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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord

What do you want to know that isn't given in the first response?

The Master sets it up.  That's the basic, general principle.  From there, it just gets more case-specific.  Some M/s relationships, the Master directs his slave on how to spend the money.  In others, the money all flows to the Master's acounts directly, where he spends it.  The Master sees the bills paid- whether it's done by hand, through a hired agent, or taken care of by the slave.  The Master makes all the decisions on finicial matters, though, in many cases, a slave with considerable finicial knowledge may be consulted for her input on things.  ("considerable" means relative to the Master's knowledge.  If they both hardly know enough to get by, then hers is considerable compared to his, so they are likely to work together to get it done.)

Sometimes, one partner works.  Could be the Master or slave.  Sometimes, both do.  I guess there are probably cases in which neither do.

It's hard to guess exactly what you want to know beyond this.  Seems pretty obvious, to be honest.

Bottom line is that it's all the Master's decision and responsibility.  If the Master choses to have the slave take care of a portion, or all, of it.. that's his option.  (Although, having a "Master" giving the decision making over to the slave would seem to suggest more of a D/s relationship.)

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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord

Do you make the final decisions on how his money will be spent?

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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord

I suppose, to me, being a Master basically means controlling the situation, which means making the decisions, right?  Still, making the decision to let someone else make a decision.. that's what a slave does, isn't it?  The initial decision to let somone else make the rest is called "consent".

To some degree or another, you're right.. if it's any different from, say, a slave deciding what's for dinner.  If the Master says, "I want [something]" for dinner, then makes it.. that's his decision.  If he says, "Make me dinner", but doesn't leave the slave any kind of dinner to make.. then she decides what he eats, doesn't she?

Which, I don't think there's anything wrong with that sort of thing.. and I'm not going to judge your case, because, well, I just don't like judging people very much.  Concepts and ideas, though.. those are different to me, and I think the idea of a situation like the one I described above, where the "Master" agrees to submit to the decisions of the slave, is.. well, that just isn't what I think of as "M/s".  The larger those decisions are (such as if the couple will buy a new house being decided by the slave compared to if they'll have ham or turkey that night), the more it strikes me as deviating from M/s.

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ORIGINAL: susie

I cannot imagine a decision such as, shall we buy a new house, ever being decided by just one person in a relationship, whether they are slave or Master. If you think things like that happen they I guess you have never been in that position. In our case it would be a joint decision as it was when we bought this house. I viewed 50 or so houses and short listed those that I thought were suitable. He viewed those on the short list and we decided which one would suit us best. As for the finances, yes that was left to me because as a Finance Director it makes sense for me to do that.

If I was an interior designer, would you think it unmasterly for him to give me the responsibilty for decorating the house? If I were a trained mechanic would you think  it unmasterly for him to give me responsibilty for servicing our cars?

At the end of the day, He has made the decision on how much responsibility he has handed over and he can change that decision any time he likes.

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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord

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ORIGINAL: susie

I cannot imagine a decision such as, shall we buy a new house, ever being decided by just one person in a relationship, whether they are slave or Master. If you think things like that happen they I guess you have never been in that position. In our case it would be a joint decision as it was when we bought this house. I viewed 50 or so houses and short listed those that I thought were suitable. He viewed those on the short list and we decided which one would suit us best. As for the finances, yes that was left to me because as a Finance Director it makes sense for me to do that.

If I was an interior designer, would you think it unmasterly for him to give me the responsibilty for decorating the house? If I were a trained mechanic would you think  it unmasterly for him to give me responsibilty for servicing our cars?

At the end of the day, He has made the decision on how much responsibility he has handed over and he can change that decision any time he likes.

You keep assuming that I've never been in postions, because, if I had, I would agree with you.  Right?

Rather, it's my position that in the "ideal" M/s relationship, the Master makes the decides what the slave will do.  If he decides that she is to make decisions, then he's providing consent to her decision; consent to another's decisions is control, correct?

My point simply is that, the more a "Master" consents to be controlled by the decisions of his slave, the more it deviates from what I see as the M/s dynamic.

I'm trying to avoid commenting on your situation.  I do not know it nor would I care to pass judgement on it if I did.  However it works for you is fine.  These are just my ideas about M/s.

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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord
the more a "Master" consents to be controlled by the decisions of his slave, the more it deviates from what I see as the M/s dynamic

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ORIGINAL: Phoenixandnika

We sat down as a couple and made a realistic budge. We both contribute to a checking account, from there I am expected to deligate the funds as we agreed. If changes are made to our budget he lets me know and I adjust how I deligate the money as required. I will admit though it isn't always easy to stick to a budget but we both try. ~laughs~
 
In the end it is what handled how he wants it handled and what works best for our household to make sure us and our UMs are taken care of.
 
 
 
Blessed Be,
Nika