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krikket -> RE: slavegirl222 (11/2/2007 8:23:42 PM)
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Way back, in the dark ages of my marriage and eons before I even knew the term submission was something other than sending in a manuscript..lol...we were married for 38 days when my husband left for a year's tour in Viet Nam. Did I miss him? oh yeah. I was lonely as hell, and lots of times bored out of my mind. However, I knew I'd never last if I didn't find something to do to keep me active, keep me sane, to be the kine of woman he was eager to come home to. So..I did volunteer work (at the time I worked at the USO as a "senior" volunteer, cuz Junior volunteers were single..lol.) I read a ton of books, I learned to be a better cook, I learned some crafts. It's not necessarily the amount of time we have on our own, but what we do with it.
In these past few years, divorced and an empty nester, I found myself faced with same problems of filling time. It's not always easy or fun, but I like to think that eventually I'll be the kind of submissive that someone will be eager to take as his. I read, sew, do crafts, post on CM, smile at the little kids in my complex, visit museums, go to work, learn how to fix stuff I never dreamed I'd do before -- all things that help keep me busy, safe and sane.
The point I guess I'm trying to make is that it really doesn't matter what kind of relationship we have or how long we've been with our partners, if it's full or part time, nilla or D/s, there are always times that are more difficult for us to get thru than other times, and it's up to us to figure out how to get along with ourselves and our partners.
I do wish you both luck...
cheers,
jimini
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