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Mystique567 -> RE: Male Pro Doms, Is there any money in it? (10/28/2007 5:47:21 PM)

I have a friend who is a Pro Domme, she is also my play partner at times. It is her job when she is being paid for it, but when she is doing it for fun it is her passion.

I know that it is something I need, if I could find someone that could provide it without emotional entanglements until I find the one then it would be possible that I would pay for it.




erebus -> RE: Male Pro Doms, Is there any money in it? (10/28/2007 8:46:18 PM)

Ah, no.  Not to a het crowd.  As has been mentioned, there are more than enough men interested in doing it for free.




MrSwitch -> RE: Male Pro Doms, Is there any money in it? (10/28/2007 9:02:32 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Goddess20

I doubt he'd do it anyway, he doesn't have the time with a full time job and a family. And he's not interested in any part of BDSM.

But I thought I'd ask the question as you see a lot of FemProDommes but not many maleProDoms.



Ewww...! Who would pay someone money for doing something he's not even interested in?? How good could he be??

Geez, even when you love bdsm, it take a lot of focus and concentration and empathy to get it right.

MS




laurell3 -> RE: Male Pro Doms, Is there any money in it? (10/29/2007 1:47:02 AM)

I have a hard time imagining ever pay for sex (and don't harp on me that it's not necessarily sex, for me, it's sex regardless of intercourse) when I can get it for free.  On the other hand, paying someone to read my emails and look through the tons of profiles for me might be more feasible.




Goddess20 -> RE: Male Pro Doms, Is there any money in it? (10/29/2007 4:35:24 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: RosesHaveThorns

And since he's not into BDSM...Has he considered just becoming a stripper or something? I wonder if enough women hire those...



PMSL!

[sm=biggrin.gif]

If you saw my mate you'd see why Im laughing!

Did you ever see that episode of Friends on Pheobes hen party when they hire Danny Devito as a stripper, well thats the image that springs to mind!

Except I think Danny Devitos taller than my mate!




Dnomyar -> RE: Male Pro Doms, Is there any money in it? (10/29/2007 5:50:47 AM)

Tell him to go for it. There are a lot of old women over 35 that need him.




shootingstar67 -> RE: Male Pro Doms, Is there any money in it? (11/3/2007 7:58:59 AM)

I thought about hiring one to help me reach my goals. Not for sex. I haven't reached that point yet Dnomyar!




RumpusParable -> RE: Male Pro Doms, Is there any money in it? (11/3/2007 8:01:14 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Goddess20
He has no interest in it sexually and it would be purely to make money but I can't really see how it would.


Personally, based on this I wouldn't pay him if I was ever inclined to go to a pro-dom.  Not for the sexual lack of interest, I'm not looking for that anyways... But no interest in the acts other than for the cash?  Doesn't find topping/dom'ing fun and is interested in the scene, too?

Bleh, it'd be miserable for me and not worth my money.




MasterLDesade -> RE: Male Pro Doms, Is there any money in it? (11/3/2007 8:39:04 PM)

[sm=trident.gif]  Goddess20 most of your friends pondering have been answered and he will go off on his journey . I notice very little responses from Pro-Master's so in answer to yourself , i will give you my impression of " The Sex Industry " for a Master you are committed like an athlete to one goal and many will fail and fall and get stifled with frustration and let it go and be resined to loving their play  but still wanting that edge but circumstances have not allowed them to earn more than a sandwich diet and that i know all to well you don't find many Pro-Dom's who are fat , the energy they expended and the mind process's involved in 2 or more session's a day is equivalent to Jane bloody Fonda's workout and some , mentally especially . It's a niche market and being so your focal point is a pin head in a barrel and that focal point is whom you choose to secure your apprenticeship from , liken it to Tattooing you seek the best artist and present yourself and your skills and arbor your case to be taught more and your sincerity about your choice , if he or her takes you under their wing and you are offered a position you know your training will be of the caliber of the Teacher . During your Apprenticeship your hours are limited and so is equally the wage you receive , this is the sandwich years and i mean years , this sorts those that want to with every fiber of their being and those that will fall . Do not expect a pay rise in the entire time you are indentured , that will come in abundance at the end of your Apprenticeship if you study and  " Listen " number one the second most important thing , shut your mouth and present no ideas you " Think " is going to make a round wheel better , many times you are tempted to only to find out month's or year's later it was best not to as now when shown all the pieces , it makes perfect sense to you , not all keys are shown at one time or they become befuddled in the students mind .
Do expect to clean toilets , shower's , towels , toy's , equipment and mop floor's etc. all task's put before you and you had better execute them with due diligence or the lesson shall be repeated for how can one trust you with another's life if you cannot even simply sweep the floor to a standard expected of one ? . Think about it . Expect you Ego to learn Humility to be put in place every time the Hairy Little Bugger gets out of it's cage and to be done in such a way you feel like a total fucken idiot flushed with your embarrassment and dealt to you in a learning and loving way which makes it sometimes a big hairy fur ball you have to swallow like it or not .
Once the floor and toilet's are done and you are invited to pick up The Weapon's Of Mass Seduction and all the time you were cleaning floors you had better have been watching out the corner of your eye at the techniques your Teacher has been using and demonstrate same under tuition . Sandbags become your mark and Tennis Elbow your friend after the lesson along with deep heat cream .
Year's will pass your time on the floor increases and knowledge of execution , when and only when your Teacher deems you ready will you finish your Apprenticeship with whom taught you , but your apprenticeship is life long you will always learn but you will take with you the Basic Fundamentals of the Method in which you have been taught and in my learning that is Traditional Method Training and you have to be selected by those in the " Game " to be deemed worthy enough to carry the Secrets and keep them so , for if people of uncaring ego acquire knowledge that in the wrong hand's is denigrated and bastardized a whole lot of people get the wrong start to B.D.S.M and it's six principles in the letter's  above  create  a huge amount of damaged people , people damaged by those whom abuse power and Duty Of Care to sub/slave folks M/F in all parts of the globe .
 
                                  " The Aspect May Change But Never The Essence "
 
There is much much more but in brief overview of my Method Of Training not others this i hope satisfies some of your question .
                                                              Regards
                                                                            MasterLDeSade
                                               
 
 




MasterLDesade -> RE: Male Pro Doms, Is there any money in it? (11/6/2007 7:15:40 PM)

Interesting silence on the Male Po-Domm side of things in this post , are there any other's out there on this site ? Are there any other men who earn their daily bread from B.D.S.M ? whom would like to share their opinion's .
                                       Regards
                                                     MasterLDeSade
                                                       
 




Lordandmaster -> RE: Male Pro Doms, Is there any money in it? (11/6/2007 7:53:37 PM)

Anyone who wants to find out whether male doms can earn money should make a deposit to my Paypal account.




MystressDream -> RE: Male Pro Doms, Is there any money in it? (11/6/2007 10:36:09 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Tell him to go for it. There are a lot of old women over 35 that need him.


<cough, choke>  "old women over 35"???   ROFL
 
My dear.... Men will pay for almost anything... most women want more than a quick fix for their needs.
 
And.... 35 is only old if you are a teenager or barely over 21.

You, are 60.... does that make you ancient??   LOL




laurell3 -> RE: Male Pro Doms, Is there any money in it? (11/6/2007 10:45:08 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Tell him to go for it. There are a lot of old women over 35 that need him.


You're giving way too much credit to many to be that discrerning, trust me.




SottoVoce -> RE: Male Pro Doms, Is there any money in it? (11/7/2007 1:34:21 AM)

Give the gift of what I do for a woman for money?

How do you simulate the growing together that takes place, the opening of paths as yet unseen and how do you pay for the devotion that makes me think and assess you every day?

Not all men will pay for anything- I won't even accept a sub I find less than appropriate- I'd never, ever pay for her use. I live where prostitution is legal and I don't go, d/s prostitution or vanilla, it 's boring.

I don't think I would-

No, I am certain of it, I'd not want to take money for it- that is not the dynamic that would get me to give my best efforts and care.

No, I feed off of her need...

That said, I don't believe the market is there- How did a sub friend of mine put it?

So many doms, so lilttle time...




Tigrita -> RE: Male Pro Doms, Is there any money in it? (11/7/2007 4:50:56 PM)

There are about 20 times more male dom profiles on here than female sub profiles (I searched and counted), so why would a female sub pay for it?  I think in general (not applying to everyone) that female subs tend to want more emotional connection than male subs, so wouldn't be as likely to seek a stranger and pay for it.  JMO




Leonardo -> RE: Male Pro Doms, Is there any money in it? (11/8/2007 9:37:02 AM)

Male Pro-Top? Hmmm... 

a Gigalo with a whip, perhaps?




Wyrd -> RE: Male Pro Doms, Is there any money in it? (11/8/2007 9:57:26 AM)

Most of the "pro" whatevers I have seen in my local area are actually submissive outside of the job, so yeah I can see the real argument big time.  I have had a couple of offers over the years to have me top someone for money, but I have declined for various reasons.  I doubt anyone could make a living as a straight male pro here, maybe in NY or LA, bigger cities will have a larger client base.




SteelofUtah -> RE: Male Pro Doms, Is there any money in it? (11/9/2007 10:49:43 PM)

**With Cane and Goldfish Platforms**

It seems to me a Man who gets Paid Money to throw a smackdown on a girl is called a Pimp and last I heard the Money is good but the hoe's is crazy.

Look everyone I know in the Pro Field deals primarily with Men, I can only assume because they are the only ones willing to pay for it. Yes, yes,yes,yes I know everyone here has a second cousin that knows a girl who got a Giggalo and paid $500.00 and says it was the best night of her life. I'm not saying that women don't pay for it what I am saying is finding a large enough clientelle basis to actually make it pay would be more than just a little difficult.

By the way to the OP Male Pro Dom implies that he is both Professional and a Dom and from what you said he is neither and would suffer greatly from buyers remorse. Considering the Majority or Pro activities (As stated by three Simi-Pro's I know) consist of Physical beatings and bondage. Would you want a guy with no experienece just looking for the money doing that to anyone on the planet?

Not a matter of True Dominance or anything simple Common Sense, If you don't know anything about using a whip I ain't gunna let you use one on me.

As Always

Steel




fsub4use -> RE: Male Pro Doms, Is there any money in it? (11/9/2007 11:31:18 PM)

Thank You Mystress Dream

i nearly choked on the "over 35" comment too...  i am 42, look like i am in my 30s and have NO PROBLEM getting young men.... My typically man is mid 20s and i am fat, opinionated and not particularly pretty.... What i am, though, is passionate, funny, smart, and appreciative.... i am happy to have all the sweet younger men that life throws at me....

i remember meeting a gay man once who looooooved being a top so much, and was so in tune with me, that i wanted to give Him my life, my belongings, my sexuality if He would just top me once a week.... Luckily, He had enough scruples to say no, would spank me good for bothering Him (*wink), and send me on my way.

ahhhhhh... thank goodness i found straight men now and well, *blushes, He is just a happy memory.... but pay for it?  come on....




DaddyNprincess -> RE: Male Pro Doms, Is there any money in it? (11/18/2007 9:27:58 AM)

I have been doing pro-dom work for the last couple of years. It came about when I met a 30 ish yr old single gay male. He was looking for a non-sexual, boot stomping, sock licking scene with heavy verbal humiliation focasing on him being gay. A fag bash if you will. He prefered a Pro-cliant power-exchange, with a battered buddy role play. I enjoyed it just becouse of the violence level and learning aspects that all bdsm is not sexual. Well after a few sessions he wanted to buy me gifts of apprication. Having another guy buy me gifts made me a bit uncomfortable, so I had my wife make out a wish list on amazon. It has worked out great over the last couple of years and have used it for other submissives as well. This way my wife is compinsated for the time I am away, and encourages as well as schedules me to play.  My brother (whose 10 yrs younger and better looking)  has even helped join in. Turns out the idea of being topped by 2 real life brothers is in high demand, and his wife is now making out her own amazon list.




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