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Najakcharmer -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (11/1/2007 10:43:03 AM)
I dunno. What I want is an intelligent, interesting, competent, stable and self-aware partner who is genuinely submissive and interested in obeying and pleasing his dominant. He should not be submissive for dysfunctional reasons, eg, because he is unwilling to take responsibility for himself or his own life, but because it is what he genuinely wants and what makes him happy. Selfish do-me "subs" are Right Out. That really wouldn't be such a tall order, except that I'm picky about a few other things - he absolutely has to be have a strong personal interest (and preferably a lot of experience) in being heavily involved in Ren Faire, SCA, LARP and/or tabletop gaming, at least one of the above. Otherwise we won't be compatible and won't have a lot to talk about.

ineedotk -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (11/4/2007 8:00:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RaynaSub quote: ORIGINAL: Petronius Lots of people, Dom and sub both, have their dungeons located in NeverNeverLand. I agree with Petronius on this one. Reality is not what many people seek around here. Thank you, RaynaSub. And that is why so many on here, Domme or sub, will never find what they are looking for.

ineedotk -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (11/4/2007 8:03:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne quote: ORIGINAL: InnocentYoungSub I'm ugly, I'm fat, i'm short, I don't have very much money at all, no car... But I got high hopes. ;) LOL. Someday I'll be hot shit...someday. Somewhere on the planet is a short, chubby, rather plain but very economical Domina who likes public transport and She will rock your world. You two will be crazy about eachother. There's someone for everyone :) MsCfromMelbourne, I love your attitude of hope and positiveness. It's so refreshing.

ineedotk -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (11/4/2007 8:07:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RaynaSub I agree, but technically there is no rule book stating that people can't create new profiles to state their opinions. It may not be what you would do, but we are all free to do as we like on here. We are free to do good things, bad things, and things others may not agree with. It does not bother me, if someone wants to create a new profile every day to state a new opinion. It is their right and not much of my concern. Thank you, RaynaSub, for recognizing people's freedoms on here, and just being plain old realistic.

Bloodrose88 -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (11/4/2007 9:37:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle They seek a guy who’s handsome, healthy and successful in vanilla life, yet is absolutely submissive behind closed doors. He will dedicate his body, mind and soul to her pleasure, comfort and happiness and make absolutely no demands, have no expectations, no specific desires of his own. Yet he’s not a doormat. He’s strong, secure in himself, intelligent and has a sense of humor, yet is not a SAM and he knows his place at her feet. And he never "tops from the bottom." He’s able and eager to support her in the lifestyle to which she is or wishes to become accustomed. He has pictures on his profile, or sends them in his first letter, even though many of them don’t. He writes a detailed, non copy/pasted letter of introduction to each domina he contacts, even though most of them never respond. He never mentions what his kinks are in this letter, because he knows it’s “all about her” even though he has no clue as to what hers are from her profile. Where he finds the time to do this while being successful and driven in his business life, I don’t know. Hmm, well, if I were to change the [he] to [she].... I am relatively attractive, healthy and definitely on my way to success in life. I am definitely submissive... For the right Domme, I would dedicate my soul, body and mind. She would always come first. And yet I am no doormat. I am strong, secure in myself, intelligent, with a definite sense of humor. I am not a SAM; I know my place. I have several pictures in my profile. I always write custom letters, telling a potential Domme about myself and commenting on things I found interesting in her profile. I don't tell her my kinks...if she wants to know, she will ask. OMG! I am the perfect submissive, and I didn't even realize it until this point! Hurrah for me! Btw, I will give you lessons if you want :)

MissAndry -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (11/5/2007 3:07:26 AM)
I know what Im looking for. I also have faith that Im strong enough in myself, that even if what I want does not exist, I will at least have the pleasure of knowing I have never settled for anything less than what I really wanted. Having found what I wanted, I can tell you that it does exist. Personally Im pleased and not bitter about anything :)

FullfigRIMaam -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (11/5/2007 9:50:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissAndry I know what I'm looking for. I also have faith that Im strong enough in myself, that even if what I want does not exist, I will at least have the pleasure of knowing I have never settled for anything less than what I really wanted. My sentiments exactly! Sometimes I'm not sure whether we dominas are being told to get real, or to take the first option available no matter how unpalatable. M

MissyRane -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (11/5/2007 12:32:20 PM)
just in case you're wondering then I'm the girl everybody's been looking for and the ones who don't want me simply have a bad taste! but anyhow that's just my opinion[:D] so who's the lucky guy everybody's looking for? come on don't be shy, stand up! staaand up! ..i am so full of shit..my bad

ineedotk -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (11/6/2007 12:17:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bloodrose88 quote: ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle They seek a guy who’s handsome, healthy and successful in vanilla life, yet is absolutely submissive behind closed doors. He will dedicate his body, mind and soul to her pleasure, comfort and happiness and make absolutely no demands, have no expectations, no specific desires of his own. Yet he’s not a doormat. He’s strong, secure in himself, intelligent and has a sense of humor, yet is not a SAM and he knows his place at her feet. And he never "tops from the bottom." He’s able and eager to support her in the lifestyle to which she is or wishes to become accustomed. He has pictures on his profile, or sends them in his first letter, even though many of them don’t. He writes a detailed, non copy/pasted letter of introduction to each domina he contacts, even though most of them never respond. He never mentions what his kinks are in this letter, because he knows it’s “all about her” even though he has no clue as to what hers are from her profile. Where he finds the time to do this while being successful and driven in his business life, I don’t know. Hmm, well, if I were to change the [he] to [she].... I am relatively attractive, healthy and definitely on my way to success in life. I am definitely submissive... For the right Domme, I would dedicate my soul, body and mind. She would always come first. And yet I am no doormat. I am strong, secure in myself, intelligent, with a definite sense of humor. I am not a SAM; I know my place. I have several pictures in my profile. I always write custom letters, telling a potential Domme about myself and commenting on things I found interesting in her profile. I don't tell her my kinks...if she wants to know, she will ask. OMG! I am the perfect submissive, and I didn't even realize it until this point! Hurrah for me! Btw, I will give you lessons if you want :) I've seen this term used before. What is a "SAM"?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (11/6/2007 6:47:05 AM)
Smart Assed Masochist.

HarryVanWinkle -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (11/6/2007 6:50:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ineedotk I've seen this term used before. What is a "SAM"? <<<<<<<< SAM= Smart Assed Masochist. In the dictionary you'll see that picture over there beside the term.

FullfigRIMaam -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (11/6/2007 8:50:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissyRane just in case you're wondering then I'm the girl everybody's been looking for and the ones who don't want me simply have a bad taste! but anyhow that's just my opinion[:D] so who's the lucky guy everybody's looking for? come on don't be shy, stand up! staaand up! ..i am so full of shit..my bad Ok, Ok, waves hands to direct the perfect subs to her... We'll work out the sex part later (since I'm not bi or lesbian unfortunately) I guess. [:D] quote: HarryVanWinkle <<<<<<<< SAM= Smart Assed Masochist. In the dictionary you'll see that picture over there beside the term. So that was your plan all along! Should have known it. [:'(] M

azjojoba -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (11/8/2007 1:54:55 PM)
I think most of the women who post on collarme are looking for submissive husbands that have good incomes, and who can support them. They are quite traditional except that they want to be the boss of the house -- and when you think about it, that's nothing unusual except for the spankings. Most women are the boss anyway. It's not easy finding a mistress who is into NSA, but I have found a few at Craigslist. It takes some work though.

MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (11/8/2007 3:37:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: azjojoba I think most of the women who post on collarme are looking for submissive husbands that have good incomes, and who can support them. They are quite traditional except that they want to be the boss of the house -- and when you think about it, that's nothing unusual except for the spankings. Most women are the boss anyway. It's not easy finding a mistress who is into NSA, but I have found a few at Craigslist. It takes some work though. We're not all looking for a sub as a husband. We're just not looking for someone ELSE'S husband as a sub.

TNstepsout -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (11/8/2007 4:33:30 PM)
Not looking for a husband and not looking for someone to support me. I do seek someone who is financially stable. At my age, barring unusual circumstances, a man should be. (women should be too-btw) IMO- if he's not, it's a red flag. I don't know about the women you talk to but he women on this forum all seem to be pretty independent.

hammerthrower -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (11/8/2007 4:56:30 PM)
Jesus Christ. A man "should be" financically stable? Are you reading from the same outdated, dusty rulebook that also says women "should" do the dishes and change all the diapers? Really, the question is: what is your definition of "financially stable?' In my opinion, financially stable means you can pay the bills and survive. What women really want is a man who can pay his bills AND her bills. She wants to live comfortably, which is as much a sin as a man wanting to live comfortably--with a woman who cooks and cleans and blah blah blah. Im not saying I want that, but if you're going to set certain limits for the opposite sex, be prepared to accept some. Oh what? Only women are allowed to set standards? If a man sets a standard it's sexist? Oh, okay... I think most women would pursue a "successful" or "rich" man over a man who's merely "financially stable" any day. It's a ruse.

hammerthrower -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (11/8/2007 5:02:32 PM)
Wow. I appreciate the fact that you took Statistics 101, but your number are truly baseless. It's so futile to pursue this approach. But I'll tell you what: Take your little calculator, and go browse the posts for dominant women. Then do the same for submissive men. Take note of the disparities. Then, crunch us some numbers about the ratios of available dominant women to available submissive men. Post those for us, with your analyses. No one's ever really done a formal study on this, so it may shed some light on why the topic is so bitterly fought over, and why there's so much resentment in the community over this. I'm sure your well-performed study will reveal that the women can afford to be picky: they are assuming that, if there's SO many available men, why not wait for the best to rise to the top. That vein of thought tends to prove that they are all looking for the same guy. See what you can come up with.

MystressDream -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (11/8/2007 7:05:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hammerthrower Wow. I appreciate the fact that you took Statistics 101, but your number are truly baseless. It's so futile to pursue this approach. But I'll tell you what: Take your little calculator, and go browse the posts for dominant women. Then do the same for submissive men. Take note of the disparities. Then, crunch us some numbers about the ratios of available dominant women to available submissive men. Post those for us, with your analyses. No one's ever really done a formal study on this, so it may shed some light on why the topic is so bitterly fought over, and why there's so much resentment in the community over this. I'm sure your well-performed study will reveal that the women can afford to be picky: they are assuming that, if there's SO many available men, why not wait for the best to rise to the top. That vein of thought tends to prove that they are all looking for the same guy. See what you can come up with. Just a question... Are you having a really BAD day? I have been looking in on several threads and you seem to be going from one to the other with very angry, hostile posts. If, in fact, you are actually thinking about a relationship with anyone on here... even it it is just a sexual one (as one of your threads indicates), do you really want to burn this many bridges? If you do, that's your perogative..... and you have every right to disagree with ANY post. But, as I said, the hostility is a bit overdone. Just something to think about...

FullfigRIMaam -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (11/8/2007 9:27:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: azjojoba I think most of the women who post on collarme are looking for submissive husbands that have good incomes, and who can support them. They are quite traditional except that they want to be the boss of the house -- and when you think about it, that's nothing unusual except for the spankings. Most women are the boss anyway. It's not easy finding a mistress who is into NSA, but I have found a few at Craigslist. It takes some work though. So your issue is not so much that we are more traditional than kinky, but that you can't find one kinky enough to forego the support since you already have a domina you're supporting at home. quote: OK, now for the bad news. I am married and have to keep all of this discreet. If that's OK with you then we have something to talk about. Being a submissive is a need of mine that can't be satisfied within the confines of my present relationship. I do want to find someone for more than just a one timer, but of course we must keep our relationship private and discreet. I see. I don't think you hail from a house from which you can throw stones, but I could be wrong. [sm=rolleyes.gif] M

Honsoku -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (11/8/2007 10:30:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle They seek a guy who’s handsome, healthy and successful in vanilla life, yet is absolutely submissive behind closed doors. He will dedicate his body, mind and soul to her pleasure, comfort and happiness and make absolutely no demands, have no expectations, no specific desires of his own. Yet he’s not a doormat. He’s strong, secure in himself, intelligent and has a sense of humor, yet is not a SAM and he knows his place at her feet. And he never "tops from the bottom." He’s able and eager to support her in the lifestyle to which she is or wishes to become accustomed. He has pictures on his profile, or sends them in his first letter, even though many of them don’t. He writes a detailed, non copy/pasted letter of introduction to each domina he contacts, even though most of them never respond. He never mentions what his kinks are in this letter, because he knows it’s “all about her” even though he has no clue as to what hers are from her profile. Where he finds the time to do this while being successful and driven in his business life, I don’t know. Can I get this in a female model? Honsoku

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