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ORIGINAL: kc692

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ORIGINAL: aidan

Oh...kay.

So how does this apply to those of us who aren't, ya know, callous blowhards with a little paunch? Not all young subs are jerks, and not all of us are looking exclusively for an older woman. But the things about experience and wisdom being attractive...Those can go for men as well as for women.

It's obviously not everyone's cuppa, but is there something inherently wrong with a younger submissive man being attracted to and seeking an older Dominant woman? Am I misreading the thread?

The whole "read'm and weep" tag at the end seems a little needlessly vindictive, too.

*goes to play Pokemon on his DS, thereby nullifying all statements he just made*

I apparently am coming to this thread very late, but as it looks like its been revived, I am stopping at this comment(#2) to make mine.

Aidan, if he nailed it, he nailed it for LotusSong.  Do not assume that speaks for all of us.  I have had younger and older subs, the age is not the defining factor, the maturity level is.

In your particular case especially, and in a few other younger males on these boards, if I were you I would not worry.  For those that prefer older only, there are as many of us, that when we find those rare gems, do not care what their age is.(Hell, good ones like you are hard enough to find, no matter what the age, smiles).  I enjoy your posts, and know many others do also, and would think that you would not have a hard time meeting people here.

edited to add:  saw the disclaimer later about the read em and weep statement.  Everything else I said I still think, smiles.

I also wanted to add not all of us are looking for sex in the dynamic, so experience levels there are irrelevant to some of us.

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ORIGINAL: TexasMaam

I'm 49 and often get approached by submales 20-35.  I never even truly consider them as being sincere.  It might not be fair, but there it is.  I don't even bother to read their emails or reply to their inquiries whether here at CM or other sites.

When I spend quality time with a submale outside of the BDSM session, I want to converse about politics, economics, literature and entertainment, music, and go to a few social events that I find of interest.

I just can't see spending any time with someone who can name the Spice Girls but who can't give Me any opinion of Eric Clapton's latest come back recording. 

Ditto movie stars, actors, entertainers:  I don't follow J Lo's life events and can't name a single male actor who's been around for any less time than Matt Damon - that's just about the youngest actor that I keep track of.  If the sub can't relate to the icons of My era, I probably can't relate to the icons of his era, either.

It's a charge to share the same interests in cuisine, current events, politics, music, art, business, economics, intelligent and meaningful discourse is a must for me.

I'm not saying that a young male sub cannot engage in meaningful dialogue about these things from his perspective, I'm just saying that I have no frame of reference for his mile markers, and he has no frame of reference for mine.

If that's selling a young sub short, so be it.

Give Me a man within 6 to 10 years of My own age, either direction.  Old dogs can, and do, learn new tricks!

I think a 'trophy sub' would probably bore Me to death.  ; )

That said, it is of importance to me that the sub be virile - having been previously  involved with an ED afflicited sub, it's been a joy to find a sub my own age who's rutting like a teenager all the time.  What a great mix!  Mental and spiritual maturity with physical and psychological exuberance and playfulness.....  Now THAT's a turn-on!

I love the new cadillac ad on TV:  "....the question is,  when you get in your car and turn it on, does it return the favor?".....lolol

"When you get the room and turn your sub on, does he return the favor?"

That sounds like a new Mantra, I think I'll keep it.

Thanks manthing, if you're reading!  Mmmmmuuuuaaaah!

TexasMaam

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ORIGINAL: youngsubgeoff

OK, Im gonna take a stand here, for myself and other young male subs. True, I dont make as much money as a middle aged man, but enough to get by week to week. Also, a younger sub is much easier to influence and train, while older ones may be more set in their ways.

It seems that younger subs are thought to be less useful around the house. In my case, not so! I can cook, clean, I have basic home repair and auto matenince skills. Im sure as well that many other young subs have similar, if not better, uses.

Another thing Ive often heard is that, especially with men, young subs are too agressive. Personally, I know that my anger, and everything that just makes me sick, goes into my music. Anger and agression are not bad things, if given the proper outlets.

Just my .02 

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

In many cultures, younger women traditionally are drawn to older men for a variety of reasons:

Firstly, it is believed that age usually equates with wisdom, something venerated in both eastern and oriental cultures. The view of beer bellies not being attractive is only so in a few cultures. In the Orient, the large belly is a sign of spiritual power. Ever see a Buddah with a six pack instrad of a large belly?

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

In many cultures, younger women traditionally are drawn to older men for a variety of reasons:

Firstly, it is believed that age usually equates with wisdom, something venerated in both eastern and oriental cultures. The view of beer bellies not being attractive is only so in a few cultures. In the Orient, the large belly is a sign of spiritual power. Ever see a Buddah with a six pack instrad of a large belly?

But where does this leave older subs without beer bellies? ...

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ORIGINAL: DianeB269
I can't see myself with a sub the same age or younger then my son and daughter.
Diane

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ORIGINAL: kc692

And sometimes there are ignorant young posters that try to unconvincingly astound the more mature members with their supposed self proclaimed intelligence by trying to use the entire extent of their meager vocabulary. 

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ORIGINAL: DianeB269
I can't see myself with a sub the same age or younger then my son and daughter.
Diane

And that is your choice. I just get a tad sick of seeing people my age get shit because we're thought of as inferior some how.

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what is it with girls having masters double their age? i

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ORIGINAL: subfever

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

In many cultures, younger women traditionally are drawn to older men for a variety of reasons:

Firstly, it is believed that age usually equates with wisdom, something venerated in both eastern and oriental cultures. The view of beer bellies not being attractive is only so in a few cultures. In the Orient, the large belly is a sign of spiritual power. Ever see a Buddah with a six pack instrad of a large belly?

But where does this leave older subs without beer bellies? ...

it leaves you with more American Dommes!! as they're not likely to follow oriental cultures very well

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ORIGINAL: aidan

I didn't take crazy pills, did I? Please tell me I'm not the only person who thinks the last two posts don't make any gorram sense?