the Best way to Filter Fake from Real - 10/25/2007 6:53:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: Sterlings

can you help me out it has probly been posted before but i can not find it, and i am a newb. any feed back would be greatly apperciated.

Dear Sterlings,

Welcome to the boards. You should stick around.
Your total profile is honest but only says that you are new and not sure what you are looking for.
Well, rather than throwing out the word fake and real, you might want to educate yourself as to the many dimensions of this lifestyle and then figure out what is going to work for you as you start out. If a particular Domina's style will not work for you, then She is not "fake"...She is just not the one for you.
I could call you a "fake, by stating that you have no experience and you are probably a "do me" boy. After all, your picture is indicative of a boy who thinks he is hot and is offering a body for play. Doesn't sound very fair does it?
I would suggest that you find some local events and munches on yoru area, and get out into the real time community. Read as much as you can on these boards, and decide how you are most comfortable starting out. Be honest and don't place your expectations onto a Domina just because you assume she must want to teach you how to take a strap-on or instruct you in "oral service". That is a big mistake on the part of many newbies (and a lot of "oldies!). If you are only interested in phone, cam or online, then expect to find a lot of Ladies who are not "fake" but are going to advise you that they have a PayPal account. Read profiles carefully, send out personal letters of introduction based upon the Lady as a Women, not the female as a Domina. Follow all instructions given in a profile.
And don't use the word "fake", Just because it won't work for you or your needs, doesn't mean it won't work for someone else.
Good luck.

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RE: What is the Best way to Filter Fake from Real - 10/25/2007 7:36:37 PM

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At least they are nice abs, give the poor boy that. And define "Real", please, Ab-Boy.

Yeah, I have to admit. I wouldn't really whoooosh that one out the window.

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RE: What is the Best way to Filter Fake from Real - 10/25/2007 7:49:04 PM

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No magic bullet to be found from just reading the profiles, unfortunately.

Check their postings on the boards, see if they are in the chat rooms, try to establish an email correspondence, and use your common sense (it's easy to lose track sometimes in the excitement of a prospective relationship).

Good luck, ATP

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RE: What is the Best way to Filter Fake from Real - 10/25/2007 8:22:04 PM

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Or you could always try the trusty Illudium Q-32 Explosive Space Modulator.

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RE: What is the Best way to Filter Fake from Real - 10/26/2007 5:30:00 AM

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If I were you, I would work on your profile, you will find people that really have an idea what they want are going to have higher expectations than what you seem to be offerring at this point. Take out that garbage about money, it's only going to attract people you don't want to deal with, not keep "broke" people from contacting you.

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RE: What is the Best way to Filter Fake from Real - 10/26/2007 6:02:54 AM

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thank you all for taking time. and the reason i ask is alot of dominate wemon want me to get on cam and get naked " but they say i must earn pictures" and "earn to see them on cam" i feel very un comfotiable doing that. but at the same time i am not being good at being submissive but do enjoy alot of the aspects i am defintly a switch. but would give it up for the right dominate women. and it seems alot of dominate women get mad when i ask them for a sign picture or to get on webcam. so am i just running into fakes. or am i being dis respectfull. i apolgize for the spelling i have been up for a real long time reading into the life style and diffrent things.

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RE: What is the Best way to Filter Fake from Real - 10/26/2007 6:11:47 AM

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I don't know, if you're demanding a picture or the person on cam in the first conversation, I would personally laugh and block you, others might not do so. Keep in mind, this isn't always a safe world and as female in it, I am protective about who I give personal information to, pictures included.
Other than in the initial phases of the relationship, I don't do the cam/online thing, although it might be a good place to start if you're new. That is, however, a very limited arena.
Stop saying "fake", people are not "fake" they just dont have similar interests.
Are you actually starting out having conversations with these women about life and each others interests? Find someone you want to talk to that you have things in common with and deal with it if they don't want to be on cam. I don't do it, ever personally, I don't have any desire to see my naked photos on the web someday, but then again, I actually meet them in real life, so I'm not sure it's the same.
There's a whole long post about pictures and how people feel about sharing them that is recent, read it, it might give you some insight into the length of time people converse before sharing such information.
Your profile lists you as Dominant, but you say you are dealing with dominant women, are you a sub/switch?
Go to bed, sleep, have patience, live your life, this will all be here when you return.
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RE: What is the Best way to Filter Fake from Real - 10/26/2007 6:18:23 AM

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There is no sure fire way to determine if someone is geniune. This is real life relationships with a bit of a different flair to it.
To the one who said being Domme would not be for you, that is hog wash in my opinion. We all have a dominant and submissive side to us. Certain people can bring both out.
Don't rush yourself because it take time. One thing to watch out for is that they say they want a descrete relationship or they are way over the top in their demands, be careful. Never meet someone for the first time in public at night alone. Meet them for lunch. Another flag is someone who comes through the area often. That is a sure flag. I always tell them I do not do drive bys.
Best of luck.

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RE: What is the Best way to Filter Fake from Real - 10/26/2007 6:28:24 AM

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sorry let me clarify when i say fake i meen, people who take pictures from other people and pretend that it is them.

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RE: What is the Best way to Filter Fake from Real - 10/26/2007 6:31:29 AM

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Sterlings, go to bed. There is no mystical instant answer. Sleep, it's good for you.
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RE: What is the Best way to Filter Fake from Real - 10/26/2007 6:34:36 AM

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lol i suffer from insomnia, do to my medication. =p i will be trolling for hours on diffrent sites.

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RE: What is the Best way to Filter Fake from Real - 10/26/2007 6:35:51 AM

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sigh...read your mail, I'll help you with your profile.
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RE: What is the Best way to Filter Fake from Real - 10/26/2007 6:36:32 AM

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sorry let me clarify when i say fake i meen, people who take pictures from other people and pretend that it is them.

Right, but realistically - I see your profile pic and say "yeah right".

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RE: What is the Best way to Filter Fake from Real - 10/26/2007 6:40:48 AM

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yes but i offer my webcam in every message to verify i am real

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RE: What is the Best way to Filter Fake from Real - 10/26/2007 6:42:36 AM

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Your perception that people who do not want to appear on cam are not "real" is erroneous. She is saying your profile is not at all convincing, that doesn't have much to do with being on cam.

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