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MsIncognito -> RE: Choice as a method of control (8/17/2005 6:46:32 AM)
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I totally agree. To me phrasing commands as requests reads as not only disingenuous but tells me the Top may not be all that secure in his position. If something isn't really an option don't insult my intelligence by trying to trick me into doing it because I think I have an option. I much prefer to just be told what to do - it's honest and true to the dynamic.
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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster
I don't do this and frankly find it a little manipulative.
I don't like false questions, at least not between adults--in other words, questions to which the speaker already knows the answer, or questions that express something else in a phoney question form. They're a great way not to communicate, and can be used in passive-aggressive and otherwise deceptive ways.
I suppose you could say that "Will you go get my cell phone from the car?" is a true question, because, not possessing a crystal ball, you can't say you really know the answer to the question. But I don't think that's a legitimate response, since you certainly expect her to do your bidding. You've admitted that you say it INSTEAD of just ordering her to do it, so what you're really doing is ordering her to do it.
So just order her to do it.
Lam
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ORIGINAL: anopheles
If I want my sub to go out to the car and get my cell phone that I forgot, as opposed to saying, "Go get my cell phone from the car," I say, "Will you go get your cell phone from the car?"
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