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MsCfromMelbourne -> RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. (10/29/2007 2:27:13 AM)
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ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle
Having read hundreds of profiles belonging to dominant women here, it seems like half of them have been copied and pasted from one another.
They seek a guy who’s handsome, healthy and successful in vanilla life, yet is absolutely submissive behind closed doors.
He will dedicate his body, mind and soul to her pleasure, comfort and happiness and make absolutely no demands, have no expectations, no specific desires of his own. Yet he’s not a doormat.
He’s strong, secure in himself, intelligent and has a sense of humor, yet is not a SAM and he knows his place at her feet. And he never "tops from the bottom."
He’s able and eager to support her in the lifestyle to which she is or wishes to become accustomed. He has pictures on his profile, or sends them in his first letter, even though many of them don’t. He writes a detailed, non copy/pasted letter of introduction to each domina he contacts, even though most of them never respond. He never mentions what his kinks are in this letter, because he knows it’s “all about her” even though he has no clue as to what hers are from her profile. Where he finds the time to do this while being successful and driven in his business life, I don’t know.
I hate to be the one to tell you this, Ladies, but of all the submissive men I know, only one even comes close to this. And he’s already taken.
I wasn't going to buy into this thread because it only encourages more Domme-baiting, which is a very boring (although recognised) kink.
However, I have a different POV.
I think if you asked, almost every Domme in a D/s relationship who loves her male submissive will tell you that her submissive fits the above description perfectly!
So there's not only one perfect malesub; there must be millions :) But how can this be? Because beauty is in the eye of the beholder and love is blind? Yes to some extent. And becuase every requirement in the above parody is a subjective and relative criteria
Take "successful" for example. If I was a Domme living on welfare in a trailer park (which I might be - you don't know when you email me, do you?) and the potential sub holds down a steady job at Walmart, I would be mightily impressed how successful he is (compared to me). Its all relative.
Handsome? If I think the sub is better looking than me, then he is hot stuff in my subjective taste. [Aside: I swear all my subs over the years have been absolutely gorgeous. Yet my family have called them "creepy old men", "weirdos" and "totally butt-ugly". Love is blind.......]
And the interesting part is that if a sub is not, say, very handsome but he is very successful (in whatever field interests him) or very funny or very submissive, he is still in with a chance to win the Domme. Qualities can be traded off against one another. A Domme might give a shopping list of qualities she finds attractive, but the sub only needs to "sell" himself against enough criteria for the Domme to think she has got herself a pretty darn good catch.
Everyone - male or female, Dominant or submissive - wants to be proud of their partner and feel lucky to be with him or her.
No-one is going to advertise the Real Truth: that you don't have to be perfect, you just have to be perfect for the very imperfect me :)
[Edited to add a disclaimer - by the way, MY current sub IS handsome, healthy, successful, truly submissive, alpha outdoors and totally obedient indoors, dedicated to making me happy and doesn't push his own kinks, super intelligent, very witty, a good provider and never tops from the bottom...no, REALLY! [:D]]
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