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Lashra -> RE: Hit and Run domination. Use the man then move on. Sound good? (10/26/2007 7:31:38 PM)

I'm not into one night stands, I tried it once and it was a very empty experience. So I learned that it just isn't something that interests me. I like knowing someone and being at least friends, to me that goes a lot deeper.

~Lashra



iammachine -> RE: Hit and Run domination. Use the man then move on. Sound good? (10/26/2007 9:56:50 PM)

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What about kinky one night stands for femdoms? Out of the question completely?


Been there, done that, got the t-shirt.

Okay, maybe I don't have a t-shirt, but there's one in particular that I want.... (too bad I have to go to Houston to get it!)

-edited to add-

Just kink, no shakey shakey. :)



pixelslave -> RE: Hit and Run domination. Use the man then move on. Sound good? (10/27/2007 10:13:36 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

Men have been doing it to women for years


I feel compelled to interject something here.  It takes "Two to Tango".  In my experience, women have always been just as much into have one night stands as men as I discovered when I was playing the field in my mid to late 20's. 
 
Eventually, I decided I didn't find that type of sexual encounter to be very satisfying and looked more toward getting to know a woman before allowing myself to become sexually involved with her. 
 
So to me, the notion that "men have been doing it to women for years" is rather arcane in my opinion.  It implies that women are powerless and have no interests of their own in sexual encounters for the sole purpose of saisfying their own needs for sexual gratification as is clearly being voiced from the posts in this thread.
 
 - pixel
 
   Collared to Majik



Goddess20 -> RE: Hit and Run domination. Use the man then move on. Sound good? (10/27/2007 10:49:41 AM)

Why not?

Its no different to a 'vanilla' one night stand.

If you're attracted to someone sexually but have no interest in them in any other sense then whats the problem?



youngsubgeoff -> RE: Hit and Run domination. Use the man then move on. Sound good? (10/27/2007 10:59:35 AM)

Im gonna throw in my 0.02 here. Ive been dommed for one night by a woman. Afterwords, I never heard from her again. I never felt such a rush of hurt and rage in my life. I also felt foolish, for letting myslef trust anyone that far that I had only known for a few hours.

The only good thing it did was it made me re-think the way I treated groupies. I realized that I basically did the same thing to them, and they probably felt the same way I did.



DiannaVesta -> RE: Hit and Run domination. Use the man then move on. Sound good? (10/27/2007 11:04:25 AM)

Would do it, have done it and will do it again.

youngsubgeoff  this is the perfect of example of keeping it all in perspective. You shouldn’t get hurt over a flight of fancy…. I mean one night? It could be that you soared over the thrill then your ego was bruised because she moved on. It happens. Cherish the experience and pray for it to happen some more.



youngsubgeoff -> RE: Hit and Run domination. Use the man then move on. Sound good? (10/27/2007 11:06:25 AM)

I wanted something more. Not just a quick fuck.



RosesHaveThorns -> RE: Hit and Run domination. Use the man then move on. Sound good? (10/27/2007 11:09:07 AM)

I assume that the one night stands in question are just that, and the two realize that is the goal. Poor communication and leading someone on is not acceptable behavior with one night stands. But did her behavior suggest that she was open to the idea of a longer relationship?



youngsubgeoff -> RE: Hit and Run domination. Use the man then move on. Sound good? (10/27/2007 11:26:26 AM)

She did say she was looking for someone long term. She ended up giving me a wrong phone number, and never called me again. I think what hurts more is that I was led on and lied to, rather than just the one night stand thing. Definetly not something I will be doing again, though.



RosesHaveThorns -> RE: Hit and Run domination. Use the man then move on. Sound good? (10/27/2007 11:29:11 AM)

Then I would say she's a jerk. There is nothing wrong with a one-night stand, but don't lead anyone on is my opinion.



MsCfromMelbourne -> RE: Hit and Run domination. Use the man then move on. Sound good? (10/28/2007 4:37:51 AM)

I don't do casual sex at all, kinky or vanilla.  I couldn't think of anything worse than having some stranger crawling all over my private bits.  So, I probably have issues with physical intimacy :)

BUT I do respect the rights of other Dommes to have that kink and enjoy it wholeheartedly, as long as she obtains consent 

I don't approve if a Domme obtains consent by false pretences eg she lies that the guy means more to her than a screw.  Subs, especially the much younger and prettier ones, do get very hurt and disappointed.  

I broke the heart of a 21 year old quite recently and we didn't even sleep together!  Some subs just really get their hopes up.  Subs (male and female) seem more sensitive by nature than your usual vanilla guy who would just be grateful for the free leg-over.



cloudboy -> RE: Hit and Run domination. Use the man then move on. Sound good? (10/28/2007 4:57:26 AM)


"Hit and Run" usually implies a sorry victim lying in the street.....

Your observation about how malesubs feel is dead-on.



KaramelGoddess -> RE: Hit and Run domination. Use the man then move on. Sound good? (10/28/2007 8:53:01 AM)

I would do the one night stand thing...with the provision that both partners know and fully understand it is just play and for one night only.
 
Otherwise, both individuals wind up feeling used and set-up.
 
The idea of it is very arousing, but it's something I would have to work Myself up to and I would have to do quite a bit of looking to find someone ideal for it.  My country is a very small place! [8D]
 
~Kara



hardbodysub -> RE: Hit and Run domination. Use the man then move on. Sound good? (10/28/2007 4:19:05 PM)


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ORIGINAL: PrettyOHDomme

This is so funny because I just saw a guy at Barnes and Noble that I almost dragged out to my car.

How can you tell a man would be up for this sort of treatment?  The idea certainly has appeal...


How can you tell? If he's breathing.



PsyVamp -> RE: Hit and Run domination. Use the man then move on. Sound good? (10/28/2007 7:04:20 PM)

*heaves a rather large sigh*

I am going out on a limb here...   Of course it is not out of the question..sometimes I see, and I want... but I don't want the emotional connection.
Some people's "energy" hits me in a way that I just want the quick, down and dirty kinky night without knowing if he likes long walks on the beach.  (Oh, and this could be with or without sex, depends on the feeling)

*grumbles*  having actually said that, there will be a bunch of HNG's that will think I'll meet them in a hotel room for anonomous sex..NOT INTERESTED! 

How's that for a double standard?   Yes it happens to me, No I don't want to hear it from them.  I call "Domme"  (think playground rules, "not it").[sm=evil.gif]

Psy.. aka Lady Jag



PrettyOHDomme -> RE: Hit and Run domination. Use the man then move on. Sound good? (10/28/2007 7:42:15 PM)

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ORIGINAL: PsyVamp

How's that for a double standard? Yes it happens to me, No I don't want to hear it from them. I call "Domme" (think playground rules, "not it").


Lady Jag, I absolutely love that. I'm going to start calling "Domme" all the time now. [:D]



PsyVamp -> RE: Hit and Run domination. Use the man then move on. Sound good? (10/28/2007 8:36:51 PM)

PrettyOHDomme,
lol
Go right ahead... I find it useful and amusing when playing with my pet switch. ;)

Lady Jag



Wickad -> RE: Hit and Run domination. Use the man then move on. Sound good? (10/28/2007 10:49:17 PM)

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I seperate sex from play. 

So... have I had a one night stand? 

I have had lots of vanilla one night stands, and if I weren't in a long term relationship I would probably have more.  I enjoy not knowing the name of the person I'm fucking.  In many ways, I don't want to know there name, I don't want them to call, and I don't want to get to know them.  It's a simply case of mutual usery.

D/s orientated or BDSM - I've played with a 'mostly' stranger at a play party - once.  I thought it sucked.  I did not like that I did not know him and I did not like that my responsibility for him ended when the scene did.  I find D/s and BDSM to be very intimate acts and do not care to share that part of myself with strangers.  Casual sex, on the other hand, is just physical.

Wickad



nonneymouse -> RE: Hit and Run domination. Use the man then move on. Sound good? (10/29/2007 7:49:16 AM)

Why oh why don't Ladies think like this in England?   :(



Aubre -> RE: Hit and Run domination. Use the man then move on. Sound good? (10/29/2007 12:05:34 PM)

I get this vision of a Domme traveling, finding a new guy each night, dominating them in a hotel room - when she's done with them, putting a chastity device on them, leaving them tied up in the room with the "do not disturb" hanger on the door - she opens the trunk of her vehicle to reveal boxes and boxes of chastity devices, puts her stuff in - then heads off to the next town to do it all again the next night.



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