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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord
the more a "Master" consents to be controlled by the decisions of his slave, the more it deviates from what I see as the M/s dynamic

Just wanted to add a thought here..........a "master" doesn't have to "be controlled by the decisions of his slave."  I know mine sure isn't.  As Susie pointed out about looking at all the houses and narrowing them down to a shortlist, a master can very much benefit from such decisions his slave has made.  He is in control of deciding how much decision-making power she has.  She uses her good decision-making skills for his benefit by doing alot of legwork that he chooses not to do.  Then, when the final decision needs to be made, he comes in and has final say and decision-making power.  That's how it works for Master and I. 

Sure, He could insist on never letting me make a decision and He could spend all His time making all of them.  That wasn't what He sought in having a slave.  He wants someone with a brain whom He can trust to use it.  He tells me what decisions I am responsible for and expects me to make good ones.  I do and that, thereby, saves Him alot of time doing things.  It doesn't make Him one iota less "masterly" to have a smart, decision-making slave because I still operate well within the parameters He Himself has established.  Just a different perspective...............luci

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ORIGINAL: bbwsubnnorcal
As a Dom once told me, "There is being in control, and then there is being a "Micro-managing anal retentive control freak. Just as there is difference between being a Dominant and being a domineering ass-hat."

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ORIGINAL: ruri
I am capable of submitting and handling my own life thank you very much. Not that other subs here aren't, but that's what I'd say to any Dom who suggested handling my finances

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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

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ORIGINAL: ruri
I am capable of submitting and handling my own life thank you very much. Not that other subs here aren't, but that's what I'd say to any Dom who suggested handling my finances

If that's what you insist upon and feel you need, you have every right to look for that in a dom.  I'm very capable of handling my own life and finances as well but I enjoy bringing home a paycheck that's nearly as much as Master's, handing it to Him, and knowing that He's going to use it as He sees fit.  The best part of that is knowing that I can trust Him to not squander it and that He'll oversee my contribution to our household better than I would have.  Not that I'm a money-waster or one to go in debt - I'm absolutely not - but He just keeps a better handle on it that I would.  We each have our strengths and that just happens to be one of His.  Plus, it reinforces His ownership and control of me for me to have to ask for money to spend rather than just being able to spend whatever and whenever I choose.  He's very generous and I never go without needs, but being required to ask is just part of how it works around here[;)]...............luci

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ORIGINAL: winterlight
ok, this freaks me out. I know of cases where she the sub/slave hands over the money and He squanders it. He invests it and it is gone

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If the realationship goes south I am not kicked out to the streets penniless

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There are too many variables in life...

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ORIGINAL: ruri
If it makes you feel more owned, and he likes having that control, then go with it

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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

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ORIGINAL: ruri
If it makes you feel more owned, and he likes having that control, then go with it

I'm not sure I'd say "more owned."  That's kind of like saying "a little bit pregnant."  One either IS owned or ISN'T, I suppose.  It's not that it makes me feel "more" owned, but it certainly reinforces the ownership that is in place.  Just one of many things that reminds me daily who is really in control[:)]................luci

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just friday i received a letter from my Master along with 1000 euros,

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ORIGINAL: unsureslave
what about a Master taking care of  His slave?  i have only known my Master for a bit over 2 weeks now and will start training in mid-november...   in my daily emails i had mentioned i was worried about a few of my bills because my business has been slow and i am still waiting for several clients to pay me.   just friday i received a letter from my Master along with 1000 euros, and i must admit i was rather shocked.  i certainly didnt ask for it and it was about 3x the amount i needed.  He said He was taking care of His property and did not want me to be distracted or worried about My bills during training.   i'm just curious if this is also common for M/s relationships?

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ORIGINAL: ruri

I would rather keep our finances seperate - I insist. I am capable of submitting and handling my own life thank you very much. Not that other subs here aren't, but that's what I'd say to any Dom who suggested handling my finances.