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ORIGINAL: MasterShibari

The last two years has been a remarkable period for me in terms of my growth and understanding of the lifestyle.  This year I have hit the books and sites, studying hard to learn all I could of BDSM and the scene.   I have taken my first steps towards becoming active in my local community, befriending many local life stylists, sharing with them, and most importantly learning from them.  I have become active on the forums here, and have established regular correspondence with many interesting people here.  Finally, and perhaps most importantly, I have had ample opportunities to experiment and play within the last year, both within established vanilla relationships and through play partners and submissives.

What the last two years have taught me is simply this; I am only now beginning to truly grasp how much I do not know.

That said, I am proud of the hard work (and fun play) that I have committed myself to in the last two years.  This has led to more confidence, both in myself, and in my ability to tell others about my experiences and lack of experiences in BDSM.  Not just other life stylists, but vanillas as well.

Which leads me to the actual point of this post.  I am absolutely shocked about how many of my female friends are interested in experimenting with BDSM.  I knew the ones who had experience, but I cannot tell you how many times even in this last month a girl who I knew or have just met turns out to be kink friendly.

I’m one of those guys whose friends are primarily female.  I move into a town, and make one male friend, who is my best friend.  All my other friends tend to be women.  I’m not doing it intentionally, but somehow most of these women are more than open to the idea of experimenting with BDSM, have fantasized about it, and are merely looking for someone with a little experience to play those fantasies out.  I almost feel at this point that these girls are jumping out of the woodwork.

So now finally to the actual question:  Was anyone else surprised by the number of people they encountered who were kink friendly, though inexperienced, once they started to become more active and more confident in their lifestyle?  Or is it just the fact that I live so close to San Francisco, and its bleeding over?
M. Shibari

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ORIGINAL: Phoenix2raven

With out knowing if they are kink friendly or aware I just kinda know, "it's sort of like gaydar."
I would call it BDSMdar lol.